What does true love feel like? Is this the real thing?

I find it worrying when people who are clearly involved with a Trail Companion*, or worse yet, an Enigma start assigning labels like ‘a True Emotion Mirror’ to their partner or the one who is getting away. I worry because once they meet their True Emotion Mirror or an Lovers’ Choice Soulmate*, they’ve run out of superlatives to use, and detaching from the Trail Companion* is only going to get embarrassing rather than painful; painful only to the ego. The other worry is that if they convince themselves that this is as good as it’s ever gonna get, they are not going to meet their true love as they are energetically blocking them away.

We do get so carried away with this thing while looking for the right one that it would be best if we didn’t even know such a thing exists before we HAVE TO find out what this insanity is after we’ve met our True Emotion Mirror.

You don’t need me to tell you that this relationship is written in the stars.

This is a good indicator: If you didn’t know anything about True Emotion Mirrors, would you think that your relationship is completely out of the ordinary with someone? It’s one thing to read about True Emotion Mirrors and then compare the description to every new person you meet like a checklist, and a completely different thing to meet someone who will absolutely turn your world upside down and your body inside out and you don’t know what the hell happened! You KNOW that relationship to be special, you don’t need books or blogs to tell you that, but you need books and blogs to navigate it and to TRUST it… To trust your SANITY and to trust your intuition that you COULD BE loved like that, and as lucky as that.

There are True Emotion Mirror couples who didn’t think their love was out of the ordinary because they perhaps met so young they didn’t have an idea of what “common” love feels like. Because they innocently went into the relationship, trusting their love and instinct, they never lost their faith in true love while looking for it.

We are, however, not talking about just a happy marriage here. True Emotion Mirrors are much more than just “happily married.” If they were married, they’d be… Uh, divinely married or something. True Emotion Mirrors don’t just love one another; they exist for each other, whether they’re together or not. They have a relationship, even if they’ve never truly spoken to each other – which is entirely possible that they haven’t.

Rational mind vs. Instinctive knowledge

We do, of course, question whether this could be my True Emotion Mirror if we believe that there is only one for each person and that finding the one would be a mathematical impossibility, but here’s the difference: If you question it because you think it is absolutely impossible for something this good and amazing would happen to you and be actually real, THEN it sounds like a True Emotion Mirror. If you question it from the point of view of wondering if you’re in love with them enough for them to be a True Emotion Mirror, then no, they’re not. You couldn’t possibly imagine loving them more easily, completely, and perfectly if you tried.

Any suggestion that you don’t love them enough would make a True Emotion Mirror laugh bitterly, as you know there’s never going to be love like this, and there is nothing in your past you could compare it to… Until there is. Once you meet them, they will burn their mark on you, and you know, and every friend of yours knows, without ever saying a word, that you will never ever get over this person. It is so clear, that there is no doubt in anyone’s mind whether this is the real deal or not.

You will feel different with them, you will react to them emotionally in a way that you never do with anyone else. There will be a level of discomfort, because you hate to think you might do or say the wrong thing and send them running appalled, no matter how confident you normally are… And yes, there is right things to say, and normally, we tend to pick the wrong thing to say – for complicated reasons. Typically, YOU don’t think THEY have anything to feel insecure about with you, and you blurt out things that will make them fear for their heart and sanity.

Two extremes.

There are two extremes that this can go to from the start. Either you feel with a complete hundred percent certainty that this person is yours. Mine Mine Mine ALL MINE. No doubt. No matter who they are dating, no matter if you feel they’re just a tad out of your league (and that’s always how it feels). You feel they’re yours, not possessively but factually, no matter if they are married or will be married to someone else with 12 kids or not. There is nothing between you. You are theirs and they are yours…

You don’t know how to actually make this knowledge into an actual relationship, quite likely, or you can just walk right up to them, tell them “oh there you are” and get married the next day. You’d fearlessly marry them on the spot if they asked. And the reason we don’t do that is because we are very well brainwashed into a certain relationship behavior which would typically make that weird, and we fear they’d think you’re weird and stop talking to you.

The other extreme is that you cannot trust their love for you at all, and you know you’d rather burn on a stake than leave them, but you doubt their love for you and your own ability to claim them as yours. This might be a past life experience between polygamous True Emotion Mirrors forced to live in monogamous societies as most of us have. If you can only have one, the others may feel a  sense of doom from the moment they meet you… They already know you’ll be the death of them.

Intense emotions – completely without drama.

You will be crying in pain for your True Emotion Mirror at times. You’ll feel dead without them – suicidal in many cases. There is no extreme greater than what a True Emotion Mirror will make you feel. Sometimes when you are together, you feel like the emotions you feel will burst through your skin, and explode your body – it is almost like your physical being could not withstand the emotions. Sometimes you need to physically step away from your True Emotion Mirror just to catch your breath.

None of these feelings relate to drama, you know “someone said something and now oh my god.” or “He looked at me, OMG.” No. You feel intense feelings for them simply because they sit there and breathe in a way no other man or woman breathes. And you haven’t spoken to them yet… In this lifetime.

Good or bad, it’s big.

Whatever emotion – positive or negative – you feel for this person is multiplied compared to any other person. You will never fight with anyone like this person and you’ll never be hurt by anyone like them… But they will never WANT TO hurt you, but they can do that because they don’t know to be mindful of your insecurities, that they see NO reason for – and you maybe completely oblivious to THEIR insecurities with you.

They may tell you a compliment but you take it as the meanest thing anyone has ever said to you, because they see nothing but beauty in you, but all you ever hear is them pointing out every flaw you’ve got…

Because a True Emotion Mirror loves you so thoroughly, they cannot see but beautiful and adorable flaws in you and they can say anything about you out loud thinking that is the most amazing thing about you, and if you don’t love yourself with quite that much adoration, you’ll think they’re making fun of you. You feel like this person is always just waiting for a chance to humiliate you in front of everyone…. Or they get insulted by everything you do – you confess your love for them and they believe you are laying a trap for them and if they fall for it, all of your friends will have a good laugh at their expense on Facebook – that kind of stuff.

Nobody needs to talk you into it, unless it is to fight your fear.

And then there are all the variations that will screw you over big time if you can’t face realities. One thing is for sure; You will NEVER ask yourself whether this is high enough love when you find a True Emotion Mirror of at least the Growing State, and you never have to talk yourself into pursuing a relationship with them, unless it’s a fear of getting burned badly by them. Your only fear is for them: Will YOU be enough for a God or a Goddess as you see them. Polygynandrists, polygynous women and polyandrous men will laugh: We don’t have to be. :p

And another thing about true love is this… True love is not a question about gender or number by default, although it may be that for you personally. That is to say that if you feel an overwhelming level of love for 13 people, and you couldn’t choose which one of them you would spend the rest of your life with if you had a gun to your head, (and as a victim of monogamist propaganda you’ve tried) there is no SPIRITUAL reason why you should force 12 of them out the door and choose only one… It’s like asking a mother to choose her favorite child in the name of true mother’s love. Not a soul in this world would be that cruel.

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