Radical Acceptance and how your soulmates feel about you

Radical acceptance is a great Buddhist concept that I am not at all an expert in. However, by all accounts, this is something I have practiced my whole life without even thinking about it. That said, I know there is a dark side to it that I wish to talk to you about.

Let me just define it the best I can before I move forward: The theory is, that for as long as you think you want something but can’t choose it or have it, you feel pain or unpleasant feelings. Once you learn to accept the things you cannot control to be what they are, you’ll feel less pain. When you accept the option is not there, you’ll feel better. And it is true.

However.

When you accept everything too easily, you will eventually become a doormat.

Radical acceptance is GREAT when you TRULY do not have control over a situation but taken too far; it can also make you a bit lazy. When you think you CANNOT control something, for instance, you live in an inopportune place in the world for realizing your dreams, you just shrug your shoulders and move on like an ameba. If you’re too good at it, you’ll simply pass off opportunities, “accepting” that it is not for you anyway. You accept people’s mistreatment of you because you know you cannot control them or their feelings, and you start forgiving people entirely too easily. Someone else will take up the space when you give up your faculty.

First World Problems -application to Radical Acceptance.

In modern times, we live in a world of wants and dreams, and needs, and that is, trust me, a great thing. However, we cannot have EVERYTHING we want, and that is also a great thing. There is an amazing amount of things and happiness and love to be had, there are opportunities for all kinds of things, and still, there are things that are completely and utterly out of your reach and will forever remain that way.

You cannot fully control how other people feel.

One of the most obvious applications of radical acceptance is that you must realize that you cannot control how other people feel about you or many other things. You can try and convince them that Johnny Depp didn’t hit anybody, but if they don’t want to look at the facts, they won’t. And they can ALWAYS get your goat by presenting some half-wit evidence in support of Amber Heard and thus regain control over your upset feelings. That is something I struggle to accept; how stupid, illogical, and still powerful some people are.

You cannot push you own virtues on other people if they don’t let you, and that is something you need to accept at some stage.

However, you have to realize that if Johnny Depp hadn’t pursued his case, if he had just radically accepted that his career is over and his bratty ex-wife got away with what she said, it would be Aquaman 5 by now. And, maybe if you are one of those morons who still don’t understand why “believe women” doesn’t mean the same as “believe women who lie,” you have no control over the fact that I will say nasty things about Amber Turd, and her supporters for the rest of my life. I will laugh at her, ridicule her, and make her feel like the piece of shit she is if I get a chance to get to her actual face. THAT is for Turdestans to radically accept.

Toxic Applications To Radical Acceptance

Reincarnationally, you may have taught your soulmates that you can be counted on to radically accept, to show unconditional love, to be generous, and always to take the higher road, and they, using your virtues against you, will always demand you to do more than your own fair share because fuck, look at your cheekbones! Your life must be so much easier than ugly people’s! You have to suck up to the poor, the needy, the ugly, the fat, the down trodden, the victims. And if you ever angered or get frustrated: Ooooh, you monster!

There is a balance to be drawn: You must learn to say NO but also accept that you CANNOT control other people’s feelings for you.

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