True Emotion Mirror relationship
Their eyes meet across the room, and instantly, They Know. This goes beyond sexual attraction, it goes beyond curiosity, or logic, they simply KNOW this is the person who they have looked for their entire lives. This is a profoundly sexual feeling, wrapped up in intoxicating feeling of love, it goes deeper, it goes into every cell of their body, like looking into another person’s soul at the same time as you look into your own, knowing that this relationship may not be simple at all, but is wrapped up in a millennia of pain and pleasure. There is a sense of intoxication, the sense of dropping into a timeless state, becoming instantly aware of one’s own soul and it’s timelessness, the sensation of knowing this person exactly, what has been and what will be, what happened – even if you cannot remember it exactly, you remember the emotion of the events… you KNOW.
This moment is often followed by a state of fear, doubt, playing it down, explaining it away, and any number of feelings that logic dictates on you.
Sometimes people say they find a person who they feel is their spouse, and this feeling may be about a Spousal Spirit Mirror. Although True Emotion Mirrors often marry, and should marry, and will be enormously happy (or at least intensely involved), Spousal Spirit Mirror Spirits are a different matter.
True Emotion Mirrors, as in the 1st Tier Destination Soulmates are the MOST intense, the MOST amazing, the most incredible connection a Romantics* (and particularly an Enigma) can have with another human being. This person has an answer to everything you could possibly want from a love relationship, and as unbelievable as that sounds, they do exist. They fall in love at first sight – or very quickly – there is a powerful sexual chemistry that even scares people; men especially: “You are going to use that power to control me!” or “I want you so much, I am afraid I’m going to hurt or abuse you.” or “I feel I am such an awful man, I love everything about you, and STILL I want to do awful things to you…”
What all True Emotion Mirror subcategories have in common is that they all describe the same type of connection in different stages of development and soul history. It is necessary to describe each separately, because what the relationship looks like from the moment the pair’s eyes meet is different based on what has happened between them in their previous lifetimes, or if they’ve ever met at all, and each stage has its own problems, and only one stage is such that should be exposed to each other’s family and friends let alone marriage. (And yes you can get there in one lifetime, even if you are Uncharted True Emotion Mirrors – sometimes it’s easier when there’s no millennia-old package to sort out.)
Each person technically has an unlimited number of any type of soulmates, including True Emotion Mirrors , and it depends on their own, authentic (their true feelings as opposed to the “I should feel this way but I don’t”) ideal on how many there is going to be, and also how many connections they have developed to a high level. It is to be expected, that not all people have 3rd stage (mature) True Emotion Mirrors , but all the Romantics* have several Growing/Interrupted and Uncharted True Emotion Mirrors . It is more than likely that most people also have Inflamed True Emotion Mirrors and Hidden True Emotion Mirrors , but the Mature True Emotion Mirror is, by far the rarest soulmate connection because it required complete honesty, authenticity, an iron-glad self-esteem and an ability to put oneself in the risk of getting badly hurt to have been developed in the first place. This connection does not come easy nor ready-made, and although previous lifetimes experience makes it easier to trust this connection above the earlier state True Mirrors, it does not guarantee an easy ride when the pair or group meets again.
Admiration
One of the most notable traits of True Emotion Mirrors is the absolute admiration they feel towards each other. They ADMIRE everything the other person is and does. It is not important for them TO BE ADMIRED but they simply feel relief and joy in finding another person who they can genuinely say they admire and respect.
Receiving the admiration from a True Emotion Mirror feels amazing, too, because it is mutual. It comes from a person who you can honestly return a compliment to. There is no discomfort of “I appreciate that, but I wish I could say the first damned nice thing about you that is actually true.” Secondly, being understood and admired by someone who you feel an equal admiration towards, even in very different areas of expertise, feels amazing. In addition, to be understood by someone who you instinctively admire adds another level of endorphins into the mix.
