the Timeless -thinking* is a trauma from being too romantically attractive.

the Savants*, both men and women, are highly attractive both sexually and romantically – but the trauma comes from their romantic attractiveness and the need for people to secure them as a permanent part of their lives, in some romantic sense; as an “adopted” family member, an unusual friend or a business/work partner, or, indeed a romantic (rather than sexual) partner.

What people don’t seem to realize is that the fact that their interest is more romantic than sexual doesn’t automatically make it a superior type or even welcome type of interest to a person. There are people who feel relieved when the interest people show toward them is non-sexual. These people are the Normal Person*. Therefore, they think that since their interest is MORE romantic, “serious,” or “friendship-like,” helpful, rather than selfishly sexual – their desire to lock them into a relationship borders on a favor toward a sexually attractive the Savants*, male or female; they can protect them from “unwanted” sexual attention and show them none themselves.

However, being sexually attractive is no accident – being romantically attractive can be. The older people get, the more able they are to drop their good looks if they don’t want sexual attention. The younger people are, the more able they are to emphasize their good looks and wish to be sexually noticed – women especially. It is not observant to think that people who are sexually attractive are that by accident or without their own awareness of it – even if they try to act modest and unassuming… Because it is sexy to do so. It is equally not observant to think that people who are not sexually attractive that they are so without realizing it or by accident.

The wish and what do you get?

the Savants* want to find their True Emotion Mirror (soul-bond true romantic and sexual lover) and live with them forever. To the Normal Person*, the notion of a True Emotion Mirror is somewhat of a threat that they manage by simply not believing in it. They try to RESCUE the Savants* from their True Emotion Mirrors (or the foolishness of believing in “the monster”), which, to a Savants*, is absolutely unforgivable – for another person to sabotage a true love relationship, as they see it.

The Normal Person*’s insistence that sexuality is like disturbance, rather than anything positive, has forced the Savants* into this mindset that they have to constantly protect their right to love and have sexual relationships with whomever they want them with. They become increasingly introverted and recluse over time, as they realize wherever they go, the Normal Person* wants to marry them (if they’re single) or befriend them and bore them to tears with couple’s dinner invitations and garden parties if they’re not.

Therefore, what the Savants* want and what they’ll likely get out of life are two very different things. What they want is sexual passionate relationships (applies to both men and women), and what they get is family-type relationships and friendships.

The Guest List Decorator

the Savants* look good on a guest list – potentially. They are that exciting guest to show off to the boring ones, a local celebrity if not a real one. If they’re  not that, they’re the guest who WOULD BE a dashing addition “if they’d only get over their nerves and open up a little.”

That is why they also often take up and stick to a subculture dress style; rockers, greenies, or punk well into their senior age, to make it obvious they do not wish to be included in the “sophisticated elite” or “the normal folk’s” guest lists; NOT to make themselves seem like celebrities they’re not. (They will still dress somewhat appropriately for a family gathering, especially that of their spouses’ family’s side. (They think it’s fair because their spouses family didn’t ask for their rebellion.) Despite their respect, they don’t enjoy those occasions that much unless they got lucky and married into a family they happen to adore. (the Normal Person* marry families, the Savants* marry individuals.)

Sometimes, the Normal Person* become very hands-on in their decision “to rescue” a specific the Savants* into their pack, and “without taking a no for an answer,” which, in turn makes the Savants* more avoidant of all human contact, as they don’t want to insult anyone by declining invitations all the time… Which, in turn, makes the very extroverted the Normal Person* feel sorry for the Savants* and easily redouble their efforts to “engage” them.

the Savants* may not be pretty – but they started out as such.

There is a possibility that a Savants* is no longer a looker, but it is not an accident. They started out as super attractive person, got tired of being everybody’s hope for the happy romantic future, put on some weight (most likely) and stopped dressing up and getting professional haircuts. They didn’t so much let themselves go as put themselves on a pause, while they figure out some stuff in life. They are also very conscious about how much work it will take to “get back into the game.”

