Inconsiderate or deliberate? Is this person a narcissistic manipulator?

Old Soul* and the Dog Thinker(s)* think entirely differently. They are like a night and day. Therefore, the Cat Thinker(s)* kindness is the opposite of Dog Thinker(s)* kindness. Old Soul* typically suffocates their feelings near the Dog Thinker(s)*, because if the Cat Thinker(s)* speaks their mind, it results into an out-and-out war because the Dog Thinker(s)* typically doesn’t see how their actions could be considered insulting, while the Cat Thinker(s)* can see how someone might consider their way of doing things insulting, even if they wish it done the other way around.

Young Soul* shows kindness and acceptance by meddling in everything you do. They are so maternal or paternal that the Cat Thinker(s)* feel themselves babied, criticized, and disrespected, when the Dog Thinker(s)* tries to tell them they are valuable and cared for. Young Soul* will also break boundaries without a second thought, they’re in your face and on your skin, and feel welcome there because they’re loved or because they love you.

By and large, the Dog Thinker(s)* feel welcome into everything they do, and they don’t truly observe boundaries, that they don’t see how there could be any between friends let alone lovers.

This is kindness that the Cat Thinker(s)* have labeled “narcissism.” On the other hand, the Dog Thinker(s)* have labeled the Cat Thinker(s)* kindness narcissism. Both are equally incorrect labels. We are simply inherently incompatible as thinker types, and that’s all there is to it. What we can do is to acknowledge that fact and stop trying to force relationships into being, which means that us Cat Thinker(s)* people have to learn clever ways to stay outside the Dog Thinker(s)* boundaries by avoiding getting into their radar at all because the Cat Thinker(s)* don’t like boundaries. “I came in like a wrecking ball…”

The reason why the Cat Thinker(s)* think the Dog Thinker(s)* is a manipulator, is that they actually make a lot of sense, and they are acting in a very loving and caring way… Just that their expectations in relationships are entirely different to those of the Cat Thinker(s)*. They see the relationship going in places where the Cat Thinker(s)* would never go unless to fuck someone up royally. What the Dog Thinker(s)* does out of kindness, the Cat Thinker(s)* does to spite them.

Narcissim is not a real thing. It’s simply a matter of perspective.

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