Two narcissits can pretend to be in love.

Narcissim, according to yours truly, is a performance of a lifetime to an audience of one; themselves. A narcissistic love is the help of pretence; I will help you to hide your flaws, fears, insecurities and put on a show of good social standing and enviable life, including enviable love, sex, and family life. A true narcissist will also use force and manipulation to make you accept this help.

When two narcissists get into a relationship, they will team up to pretend they’re doing great. Whether parent and child, friends, colleagues or lovers, they will pretend their life is amazing to each other more than anyone else. They may turn violent if one partner has a different idea of perfection to play out in this scene. Like two children getting into arguments about the rules of the game of pretend.

If a normal person is tied to this pretence by a (relatively normal, non-violent) narcissist, they may cheat on their partner and just be careful not to spoil their parters fantasy of a perfect life.

Now, I think we’ve all done this once or twice in our lives; gotten into a relationship and pretend it’s love. The question is; how much coersion does a person need to use on other people such as their partner and friends and family to make them play along? Do others need to partake as if attending to children’s tea party with teddy bears to make you feel that your relationship is real and valid? I’m not even talking about a wedding, but the amount of manipulation you’d be willing to do to make your dream love relationship look right?

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