You don’t have to trust people when you trust yourself

Often we wonder if we should trust a person or not. This is an interesting question, because it comes down to the question, that do you trust yourself to handle whatever the other person, in the worst case scenario, can throw your way? Are you smart enough to see it coming, and if you are a good judge of character or not. This self-reliance gives you a powerful position, and you end up wondering more whether you stand to hurt another person rather than whether they will hurt you (both in business and personal relationships).

It often helps to think about the worst possible scenario before it happens. This gives you the opportunity to solve problems before they arise and prepare for them. (An ability that is linked to the 3rd eye chakra, but does not mean “psychic skills”). This is also why we need to fortify our own selves for our soulmate’s return, because any self-confidence issues are going to throw things out of balance: You are exactly what your soulmate needs you to be, and every time you try and ‘polish’ the surface of your being, you are going to do damage more than good. Once you learn to trust yourself on a level that you know there is nobody in this world who would not love you as you, you don’t need to trust another person to treat you kindly or give you more than you deserve.

This is why some people find it so easy to throw themselves into a relationship where others are trying to calculate their chances of success in a similar relationship. People who trust themselves to be able to handle anything life (love) throws at them are able to live in the moment without having to wonder if they get hurt, battered or bruised in the process.

The biggest fear in a relationship is of course being cheated on, and secondly a break up with someone you truly loved. The threat there is not being cheated on or left, but to find out that someone doesn’t like you enough to stay true to you. (Note I said like instead of love. Like has to be earned, love can be unconditional.) That is the worst feeling in the world, to know that someone you like doesn’t like you back. Bugger love – that’s understandable. That is why we need to like ourselves so much, that even if someone dumped us, we could still honestly say: “I wouldn’t want to change who I am because I adore myself exactly as I am.” If that seems like a lie – there’s some work to do.

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