You might be on the verge of doing it but don’t. Don’t give chances to people you’re not sexually or romantically attracted to. Your sexual drive points at the right people, the lack of it points to the wrong. People may be attracted to someone on a higher rung of “the ladder,” – and it feels exciting to get them, but it is ambition, not love. 

Have fun on the way; you won’t necessarily know where you’re going – but you don’t have to; the main thing is that every step you take makes sense to you or feels pleasurable to you. It doesn’t have to be fun, but it has to make sense in terms of why you’re doing it. (For fun, for a predictable, not promised, unlikely reward later on, like “one day you’ll get to go to heaven for it,” it cannot feel like a wild goose chase – at least not all the time.)

Don’t talk yourself out of your own common sense and knowledge of self – don’t try to make yourself such a good person your relationships turn false. Take advice from people who are already living the life you want – or people who want what you want and tell you how they failed.

Giving chances to people you’re not sexually attracted to – not truly – has and will never work for you. It is a fantasy created by people who are not very attractive. It will surely work for them, beating above their weight range, what’s not to feel all excited about, but it will never work for the one who needs to lower their bar for this relationship to get started. 

Opposites do not attract – even when opposites are attracted to each other, one of them thinks the other one is more like them than meets the eye, and they’re attracted to the fantasy of similarity – not the truth.

You can always count on the support of Paul if you plan to tax Peter to pay Paul.

Further, always notice situations where someone is trying to coerce you into believing that taxing you (from your dreams, your goals, your life’s ambitions, your wishes, your actual current state) to make someone else happy without effort is the right thing to do. SURE you can count on the person benefiting from this plan to think this is a great idea. If there’s more than one of these people, they can easily convince you that you’re the bad guy. Don’t let them sway you on this.

Who is being selfish – you for declining to give up your dreams or another person for insisting you should give up your dreams for their happiness?

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