Normal Person* and the Savants*
This is the most important part of all Free Spirit Theories but not necessarily the most interesting one. The Savants* and the Normal Person* are a part of everything I write. Without understanding the differentiation, it is quite impossible to understand the rest correctly.
These two thinking types divide people in two groups. In between, there are the Savants* that are the Normal Person* -conditioned and the Normal Person* that are the Savants* conditioned. Yet, this conditioning tends to change our behavior toward the opposite gender more than anything else. Whenever you are trying to decide which type you truly are, try to think of your approach to primarily non-sexual relationships. Think of your approach to close friends and family. If you have trouble even focussing on your non-romantic relationships enough to do so, you’re definitely the Savants*.
Reaction to People’s Flaws
One of the biggest differences between the Savants* and the Normal Person* thinkers is their reaction to other people’s flaws and incompetence. The Savants* people cannot stand incompetent people. They absolutely HATE incompetence, failure, and flaws but ACCEPT that they are a part of being a human. They are perfectionists who accept the realities of being human. The Normal Person* see flaws and incompetence as an opportunity to bond and make friends and lovers. They think: “If I can do what you can’t, we’re a PERFECT MATCH!” While this makes LOGICAL SENSE to a Savants*, they don’t find the idea that they are loved for their weaknesses over their strengths romantic at all. Further, they find the idea of remaining flawed to keep their partner’s love and attention even less attractive.
the Savants* are compassionate toward incompetence and flaws and will offer and give help without a second thought. They view it as an act of charity or “first aid,” NEVER a start of an ACTUAL FRIENDSHIP between EQUALS. The Normal Person* view friendship as nothing as much as a pact of mutual help, which the Savants* can appreciate, but only in theory. Both Cat and the Normal Person* want “more” from their friendships, romances, and families, but what they want more of is completely different. They also try to GIVE more of what they value, which is the opposite of what the other type values.
“All I want is a very simple life…”
the Normal Person* prioritize their non-sexual relationships over their sexual ones. They may prefer marrying a partner who is utterly sexually non-compatible with them just to keep the relationship easier to manage. They value the stability of a relationship over the romance or sexuality of it. This makes them dangerous partners for the Savants*, to whom this is the sexless marriage trap. The Savants* are turned on differently to the Normal Person*, and marriages between the two types always lead to sexlessness as a result.
People lose their interest in life easily without a sexual or romantic flavor to it. They can get bitterly depressed if their romantic or sexual life is in trouble. Still, the Normal Person* wife wants to turn her spouse on by cleaning up his home. This couldn’t do less for the Savants* husband’s libido, which is strong, but cannot hold up to the smell of chlorine. The Normal Person* wife wants to show him “how much she cares and does for him”, when truthfully, the only thing a Savants* spouse wants is for their partner to put the *fuckknn* rag down and chill!
the Savants* define “sexy” very differently to the Normal Person*.
An Savant* person, male or female, turns people on by trying to relax and forget all about work. This is the last thing that turns on the Normal Person* partner. A Normal Person* partner rewards house work and domestic duties with sex. An Savant* person couldn’t care less for sex after a hard day working, particularly, not on the house. They LOATHE the idea – unless it’s with a lover who they’ve never seen clean up anything. They enjoy the fact that work, particularly domestic work, vanishes out of their mind at the sight of their completely-detached-from-all-things-mundane fuck buddy. (The definition of the word “mundane” is also thinker type specific: the Savants*: mundane, a person who is fully focussed on domesticity; the Normal Person*: mundane is a person who is ‘lame’, ‘lazy’ – not truly engaged in the household duties.)
Still, the Normal Person* feel they do a person a favor if they keep them from romantic or sexual entanglements by, for example, marrying them. “You don’t have to try so hard to be sexy… Just take out the trash, and clean floors.” This means the Normal Person* person can be very persuasive when they offer a desired and popular the Savants* person marriage: “If you marry me, you will not have to remain a sexual object for the rest of your life.” They don’t say as much; they feel the surprise should be positive, but it is anything but to the Savants*.
“I just want your love” means very different things.
Therefore; when a person says “I don’t need much from my partner, I just want ‘your love’,” What they mean is very different depending on their thinker type. A Normal Person* means they just want a normal house to work on, the basic cleaning tools in the closet, and someone to organize school car pools and work schedules with. Someone to work on life with. Sexy! An Savant* means what they want is a fire place and a fluffy rug in front of it, a bowl of grapes and their potentially flat broke, lazy and naked spouse next to them… And NOBODY in a 10 mile radius to point out the dust – in the candle light, you barely notice it anyway!
“Just your love” thus, means: “just your sex” rather than “I don’t need you to have sex with me/give me a lot of money, I just need you to take care of me, our kids, and our house with me.”
Reaction to Rejection
the Normal Person* have difficulty recognizing a rejection, for instance, from a job or a group of friends and a potential life partner. They think that when someone tells them “no,” it only means “try harder” or “I want to know if you’re serious.” They feel rejection is a way for another person to lift their profile, to make it seen and known that they’re worth pursuing, rather than a real one. This makes the Normal Person* a bit of the rejection junkie type, and they may not know when to quit. Having said that, they tend to get their way in this manner, in the job market, politics, personal life, and indeed, in their romantic life, too, to the bitter depression of the Savants*.
