Group Marriage – several wives and several husbands

A marriage between several women and several men is quite difficult for me to understand, because it seems so easily divided into monogamous pairs with few left-overs, but I’ll give it my best shot. These people love hanging out in mixed groups more than the other type of polygamistORpolygynandrists, who strongly prefer either male or female company. They have a wandering eye and seem to have a tendency of surrounding themselves with people, but once they find their own group, they stick to it, as you’d expect. They’re pretty much known as extroverts, as they don’t need to hold off one gender in order to feel at home in a group. They seem very popular indeed, but if they don’t have their True Emotion Mirrors and Faux Core Personality Mirrorsaround, they’ll feel lonely and isolated more than any other type because they are not used to loneliness. Like everyone, they come alive when their True Emotion Mirrors are found, but when there is none of either gender, they are utterly lost and bewildered. The other polygamistORpolygynandrists know that loneliness happens, but for these people it is quite difficult to stay alone – and this is some kind of a soul challenge if that happens. (This is because there’s always a good chance of a friend of either gender to be around, where as the others may well grow up knowing that their own gender doesn’t interest them and the opposite is the opposite – socially distant and unapproachable but tempting even though you have to choose just one and they can’t be just friends, or they accept that the opposite sex is bizarre but their own gender is quite amazing to hang with.)

This group is most likely to form naturally without societal pressure because it starts with a friendship. The people who don’t really fit in will be taken out of the group by life’s other temptations, and those who belong will stay from year to year. There is a constant sexual energy between the members of this type of group, whether acted upon or not. They love to show off each other and be seen by other people, because their sexual energy uplifts all of them (but this is true for all True Emotion Mirror pairs and groups, this simply separates a normal group of friends from True Emotion Mirror group). Those are likely to be your True Emotion Mirrors in a Faux Precious Soulmate* mode. Sometimes these groups disband when the parties try and create monogamous couples within the group. People get jealous, they get offended because you “had to take it there” and the unity of the group is under a threat. Often they marry outside the group to protect the group only to have the spouses feel utterly left out when they return back to each other. Fighting internal feelings of love and desire is a part of the dynamic of this group – but a dynamic that should be given into without that fight. If you have friends like this… Hurray! You can actually talk about this unlike most of the other two types of polygamistORpolygynandrists because you can approach this from a heterosexual standpoint rather than: “hey Gary, do you ever feel like you’d like me to fuck you in the arse..?”

There is very little possessiveness between these friends, but they often resent each other’s (outsider) spouses. They feel like married life has ruined something special – because it has. However, if they’d return to one another with an open mind, they might find each other in love rather than friends, and that would make a massive difference in the way they interact. They simply love each other without competition, without fear of each other but the outside influence, as apart from internal coupling that makes outsiders of insiders there is no threat to this group but an external marriage or girl/boyfriend. A mixed group is rather rarely highly competitive, sexually speaking, but rather compete on an intellectual level. They gladly allow each other to enjoy each other sexually (once sexuality has been accepted as an adjunct to their friendship) but they carry on a friendly competition intellectually speaking. If they have even numbers of males and females, they may initially go as far as to decide amongst each other who should marry who, so that they can remain friends forever. They are likely to be quite supportive of marriages in general, as they don’t wish to compete over their partner too much, and the safety of marriage within the group works fine with them.

I would be willing to bet that most people fall into this category, at least those who wish for more rules and regulations to be upheld in the communities, less divorces, more loyalty, no mixing with a friend’s girl/guy -sort of stuff. This is paramount to their own group’s survival, one of which the other types of polygamistORpolygynandrists do not have, and ironically these rules play directly against the happiness of other types of polygamistORpolygynandrists who are often stuck with a Trail Companion* due to society’s insistence on monogamist ideals. The difference between a polygamistORpolygynandrist of this sort and a true monogamist is that the monogamist is quite decidedly a loner until they find their True Emotion Mirror. A true monogamist is likely to be quite reluctant to play the field when waiting for the right one, they simply wait (impatiently perhaps) – their entire universe revolves around one person and they can’t even see the attraction in the members of the opposite sex; much anyway. They’ll know a good looking person when they see one, but are likely to have very lose friendships and love connections until that Right One turns them into a blabbering idiot the kind that love struck people are. 😉 Truth be told, it’s difficult to identify a true monogamist, because most of us live under the impression that we are such and think our friends are too, but a true Monogamist would probably identify with introverts and doesn’t love crowds like introverted polygamistORpolygynandrists do.

Do you know where you fit? Please tell me in the comments!

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