True Emotion Mirror relationships
1st Tier Destination Soulmates – Complete, ultimate, ideal lovers
Mature True Spirit Mirror (old, developed connection)
Imagine Italy, the land of Amore, and the middle-aged couple, surrounded by adoring children and family members, who admire this older couple for their flaming love that has endured unchanged for all the decades they’ve been together, and shows no signs of dying out. They love and tease one another, they flirt all the time as they are completely enamored by one another; they love to give love advice to the younger ones who are still struggling with their lover’s quarrels and confused emotions, because they know how enthralling phase that was, young love, that titillating feeling of not knowing whether your heart is going to be squashed or rescued; They are mature stage True Emotion Mirrors . (Different personalities and cultures live different lifestyles, but this does describe it very well.)
This ancient lover of your soul has been with you through thick and thin. You have loved each other for so long you don’t know how not to love each other anymore, they are like the air you breathe, and your souls have been entwined together by complete adoration, admiration, and complete love toward the other.
Once you return to each other, in a new lifetime, every doubt you have held in your mind about your own worth and the possibility of finding true love will flair up and tell you to run from this connection because you believe you are fooling yourself into thinking this is real – or a thousand other reasons that cause fear.
When you first meet/met in this lifetime, you knew each other at the first sight, and you knew you returned to your long lost lover. Every bit of hurt that you felt the moment you last met may still be there, and so this connection CAN start from the point of an Inflamed True Emotion Mirror, that I have described separately because it looks so different at times. You pick up where you left of, but the difference of who you are now and what you have been taught about love (as in “don’t trust your feelings”) will cause problems… Read more…
Growing / Interrupted True Emotion Mirror relationship
(old, partially developed connection)
It is very rare to find your True Spirit Mirror in any other phase than this, although in the rarest of occasions, Mature True Emotion Mirrors meet in that phase and STAY in that phase without “freaking out” within the first few moments or weeks after meeting and reverting back to the Growing state.
In an ideal world, the Growing state True Emotion Mirror would be allowed all the time in the world to develop into a fully blooming relationship, but in the modern world, this process gets interrupted far more often than not. Because we are all basing our expectations of what is supposed to happen when bonding with a Trail Companion*, we hurry things along partly out of embarrassment of having to admit that “No, we haven’t kissed yet. No, no holding hands… No, I haven’t raked up the courage to talk to him/her yet.” In this phase, we are like 12-year olds again, we see the other and freak out. We don’t know how to behave when normally confident people suddenly realize that Oh My God… I don’t know what to do… And we clamp up and without proper encouragement from those who have reached the Mature State, we give up on the relationship. It is simply too weird and scary.
We should simply enjoy the uncertainty, grin at the people who question our famous abilities to seduce anyone we like by simply saying: “Oh, he’s/she’s the one person that makes me FEEL like I have something to lose here. He/she is one in a million and I am not going to mess this up by being stupid. Let me take my time.”
It is common to give up on your True Emotion Mirror in this phase by convincing yourself that this is not ever going to work; it is “just lust” or “they are acting weird, mentally unstable, even”. Read more.
Uncharted True Emotion Mirror
(new, completely undeveloped connection, perhaps the experience of the originator of the True Emotion Mirror theory)
The Uncharted True Emotion Mirror is an interesting phenomenon and a very rare one at that. This is someone who you have never (really) met in a previous life, or if you have met, you have barely spoken. You are complete, utter strangers, but instinctively you know they would be perfect for you, and that your minds and personalities would simply slide into place together if given a chance. Everything about you two would work, you simply do not have any previous experience of it, and it is an intriguing feeling, at least to an ancient spirit, who has pretty much met them all by now.
The Uncharted Spirit Mirror gives you almost an eerie, creepy feeling because you feel like everything about their energy matches yours, but you know they are a stranger to you. They are almost uncomfortable to be with, because that energy matches that of yours so perfectly, and they are also physically so attractive to you that you don’t quite know how to handle yourself around them. Truly amazing, probably the connection that started the belief that “Twin Flame s” have never met in a previous life before because that feeling is STRONGLY present. Read more.