Survival or happiness
The Normal Person* are survivalists. They try their hardest to keep their head above water and to keep up with the Joneses. In contrast, the Savants* strive for personal happiness, realization of their dreams, and self-actualization, all of those words and concepts the Normal Person* find quite pretentious social media junk. The Savants* can be quite idealistic if their sexuality or romantic dreams do not COMPLETELY drive them. On the other hand, the Normal Person* consider too many virtues to hinder a person’s survival, and they value companions who are willing to cut a few corners here and there.
You’re In My Way
When the Normal Person* finds someone in their space or their way, they will quickly try and adapt to that person by picking a fight with them. This is true even if that relationship is most likely transitionary and unimportant. An Savant* will avoid conflict with people who they need to get along with for a prolonged period but who they have no romantic interest in. They avoid conflict more with a stranger, who they never need to meet again.
An Savant* person may be so focused on their romantic and sexual relationships that they barely notice any other type existing in their lives. This applies to both men and women. Still, it is to be noted that the Savants* people have interest-based friendships. In contrast, the Normal Person* have, again, “survival” friends; people who help them manage life itself. The Savants* may, however, DECIDE TO direct their focus elsewhere at times out of sheer embarrassment of their one-track mind, or camouflage a sexual goal into a hobby.
Therefore, if a Savants* is not sexually or romantically interested in you, they may simply dodge you completely as if you weren’t even there. Still, they can be very easily provoked into an altercation if you get in their way when they are focused on their romance or sexual interest. No matter how civilized a Savants* is, both men, and women, cannot stand it when someone gets in the way of their romantic life. Still, they are not sexually or romantically very POSSESSIVE, unlike the Normal Person* are. They will get irritated if their supposed partner is ALSO interested/in love with them but won’t fight for a partner whose affections they are not certain of.
Gender typical, not gender specific.
Although the Normal Person* Thinking is more female typical, it is not gender specific. This sounds like a depressing statistic for the Timeless -thinking* men. The difference is made up by non-monogamous women, who are supposed to permanently partner up with multiple men simultaneously. My gut-instinct is that polyandrous relationships “hold” more men in one, than the equivalent polygynous relationships require women for one man, to explain the low number of the Timeless -thinking* females.
Another, perhaps better explanation is that society has always tried to silence sexually-thinking women and force them into the mould of what the Normal Person* feel is a good wife. Savant* -thinking* women often feel like aliens around gender-typical women.
Blending into the other type.
And to add to the confusion, the Timeless -thinking* will blend into the Normal Person* Thinking when in love. Similarly, when the Normal Person* falls in love, they’ll start to blend in the Timeless -thinking* quite naturally. But for as long as someone can say they’re “feeling normal” around another person, they are not truly in love with that person. Sexual attraction maybe there, and some baseline compatibility, but if they don’t start feeling excited in some way about something they’d normally avoid – not love.
This doesn’t mean you’ll CHANGE types, what it means, is that you’ll start expanding your comfort zone. A Normal Person* will start experimenting with sex toys, and a Savants* will start thinking how to manage day-to-day things with their True Emotion Mirror, and find it romantic at least… I doubt they’ll ever find scrubbing floors and doing school runs quite as erotic as the Normal Person* does. (Not in THAT way, gosh! Even they’re not that creepy! No, in the “Honey, I picked up our children – the fruit of your loins – from school today… Want to reminisce how we made them? Yeah OK, that’s pretty creepy to us Cat-Type Thinkers.)
I’m the Savants* – for your information.
I am a Savants* personally. As such, I find understanding the Normal Person* both boring and difficult. I don’t truly care about the way they live their lives, and want nothing to do with it. Still, as a self-educated life coach with an aim to NOT CAUSE PROBLEMS elsewhere as I try to fix another. I MUST have a level of understanding toward the Normal Person*. In the name of fairness, I must say that I may misunderstand the Normal Person* still.
I try my best, but I may misrepresent their logic at times. Especially the Normal Person*’s sexuality, which, to me, seems like an impossible combination of things, as they couldn’t look any less sexually attractive to me if they tried, the women especially, – even if they’re technically good looking. It’s like they’re not even trying, right? They’re stress on a stick, not sex on a stick to me.
So basically, at this stage, after 12 years on the job, I’m starting to have the points of disagreement marked down… But my answers are still shaky at times.
Us the Savants* can learn from them… I’m surprised to say.
Having said that, the Savants* CAN learn from the Normal Person* – which I never thought I would ever say. Considering I’ve always taken them for absolute brain-dead zombies, I find it surprising. As it turns out, they have a point or two to make. I wouldn’t go so far as to say “we were wrong,” per say. I’ll say, tho, that sometimes, they have a way of thinking that can, if combined with a Savants* romance and a True Emotion Mirror, can actually work out to something quite nice. Like… You take a humble pie and you add the True Emotion Mirror chili on it, and it can go down a treat… When otherwise, you wouldn’t touch it with a 6-foot pole.
But us the Savants* must be the Savants* first, and the Normal Person* second, and vice versa… Even though the Normal Person* don’t have the brain to do what we do, and can’t be trained to think like a Cat, even if they could miow like one. They’re morons. 😉
(Outside this theory, I’m a dog person, just so you know. Love them on 4-legs… Where they belong. Scrubbing floors on all fours…)
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**) Narcissists are Young Souls left alone to survive and they're doing their best. Their emotional age ranges from 3 to 17 -year old. The younger, the more severe the narcissism.
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