Angry True Emotion Mirror – do they love you or not?

I have been trying to figure this thing out for a while; how can you tell the difference between an angry soulmate runner and an angry Enigma – a one-sided soulmate (false True Emotion Mirror). They are seemingly so similar, that it is hard to say which is which, but the reason for their anger is different. A soulmate is angry to keep themselves from approaching you (and thus, safe from heart ache), an Enigma is angry simply because you don’t go away, although they desperately need you to. It’s hard to tell the difference sometimes, especially as you wish the true reason is the first mentioned.

When an Enigma will tell their counterpart to go away, they will almost always be a little bit disappointed if the other party complies. This is due to the ego boost they get when they know they have someone fawning over them, even though they themselves have already signed off on the relationship. They get even bigger ego boost if the victim comes back over and over even when they’ve been told no.

One thing that might help you decide between an Enigma and a runner is that an Enigma is most often an Old or Ancient soul while their chaser is an Infant soul. An Enigma is someone that attracts attention and admiration wherever they go, and they should be treated as a mentor, teacher or an idol (or such) but problems arise only when the ‘chaser’ starts to treat them as a potential love interest when the Enigma doesn’t feel the same way (but treats their chaser as a friend or a client only).

The Ugly: How many times do I have to flush to make you go away?

As someone attaches themselves to an Enigma, they start demanding returned love on the basis of their own strong feelings. The Enigma rejects them because they feel they are not compatible (and rightfully so; whenever someone feels they are not compatible with another person, they are right, but they can also change their minds later. For the time being though, their word goes). When the blatant no’s fall on deaf ears, things escalate little by little. The Enigma must become more and more blatant in their rejection, and if the chaser persists, the Enigma can turn vicious and cruel with their attempt to regain their right to their own space. A True Emotion Mirror* is never cruel the same way, they sometimes have to tell you hurtful things, but they don’t take pleasure out of it, they do not enjoy hurting a True Emotion Mirror even if they were kinda sadistic personalities. A True Emotion Mirror will use as minimal persuasion as they can, because they don’t really mean it in the first place. They can also be angry as hell, but it stems from the pain of the other soulmate not ‘functioning’ right. The other soulmate is somehow disturbing their ‘flow’, the dynamic that makes the partnership work in the first place. If you confess your love to a True Emotion Mirror and put them into a corner with it… they are likely to confess their feelings to you in return with a push. An Enigma won’t. You have to persist though, but not nag (one frank conversation should be considered enough on the matter). Ask a few more questions, demand an answer – the truth will come out. An Enigma will take pleasure out of hurting their chaser, and rightfully so – they should get pleasure out of a situation they can’t control, as that’s the only thing that they can take pleasure out of in a situation like this. The chaser has entered their space uninvited, has returned even though they’ve been told not to, and they are basically crashing a private party and the Enigma has every right to use any available measure to throw them out… They will not stop until the chaser stops, because where ever the Enigma goes the chaser will follow – the further the Enigma moves, the further the chaser follows, and as such, the only option the mirage has is to turn vicious or be a psychological genius to drive them out kindly.

It begs the question: If for a moment we assume the Enigma truly means what they say about not wanting you, what should they do to make you believe it that they haven’t already done? Buy a gun? Could it be possible that you simply cannot take ‘no’ for an answer? Where a True Emotion Mirror chaser is most likely too scared to demand a truthful answer, an Enigma chaser is going after the Enigma with everything they’ve got, blatantly ignoring their rejections.

This is one of the moments when we need to learn what respect means: Taking a person’s word for what they say instead of second-guessing what they truly might mean in a way that you will get what you want despite the other’s words. This is why men are told that no means no, and that you cannot assume that every girl who fights them really truly mean “yes I like it rough”. Respecting a person requires us to accept that they have a right to their feelings and believe that they know their own mind sufficiently to speak for themselves. Otherwise you will end up treating everyone but yourself as a mental patient who doesn’t know what’s best for them.

