Boundaries of a soulmate relationship

I’ll use an analogy to start with. We are playing a game. We could use a half of a football field as the play area, or we could use the whole or even double the foot ball field. We could also remove the boundaries completely and play anywhere as much as physics allow. By God, we are not bound to rules of the game apart from what none of us is physically or mentally able to cross, but we have created many of these limitations for ourselves – lot of them called “a religion” or “ethics”. We decide to be bound by the rules of ethics, but of course, we argue about where the line should be drawn because the lines are not there until we put them in. If we can’t decide on our own boundaries, we probably choose to play by someone else’s, although we still might continue arguing about whose rules should be the International Stands.

Similarly, we choose the boundaries of our love relationships. We say that we won’t be happy if there is a third member in our love relationship. MANY of us CHOOSE to stay that way forever. This is what True Emotion Mirror / True Emotion Mirror boundaries are. Although the theory states that the bond is strictly for two people, the theory of God Given can’t be right, because I am able to love more than one man with the same intensity level simultaneously (I know you might doubt me on that, but don’t). My existence alone proves that theory to be incorrect. Without a doubt, it is the most accepted relationship boundary, but not the only one. We play by different rules.

In my relationship, the only boundary seems to be this: Nobody outside this relationship can be quite as important as we are to each other. We must be a group that can separate itself from the entire society. We can bond with nobody who holds bonds to society bound people because we are explorers and we LEAVE to chart territories that nobody has touched yet. Earth is currently getting small for us, but we cannot yet take a colony into the Outer Space, but we cannot form bonds in this life that would in the future stop us from leaving. That is why I am the only female – women are likely to have many soulmate bonds that are equally or almost as strong as that to their lover. (Children, friends, other family members.) I can picture us having soulmate bonds to friends who are also leaving with us, but they’ll have to bring their own females. 😉 These friends, I’d imagine hold even less bonds than I do with my soulmates, because they need to be detachable by two’s, or they would have another female centric bond.

All of this has a purpose. It doesn’t come completely out of sheer carnal lust or “commitment phobia”. It does fit the plan. In our previous life times, a large group of men were needed to build tracks, clear the way, expand our living space – both mentally and physically. I followed them, in this life time, I believe to be the leader for a change. Our bonds exists unchanged because we all have a purpose. The purpose remains across lifetimes, circumstances and cultures change, we remain the same – only more of the same.

Most people would have another soulmate bond to a family member or a friend in addition to their lovers. Some ONLY have a bond with a family member or a friend, because surrendering to sexual love scares them. I only bond with my lovers, who at the same time are my friends and a family that I don’t have a biological bond to.  The family I choose for myself. I tell you this because we’re an unusual bunch. Even though it SEEMS that a group of 14 people would be wide open to new people, it is not. This is our relationship, what you consider a couple, we consider this to be. Remove one, we’re not complete, put one in; 14 is company, 15 is a crowd.  😉 (Okay so I’m not sure if it’s going to be 14, but that’s how many I’ve become aware of so far.) I’ve got a special problem with other women. 🙂 Although I LOVE talking to women and helping them sort out their thoughts and hang out with them, I don’t form close bonds with women. (29.9.2013: yeah cancel that one – I just hadn’t met my Precious Soulmates* yet. See how this works? If you haven’t met all of your soulmates, you simply don’t expect to. 😉 ) Many try, but when they get too close, I pull back quickly. (I don’t run, I pull back.) This bond is a choice, not a given. You can’t choose a person and tell them that since I love you with all my might, you must love me back.

These bonds answer to what you are and need to be. They come as your own creation, from your own free will and choice, and you never find a bond that doesn’t answer one of your needs, even when it’s one-sided. Pining after a rock idol at 14 is a sweet agony that would suck to not have had, wouldn’t it? Even if it’s one sided, it’s still a soulmate bond, virtually unbreakable and sweetly agonising. Don’t you just LOVE that feeling?

The key difference between a True Emotion Mirror and a soulmate -theories is that I don’t believe a bond that is ‘assigned to you’ exists. You BUILD these relationships, you CHOOSE them, but the intensity is the same, the agony is the same, but also, the nature of the relationship is your choice. Yours and your soulmates’. “Your wish becomes my wish, your desire becomes my desire.”

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