When a Savants* gets older, they may turn more toward the Normal Person* Thinking if they value youth to a high degree. Many the Savants* value staying fit and youthful over the literal age, and even prefer older people (as they age themselves, usually, but not always, sometimes they like the aged people even when they’re younger.) However, if a specific the Savants* value system prefers youth over any other value, they may turn toward the Normal Person* Thinking because they start thinking they’re no longer close enough to perfection to be “a gift” to someone, but fear being a burden. An Savant* will never thrive if they think they are a burden to someone – this includes the Timeless -thinking* women who are older, don’t have a good income, or who are disabled in some way. The spinster or sworn bachelor who lives independently alone until they literally fall off their feet for the last time and is taken to care kicking and screaming is a Savants*. They feel they’re simply not good enough to have the kind of friends they’d want, and they feel they’re too good for the kind they can have – and berate themselves for feeling that way.

Still a Savants* values the wisdom and charm of old age – in other people – but often don’t trust their own aged charm… AT ALL.

the Timeless -thinking* trauma.

The Savants* face a problem: They need to remain attractive in every sense to the people they want to engage with; highly attractive people, but that automatically makes them attractive literally to everyone. They work with everything they’ve got; looks, smarts, style, charm, humor; but they need to try and contain and hide this from other people, so they don’t accidentally charm the wrong people.

Still, the type of charisma that the Savants* possess is difficult to hide, and they know it. Therefore, they can instead hide themselves completely, rather than become obese or lose their style – and go out (where people can see them) only, shall we say, under controlled circumstances.

the Savants* love perfect people – and try to be one.

the Savants* value physical beauty, intelligence, talent, humour, and charm, and every type of perfection they can imagine – even riches, even though they’d never admit to it because the Normal Person* have shamed them from expressing admiration for the riches and wealth. The Savants* should, however, go shamelessly after money and EARNED status. They don’t believe in inherited status, they believe in the first king that build the nation – not his son. You cannot inherit greatness – you have to prove it for yourself, no matter who you are, is the Timeless -thinking* virtue. This is why the sons and daughters of famous people rarely make it to the same position, and why Nicholas Cage never revealed his real family name… Coppola, until he’d already made it.

Unlike the Normal Person*, they fall in love with perfection, rather than “projects” like the Normal Person*. The Normal Person* want to marry potential that they turn to their liking – or help to their goal, mind you. Perfection would actually work as a surprisingly effective repellent for the Normal Person*. If the Savants* didn’t show any flaw at all, the Normal Person* wouldn’t be so eager to help, pity, and protect them. The Normal Person* kinda hate perfect people, but the Savants*’ natural love of perfection stops them from using up all their charm on people they don’t truly want to like them… But they should. The Normal Person* hate it ESPECIALLY if they feel like they are being DELIBERATELY CHARMED… Granted, so do the Savants*, they like accidental charm as much as the next guy, but a Savants* would do better with the Normal Person* if they tried to be as “charming” as possible, and show they’re “too good” for these people – one way or another; real or fake charm.

the Normal Person* love a project – there is a potential of synergy.

Here’s another irony; the Savants* want to find eternal love, and they think the Normal Person* near them want that as much as they do; and namely from the Savants*. The Normal Person*, however, are “parents;” they love a project; but they tend not to let go until their project is good and ready; or relax until the project relaxes. The Savants* tend not to TRUST the Normal Person*’s ability to know what they are doing and offering; and they should express their doubt shamelessly.

Another way for a Savants* to get away from an eager-to-help-and-mate the Normal Person*, is to genuinely ask for their guidance, stay open for suggestions, but keep doubting them: “But if I do that, and this happens, what then?” until the Normal Person* accepts there’s no guidance they can give them. The Savants* should show the Normal Person* to the responsibility that the Normal Person* cannot handle.

One of the most powerful defensive tool a Savants* could ever have, is to learn to express ALL GENUINE concern for their own well-being… They practically never do that out loud… But should. Shamelessly – ALL THE TIME. At school, at work, with their friends, with their partners… All the time, until their helpful souls introduce them to more capable people. Instead of trying not to be a burden, put your REAL burdens in other people’s hands, even when you know full well they can’t help you… All the time, until they refer you onto someone who can actually help you.

And here’s an ultimate power move: You meet your True Emotion Mirror who seems too shy to open up to you, bordering on a rejection, so ask for their help to get over your love for them… 😉 An Savant* cannot perform such miracles… And have to just allow you to love them instead. <3

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