The hope: If they love you…

There is one thing that a man in love is always known for… This is one thing that they simply cannot avoid doing. If they don’t do this, they are definitely not a soulmate, but if they do this, they can be any level of soulmate, because we LOVE each other. Women do this to an extent, but men cannot help themselves. A True Emotion Mirror* LOVES to look at you (lovingly, admiringly, full of devotion, even when they deny their feelings). They LOVE TO LOOK AT YOU. They cannot peel their eyes off you. It is the cutest thing to see sometimes on video, when a couple of soulmates is interviewed and they simply can’t look at the camera for too long as their eyes are drawn to each other all the time! A female soulmate is more capable of keeping their eyes elsewhere, but a man will be powerless to stop themselves! This is not a compliment, or a case of romanticism, they are simply suckers for beauty, and in their eyes nothing is more beautiful than their True Emotion Mirror. (That sounded funny. :D) No matter what they do, we simply stare at them… Relentlessly, with complete abandon and disregard to the weirdness of it. But their gaze to their soulmate is never uncomfortable, simply amusing at times but it is good that the girls can still function, because otherwise soulmates would stop each other from ever moving away from each other, they’d eventually perish of hunger and all that… All in the name of beautiful eyes.

If a soulmate cannot, for some reason, reveal their feelings for their soulmate, they will have to force themselves from looking at each other. This seems to be physically painful, they seem to be white-knuckling to keep their eyes off the object of their desire. Teeth clenched, knuckles white, tense, that sort of thing, or avoiding their soulmate’s company altogether, moving to another part of the room turning their backs. Anything to keep them from looking.

Another indicator is how you sleep together… Some of us can’t stop staring even at night, but some of us fall asleep instantly in each other’s arms. This also applies to friend soulmates, because we have shared so many beds before – as siblings, parents and children… That we no longer even think about it… I used to say before I knew soul mates come in many forms, that you know a true friend if you can sleep with them – especially if it’s a nap! Having a nap with an adult friend is such an awkward thing to do, that if you can do that with your friend, you’ve got a true one.

The comparison: True Emotion Mirror Anger

The soulmate spirits can be extremely aggressive with each other as well, but what is typical about this anger is that it is mutual – they simply clash. They are both angry at each other, because their bond is so strong no amount of anger is going to severe it. This doesn’t mean they hang onto each other, it means that no matter how angry they once were, a simple “I’m sorry” will fix it on the spot, for the time being, as it’s bound to happen again until the issue is fixed. They cannot stay angry at each other forever, and it can be extremely difficult to even remember what the fight was all about. Not always though, some of us do like to dig things up endlessly. 😉 Their anger always comes from being insulted or hurt by the other; “is that how little you think of me?!” “How can you do that to me?” “How could you hurt me like that?!” They expect nothing but pure love from their soulmate, and when their expectations are met, although often through a misunderstanding, it’s met with an utter shock and disbelief. Often it’s not even a big thing – like Joe Perry from Aerosmith said about the reasons for their furious arguments with Steven Tyler: “It could be anything, a side-ways glance, spilled milk…” (Misters Tyler and Perry are extremely intense Trail Companions*; this works for all types of soulmates.) They simply explode for the smallest of reason, until they learn to trust each other’s love.

The most telling thing is that True Emotion Mirrors* fight from an equal footing, the other is not trying to chase the other out, they are simply butting heads like bulls. Neither one is trying to tell the other to go away, but rather make them behave more lovingly towards them: “You hurt me, you must not hurt me like that ever again!!” Or to save oneself from potential heart ache. One of my soulmates told me that he didn’t want to have sex with me on the first date because he wanted to respect me. I nearly scratched his eyes out: “You call that RESPECT FOR ME?! You know I am not one of THOSE PRUDE BITCHES!!” (Never been so insulted in my life!) As you can see, the soulmates fighting can be quite bizarre. 🙂

Also read about the Demonic Phase of a True Emotion Mirror

The balance: The mutual torment of separation

True Emotion Mirrors are never happy being away from each other, but they may still be unable to make it work together. Many things can happen to make this situation so, outside influence included. They will rationalise a lot, they will force themselves out of each other’s lives, move out of the state, get locked up for a crime they committed just to make sure they will stay away; extreme measures that is: Get married to someone else. Sometimes the soulmates will part in less dramatic ways, simply sad to being in a situation where they can’t be together. They simply accept that sometimes things don’t work out the way you want them to, and they’ll aim to find someone else (because they haven’t got that True Emotion Mirror -belief installed). Some may talk themselves into hating each other just to keep the distance, but the reason for this self-coercion isn’t that they don’t want to be together but because they can’t. Often, the reason stems from personal values that prevent a relationship from starting. (Marriage to another, best friends dating, wrong gender of the soulmate, family’s disapproval etc.) In cases like this, it is vitally important for both parties to work to find their authentic selves – but then again, it’s always vitally important.

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