Narcissists** want what they can’t have – therefore they’re always after the Savants*.

the Savants* have a very clear idea of who they are, what they want, and what they don’t want. This, to a narcissist with intimacy issues and a commitment phobia, is a safe zone. As they chase you for what they know they can’t have, they’ll feel like they are the more willing-to-bond partner in the relationship, and therefore, they can blame their target for “having intimacy issues” and “a commitment phobia,” when truly, they’re just not what that person is looking for.

Narcissists** want to think that “being the Normal Person*” is normal. It is normal to be ready and willing to bond with anyone who reaches a certain median community standard. Therefore, they get curious only about the Savants* whose personal bar for a relationship is higher than “the community standard.” They try to maintain their own level of “community standard” so they can say: “You have no real reason to reject me, see?” but they KNOW they’ll never have this person, not for real, anyway.

Narcissists** hate being found out. They fear it, at least. Therefore, they love it when you don’t even try to give them a chance. They feel safe, when you don’t even look at them properly.

Therefore; from now on; ALWAYS try to get to know everyone you meet better. Try not to be too weird about it – some people are normal – but be interested in their family life, their feelings, emotions, the make of their car; everything. Normally, people love the feeling of people being curious about them, but narcissists teach their kids not to be nosy. They want to avoid all intimate questions because they basically hate everything that they are… Possibly for a good reason.

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