A narcissist or a True Emotion Mirror?

The nasty thing about True Emotion Mirrors (twin flames) and narcissists is that they often resemble each other A LOT. Is something a True Emotion Mirror relationship or a narcissistic relationship, in other words? Can a relationship work with a narcissist if they’re also your True Emotion Mirror?

Fast love & Love bombing

Both narcissists and True Emotion Mirrors create fast, instant love. A narcissist is more prone to fall in love with praise, however, than with the person praising them. This is called narcissistic supply. They both praise their “targets” as love receiving praise, so the love they fall into maybe the love of compliments rather than the love of the person in question. Someone who compliments you a lot is a lot more likely to be usable to you, so they fall in love with the prospect of making you jump through hoops for them and work like a dog for their well-being (and sexual gratification.)

Therefore, even if you do fall in love at first sight, sparing with your compliments to begin with may be a good move. Don’t devalue them, either, but just keep your compliments mild and flirtatious to see if they still seem interested, even if you’re not a walking praise machine.

You also notice that a narcissist will try to win you over by a flood of compliments from day one on. To a normal person who isn’t terribly interested in a narcissist, this sounds like “but you’re beautiful, but you’re beautiful, but you’re beautiful,” like it should change your mind about them. Like them having eyes to observe the fact you’re beautiful should somehow change how you see them. To a narcissist, this makes perfect sense, tho, what they want is someone who is willing to flog their ego.

Sense of being rescued, arriving home, belonging.

In both narcissistic relationships and with True Emotion Mirrors, there can be a sense of being rescued and arriving home to someone you’ve been looking for all your life. While this may not apply to all narcissistic relationships, it is VERY deceptive when it happens with a narcissist.

This sensation can be based on high sexual and romantic attraction on their part or mutually speaking. You both either imagine sexual compatibility (purely narcissistic) or sense it on true level (TrEmoR), which means you’re both emotionally open to a true relationship with each other. If imagined one way or another, the “romance” will run into a wall fast; if true, it’ll carry the relationship even if nothing else about it works yet.

These “the sex is really good” relationships are quite possibly narcissistic True Emotion Mirror relationships, where the sex is the only part that works, due to one-sided or mutual narcissism that stops a real everyday connection from forming.

How will they react to a joke at their expense?

A full-blown narcissist, the kind that would love-bomb you into a relationship, will not laugh at a joke at their own expense. If this is a True Emotion Mirror and a narcissist, a joke at their expense may not be worth the risk, but you know that if they laugh at jokes made at their expense, at least there’s one person in this world who allows them this fun.

Insecurities surfacing.

There is one particular problem with True Emotion Mirrors who are also genii. High IQ is so rare, that it is very uncommon for people of high genius to be in one room at any one time. This is VERY nerve-wracking for most people, who weren’t educated among other genii. They’re smart enough to know that they are not the smartest person in the world, but they’re used to being the smartest person in the room, so when they’re suddenly face-to-face with their equal, they may not react in the best possible way. They may develop a narcissistic reaction to their True Emotion Mirror, who is their intellectual and performative equal, even if they’re not truly narcissistic.

When we also equate lovability to perfection, and perfectionists certainly agree, they may attempt to be more lovable by lifting themselves higher, when with a True Emotion Mirror the opposite direction would be wise. To appear like an easy catch would be smarter than trying to remain unattainable. BOTH OF YOU are likely get a narcissistic reaction to each other anyway, so it is rather difficult to say whether your True Emotion Mirror is a narcissist or not – or whether you suddenly are.

Can you see his or her narcissism and accept it as a part of who they are?

Now, as for the question whether a relationship with a narcissist can work if they’re also your True Emotion Mirror, I will tell you this: if you are under any illusions about them being a normal person, no. It cannot. Certainly not with the inevitability of losing every other relationship you have to that one, because YOU cannot see the reality, and you’ll allow your partner to abuse and disrespect and manipulate not only you but other people around them.

If you have any hope in rescuing this relationship and those with other people, you will have to see them for everything that they are, acknowledge their flaws, and love them through and through regardless of the fact you know them to be narcissistic. You cannot be equally blinded to their flaws than they, themselves are. YOU need to see them as clear as day and love and accept them regardless. And, you’ll have to learn to not feed their narcissism.

You will be making A LOT OF APOLOGIES on their behalf, and that is the life you’ll be signing up for. Without this ability, you’ll lose other relationships, and quite possibly find that your relationship with your narcissistic TrEmoR may prove too costly for you.

True Lover’s Kiss

I also happen to believe that narcissism is curable by one thing only: true lover’s kiss. 😀 I believe a relationship with a narcissist is just not worth the crap unless they are your True Emotion Mirror. But you cannot keep making excuses for them, blinding yourself from what they are, and how they treat other people besides you. You’ll have to give them strength and courage to be a nice, kind person. They fear their own kindness because they believe kind people get used in relationships.

Still, chances of getting a narcissist into a surrendered state True Emotion Mirror relationship requires a relationship expert, but you know. Here’s to your good luck and happiness. *Raises an imaginary glass*

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