Inflamed True Emotion Mirror (old connection in severe crisis, “demonic nightmare soul”)
I also call this state of True Emotion Mirrors the Demonic Nightmare Souls, because of the way they relate to you. This is luckily potentially a fleeting phase, but can, even in milder forms, take a decade or two to sort itself out, but fleeting in the sense of eternity. There is a lot of hurt in this phase, something has happened that has left your, or your soulmate’s soul hurting, it is most likely a misunderstanding, inability to accept one’s own blame or some fear that isn’t true that is making the pain so strong. We do have a habit of telling ourselves stories about the other so that we could convince ourselves to “do the sensible thing” and leave this relationship alone. When you tell yourself enough of these stories, you start to believe them to be true. Usually, our worst fears are being reflected in the way we think the other one thinks about us and that creates the state of inflammation.
The basis of the problems stems most likely in suppressed sexual feelings, taboos that cannot surface due to societal sexual shaming and demonization of certain acts. To describe it; it can be difficult for a person to accept it about themselves that they would, in their heart of hearts, want to prostitute their own daughter to every man that visits them, because, deep down, they know that is what their daughter wants… That can cause a few problems in terms of fully opening up to someone, don’t you think? These problems can vary from petty to actually real problems, but they have run the relationship into a state of inflammation.
Faux Core Value Spirit Mirrors
These ones are fantastic fun when the suppressed sexual feelings are not pressed too far down, and if they are, it will probably cause an inflammation rather than anything fun. They challenge and make you question your sexuality, most of the time, and they often pass for Precious Soulmates* but are really TrEmors hiding.
The reason they are hiding is often a taboo of a sort. This could mean a same-gender True Emotion Mirror who you cannot quite see in that light yet, even though your connection is clearly sexual – perhaps you two are the only ones who haven’t noticed it yet. Most often this denotes a multi-True Emotion Mirror connection, as in same-gender partners in a mutual polygamous union.
Whatever they are, they do bring out something in you that you never thought you had; they may turn you from a perfectly normal red-blooded male into a cross-dressing homosexual, at least momentarily. This connection is also often a cause for someone to attach a permanent homosexual label onto themselves even though they were merely sexually attracted to this one particular individual. Read more.
No compromise
This is yet another part of the description of True Emotion Mirror that can be easily abused if (deliberately) misunderstood. True Emotion Mirrors are so authentically and automatically compatible, that they don’t need to compromise on ANY of their life values. If it matters, the True Emotion Mirror matches it without a fight or argument needed. The only thing that can come in the way here is lying, mincing one’s words, hiding aspects of how you truly feel, playing things down. Complete honesty, that would ruin ANY OTHER TYPE of a relationship, is the backbone and REQUIREMENT for a True Emotion Mirror relationship to work.
People who want to find their True Emotion Mirror, are also naturally opposed to compromising on what they want out of a relationship because they already have that experience deep within their soul from a previous lifetime memory of one. They are very much unwilling to settle for a relationship that is based on compromises, even mutual such.
Should you want a True Emotion Mirror relationship, the advice is to learn to be yourself to the extent you drive everyone else away by just being the stinking, obnoxious, you – the person who loves you for who you are will stay; and granted a few the Pragmatic* who will insist on loving you despite everything, but you’ll just have to find a way to get through to them that this is not working.
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to love people who do not ask whether or not they are allowed to be that way? Stop apologizing. 🙂
To make a 100% positive ID of a True Emotion Mirror
It is more than possible for a person to mistake another person for a True Emotion Mirror. To be perfectly SURE of this connection, they do need to tell this to you in person, that they feel the same way about you as you feel about them. Unfortunately, this doesn’t always happen for decades, and they may also tell you that they are not, and insist on it for a reason or another. There are plenty you can do to analyze the situation and gain confidence in it if you can’t get a confession out of them, but at the end of the day, for as long as they are NOT saying they’re it, there’s nothing you can do but to hope you read them correctly.
I would take it as a VERY STRONG positive sign if the person appearing to you in your dreams or psychically tells you they love you – but even that is not a 100% sign. After all… People are sometimes heartless pranksters, and also capable of dreaming about things they wished to be real. The more realistic the dream feels like, however, the more I’d trust it.
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**) Narcissists are Young Souls left alone to survive and they're doing their best. Their emotional age ranges from 3 to 17 -year old. The younger, the more severe the narcissism.
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