There are culturally formed karmic soulmate bonds you need to clear

For centuries, we’ve been living in monogamous heterosexual cultures the world over. This has created a situation where we are forced, culturally, to form inauthentic partnerships in all areas of life. Also, even if you were a heterosexual monogamist by your natural way of being, it is highly unlikely that your friends are lovers. It is entirely possible that your monogamous true love is married to someone who doesn’t fit with them.

Polygynous and Polyandrous men were married off to the leftovers.

In addition, especially polygynous men and polyandrous women have had to make friends from within their own gender, which doesn’t really fit well with them at all. They’ve had to tolerate the presence of their true lover’s husbands and wives and seeing other men and women marry the people they were meant to be with. Not only did these people steal what was rightfully theirs, without any ill will or bad intent, or power to do anything different themselves, but they also had to make friends with them. Play nice around the dinner table. Do right by the husband or wife to make your true love’s life a little easier.

In addition to that, it was likely that polyandrous women were overlooked as potential wives because they were too “eager,” the same as polygynous men were “too much of a skirt-chaser.” So there’s a good chance not even the polyandrist woman or the polygynist man, who were “everyone’s” natural favorite, actually married a suitable partner from all of their options.

Gay and lesbian people were forced to marry from the opposite gender, and many still may not realize they’re actually gay or straight. Women especially have been told it’s normal not to want sex but still want a relationship. It isn’t. It’s weird. There’s something wrong. At the very least, an asexual person who wants a relationship would probably be a polygynist woman in truth, but we’ll discuss that later.

We’ve coached each other to live in an unnatural, species-atypical way. We’ve tried to fight the beast, so to speak.

Girl schools, boys’ schools

Further, up until very recently, we were encouraged to form friendships within our own gender first and foremost. The one good thing about this gender-blending generation of ours is that they have a freedom to, well, gender blend, but I’m not sure they’re doing it quite right.

Our relationship orientation, polygyny, polygynandry, polyandry, and monogamy are a key to how we make friends. Polygynous women want to be friends with women, primarily, polygynous men are drawn to women, primarily, in both platonic and sexual sense, and the same is true for polyandrists genders reversed. It is not natural for a polyandrist woman to be close friends with another woman, particularly polygynist women, who outnumber polyandrist women about 1 to a 100 by a gut feeling.

It is DIFFICULT for a polyandrist woman to find another woman who thinks like her. In fact, I know I know ONE polyandrist woman for sure, and have to think very hard if there is another one. In my 47 years, I figure I know OF another polyandrist heterosexual woman, but I’ve never met her. I’ve heard a lot of stories about someone, as people think we’re similar somehow, even though she’s a blue-eyed blonde and I’m a brown-eyed brunette. We have mutual friends but have never met, oddly enough.

Anyway, the thing is polyandrist women should make friends with polyandrist women only. Polygynist men should make friends with polygynist men only. Everything else is weird, as the polygynist women form a type of a crush on the polyandrist woman. The same is true for a polyandrist men with polygynist men. None of us like it, but as biassed as polyandrists are toward men, polygynists are biassed toward women. Mixing these two groups is not going to be easy, natural… Or necessary.

You gotta have black friends, huh?

Now, we’re further mixing the plot by making it a type of offense to not have friends from other races and cultures. I’m not saying don’t do it if it feels right to you, there’s nothing wrong with it, but forcing matters for the sake of appearances and to avoid being called a racist is not a good enough reason to make friends from people of other races or cultures, any more than it is a good reason to make enemies out of them. We also should not attempt to make friends from “lower classes” or otherwise “undesirable” people if we don’t feel a natural, true friendship forming. Please know that some people choose to be disabled because it serves them. There is no need to feed it if you don’t like it.

You need to allow and teach yourself to distinguish your real friends from your cultural friends and your “public front” friends. At least be aware of it. Try to seek polite ways to keep them at an arms’ length and stop trying to appear a better person than what you actually are. Nobody in their right mind wants friends who are doing it just to be nice. We all want real friends, not people who try to force themselves to “keep an open mind” about someone like them.

Don’t force friendships to match a culture – find friends that match your eternal life.

Don’t force it, one way or another. Races won’t mix completely; nobody wants racial uniformity, I don’t think. The world is a lot more fun with a bit of color, you know? That means we can’t mix completely. Not all of us can mix. Some of us can – it creates more shades, right?

However, polygynous people don’t mix with the polyandrist. Their moral compass points in different directions. Polygynists basically don’t consider men real people at all, and polyandrists don’t think women are quite… Worth the time of their day. Polygynist men are just as tired of polyandrist men as polygynist women are tired of polyandrist men. Still, it seems polygynists want to try and convert polyandrists away for some reason, and I suppose there was a time when things were reversed, too.

Grab what you can before we settle into our new, authentic groups, I suppose. Just mind yourself; what do you actually want? This culture will pass. The next fad will pass. Make decisions that you can live with for lifetimes to come.

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