When the Romantics* age.

When the Romantics* Age

the Romantics* are born with a very good sense of who they are and what they wish they could do in life. Their problem is that their dreams are “too big” for any sense of realism, and they tend to filter themselves and tell themselves not to think that highly of themselves or their possibilities. However, those dreams will never leave them, and the Romantics* will find that these dreams are NOT their age talking, but rather their agelessness – their eternal self; their true nature.

When a Romantics* ages, they don’t get more settled in with what they have now than what they did before. If they are in a positive situation, they’ll continue loving what they’re doing to the day they die. If not, they will continue hating where and with whom they’re stuck, and they’ll never get used to the idea this is all there is for them. They HAVE TO follow their drive.

Wasting time trying to learn the wrong life lessons.

Typically the Romantics* will waste valuable time trying to learn the wrong life lessons: to find a “realistic career path” or “a backup plan”, trying to learn to love mundane people, and giving uninteresting people the chance to impress them.

They may also try to learn to ignore the flaws in others while remaining unforgiving toward their own flaws. They should be just as unforgiving toward others… And adjust the level of forgiveness to a reasonable but EQUAL level for both themselves and others, both men, women, and all races alike. They tend to let others off the hook far easier than themselves. The Romantics* feel they have to carry the load of the people who cannot even be expected to reach the same status and standard as themselves. A Pragmatic* will not know what they’re doing, however, a Romantics* is very philosophical, and many of their life goals and values are non-physical; idealistic, perfectionist, and intellectual.

the Romantics* who try to settle for realistic goals will find themselves easily depressed and very easily alcohol or drug-dependent. The only way for a Romantics* to find happiness is to chase it with everything they’ve got. Anything else will hurt them.

This same must apply to their relationships. The Romantics* should never try to talk themselves into settling for the one they can have when they “can’t have” or find the one they want. Their desire isn’t ambition or trying to social climb, but rather it should be about refusal to date and befriend down. The Romantics* must stop dating down.

Good news.

the Romantics* don’t change much with age. They are ageless. They’ll simply gain experience and wisdom but don’t change that much at all. (This doesn’t mean they don’t GROW.) They can count on the person who they are at 17 to be much the same when they are 70; the sapling has simply turned into a tree of the same species. Their ideals, inner morals, and value systems will remain very much unchanged throughout life.

They will change in ONE aspect only: they’ll become more selfish and cynical as time goes on – this is an important phase. This happens when they realize that for them to be selfless, their critics get to be selfish, and that’s not equality; that’s a guilt trip given to them by hypocrites. They’ll also realize others are not quite what they say they are – the Romantics* find very few reasons to lie, but the Pragmatic* are not the same in that regard.

the Romantics* won’t change their minds when they get older in anything except how much they should have listened to others in the first place. They’ll find it harder to talk about things as their self-confidence in knowing what is right for them increases with age.

the Romantics* will stop giving chances to people who they feel are mundane – or at least should – because people who they find mundane now will become more so – not less – over time.

(If you’re a Romantics*, also read the next part.)

When the Pragmatic* Age

the Pragmatic* become more adjusted to their surroundings with age. They’ll find it easier to fit in and they’ll find comfort in knowing how things work in their world. Some of them will learn (some will not) that you cannot change some people – the Romantics*, that is – no matter how much you try. They will also learn that some people – the Romantics* – will never be happy with what the Pragmatic* have to offer.

the Pragmatic* will find happiness in family life and friendships as soon as they learn not to force people into things they are not naturally inclined to do. This, to many the Pragmatic* may feel like giving up, but it is, truly, rather them growing up. The Pragmatic* must learn to let go of trying to change people, and once they do, they’ll find a much happier way of existing.

Lessons not learned

If the Pragmatic* DOES NOT learn the above lesson, they will become more ruthless and manipulative in their actions in forcing people to live their lives for the Pragmatic* Person themselves. This ruthlessness will turn them into low lives (possibly criminals) that create low lives (possibly criminals) around them – even from the Romantics*, who want to maintain a level of independence and thus turn to crime to hang onto it. This is not an ideal path of development but it happens, not typically, tho, I’m happy to point out.

Typically the Pragmatic* adjust to society very easily, and also, quite fast. The Pragmatic* should have no real issues getting on with their life. The ONLY threat to this is that they maybe unable to stop trying to change a particular the Romantics*, their a romantic partner, a friend, a child or similar, to their own liking. The Romantics* who they’ve gotten too close to are truly the undoing of the Pragmatic*’s peace of mind, their only threat to their peaceful and pleasant life they’d otherwise lead.

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