Don’t rely on me, I’m not going to stay.

Some people seem reluctant to take part in their family’s or friends’ lives. They won’t babysit, they won’t cook for you, clean, they won’t run errands, they won’t support you emotionally etc. They just sort of exist and do the bare minimum they have to in order to keep peace.

They do it because they are not willing to stay with you. They are looking for a way out, for a new chapter in their lives, something else. This is a sign of not being committed to you or your life. They don’t want you to build your life around their availability so they don’t have to pull the rug from under your feet once they finally leave.

If you are like this, you might want to inform your family and friends about your plans to move on. You don’t have to feel guilty about it, but it’s always good to give people a little warning before the move happens. Waking up to an empty bed after the night you took off is very traumatising to the people you leave behind. Rather, give them a week, month, or 6 to come to terms with you leaving – once you know you will be leaving and have a certain way out.

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