the Savants* love probing personal questions (directed at themselves and to ask them) but the Normal Person* have told them a thousand times not to ask any.

the Normal Person* don’t like people getting personal – not even on a date. They have a phobia of not being liked, and means they don’t want to answer questions that they think has a wrong answer to. It is true, in a sense, that even personal questions have wrong answers. They qualify you as a friend or a potential partner, and the wrong answer may disqualify you. That’s why they’re visibly uncomfortable with questions regarding them.

the Savants* love to answer personal questions, the deeper the better. The weirder the funnier. They don’t only like it as they get to know that person, they also love them because they learn more things about themselves, too, when someone points their attention to themselves. The Savants* feel being asked questions makes them feel like they’re an interesting person, and that they matter.

Having said that, I, myself struggle to ask people questions no matter how much I want to. My strong the Normal Person* Thinking mom even angered when I asked her or anyone else questions. “Stop being nosey” or “stop probing.” There was a time when she strictly prohibited me from asking anyone any questions – not too many – any! So, as a consequence, to the people I’m compatible with, I sound completely disinterested in them, as I have suffocated all my questions and the habit of curiosity as a child. This is to say I understand why people don’t ask questions, and then, there are people who can’t talk about themselves without any – again, the Normal Person*!

The reason the Normal Person* don’t want you to talk about yourself, either, is that they’ll easily feel insufficient. “Oh that person is so much better than me at that…” So they rather just collect the perks of your expertise, but don’t want to partake in admiring it. The Normal Person* Thinking women think, however, that being a man’s professional fan is what wives do. They don’t like it, but they feel it’s a proper compensation for being their wife… Especially if they avoid sex – either you’re his professional fan, the mother of his children, or his whore. That’s how you pay for the upkeep.

the Normal Person* prefer as little real interaction between people as possible. They like to invent your character traits, thoughts, and internal value systems themselves. You talking about yourself would make that harder to do. They want you to shut up, and stop talking. That is not to say that the Savants* who don’t ask you questions feel that way – try asking them questions and see what happens. Invite probes, and talk about yourself as much as you want to.

Women should also know that they CAN ask men questions, preferably about something other than their finances and social status, too. Many women have been conditioned to NOT ask men any questions, because men are the dominant gender. They decide what to tell you and what to ask, right? Then, they’ll decide whether they want to marry you or not, and to that, she can say yes or no to, but not really push her wishes on him. It’s also a very effective strategy to attract certain men, who don’t have that much to offer up the top, but who, again, like not being “evaluated” too much. It would be a good time to stop doing this, as the Cat Thinking men men like feeling interesting and important, too.

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