the Ravens*; how to make your the Young Soul* Thinking parents let go of you.

If you’re not too angry with your parents’ need to keep you contained yet, this post has reached you in time. You may feel your parent doesn’t trust you and is trying to control your choices and guide you even though you’re already an adult and (mostly) self-sustained. You might find this irritating. Fear not. Getting your the Young Soul* Thinking parents to give you your freedom is easier than you’d think. They need gifts and advice.

Whenever you visit home, bring your parents a present. It doesn’t have to be big or expensive (but the bigger and more expensive it is, the better). The more practical the gift is, the better; the more it speaks about you having acquired valuable knowledge in your absence, the better. Demonstrate “world wise” and “in the know” with your presents. This will signal “adulthood” and “dominance” to your parents. The message you want to send is: “I can look after you; I’m watching out for you. I’m out there, making sure you’re fine.”

Whatever new innovations are out there, make sure you bring them to your parents. Bring them ideas and information, if you can’t afford the items themselves. Advise your parents on what is the latest thing, what they need, or could use around the house. Don’t forget gardening, fishing, fixing cars, cleaning the house; practical things.

Teach them new things – but bring information in as prechewed form. Instead of bringing them a guidebook on dieting, give them clear, easy recipes you customized for them.

Also, you have to teach them that this is how it’s going to be now. They won’t take your advice if you only swoop in sporadically here and there. You need to show your help, advice, and attention is constant and consistent. (Start with no-effort gifts, then move into stuff that needs more effort on your part if and when you’re ready.)

Who needs who?

The irony is that the Ravens* often try to make themselves useless for their parents, in order to stop them from relying on him or her. This makes the Young Soul* Thinking parent think that the child still needs their parent rather than give them their freedom. Therefore, the smarter thing for a Cat Thinking child to do is to demonstrate their competence in turning the needs on their head: “I will take care of you, so you don’t have to worry.” This will set out a NEW worry on your the Young Soul* Thinking parents: “He/she needs money to keep doing this.” And that will set your law of attraction in a higher gear. (Don’t accept money from your parents, at least not often. That will not benefit you as much as their positive thoughts will.)

Don’t think (if you have), “One day I will pay them back,” because there’s that energy that you owe them something; start taking care of them now, small things, smart things. Make them used to it. Soon, they’ll depend on you (with respect) and let you guide and control them rather than the other way around.

If you bring them into any new situations, advice how to act. Imagine you invite them to the opening of your new art gallery – advice them on how to behave, who are the people to talk to and how, and preferably, take your parents shopping for the perfect outfits, too. Help them NOT embarrass you. I know you won’t feel embarrassed by them even if they did poop on your gallery floor – because you don’t view them as extensions of your own self – but they will think everything they do is an embarrassment to you.

Apply to every problematic the Young Soul*.

If there’s the Young Soul* you can’t get rid of, make sure they feel they need you more than you need them—advise them on “obvious” practical matters rather than relationship, philosophical, or religious dilemmas that are more on your radar screen. Try and find EFFORTLESS and easy (for you) gifts and deeds to do for the Young Soul*, and neutralize them and turn them into positive manifestation power as a result. (You can possibly put a monetary value to it if you’re keen on crunching some numbers.)

Think up easy, fast, affordable, and effortless favors to do off the top of your hat whenever you need to deal with the Young Soul*. Innovate some akin to a calling card – something you can give almost anyone, any time, anywhere, but make sure your parents and other relatives always get the best of your stuff. (However, don’t go beyond this point.)

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