Rape becomes very nasty when it turns angry

And again, we are dependent on societal view on rape and sexuality that leads to this. This is the perfect example of what “adding insult to injury” means. The act itself is about violence, beating someone up because you hate her. The rape itself is an afterthought, and the violence is the first instinct. To make someone know that they are hated, for being a woman if nothing else. (Why do women get hated by men? Because they are elevated in the status of an sexually untouchable creature that is so far above the male that even his touch makes her dirty.) Of course, we could discuss further about the notion that it is not okay to hate women, even jokingly, but it is well okay to do man-bashing publicly without limitations. Just reading your Facebook feed is a testament to that. Men are pigs, men cheat, men are idiots, they’re only after the one thing, yada yada yada. But if you’d reverse those messages to be about a woman, you would absolutely vomit out of disgust. You can playfully say how they take your money from you, but if you actually add any ill will to that notion, you’ll be taken down and fast. Women cannot be criticised. It is this idea that leads men into hating them so much – even if it wasn’t the individual’s fault.

To truly show someone their place, the best way to do it is to beat them up and then rape them. That act is an act of absolute dominance, and the raping part is somewhat of a natural adjunct to it sometimes, especially amongst men, because it drives home the message: “I am stronger than you, you are weak as a woman. Do not mess with me again.” The other aspect of violence during rape is simply the hate of a woman who is so alluring sexually, but at the same time so above it and so irritating, that the man has now been reduced to a rapist “because of her”. This is when the violent assault happens after the rape, not before it. (Before: I hate YOU, personal. After: I hate women, impersonal.)

A normal rape is an act of overpowering someone sexually so that they must submit to the act itself. No excess force is needed. However, when the anger in the attackers mind is combined with the sexually oppressive views of the society, the need for violence increases. That is when you start taking it out on the individual woman, the way society has made him feel, how he hates all women, (or women just like the victim), and one type of women who invite haterid is the sexually oppressed one. In their view, they are above it all, and therefore an ideal candidate for a random violent attack. Her demeanour is what sets the attacker off. Worse yet if she dresses as if she was inviting sexual attention but rejects her rapist. That makes him feel inferior and anger flairs. This is not about HER though, it’s about how society idolises women, and puts them on a pedestal often due to very little actual virtue to put them on a pedestal for.

This is not natural behaviour, but also, it is a normal reaction in certain circumstances to an unnatural society. Once the society learns to view sexuality as a normal function for both men and women, and even adolescents, the anger surrounding sex and sexual frustration will decrease dramatically. It most likely won’t put an end to all angry rapes, and certainly not the amorous type, but it will certainly help the victim with coping with the situation, and it’ll help her family and friends deal with the situation better. Another thing that would aid this situation drastically would be the acceptance of polygamyORpolygynandry¹ and especially Polyandry in the society. polygamyORpolygynandry² is one of those natural situations that have been turned into a status symbol created by forced marriages for a man and thus given a bad name for the entire form of loving, but when people are forced to choose just one, when in fact they are in love with several people, sometimes incredibly deeply (like their spouse and rapist for example) things turn weird pretty quick. (I encourage reading the polygamyORpolygynandry³ series next – somewhat a lighter note, really. 🙂 )

The rules of society need to be loosened up a lot, because if you give a person enough space, he will live in peace.

1. Depending on context. Some time ago, I used the term polygamy to mean either the generic concept of polygamous marriage or a MM+FF+ -type marriage or poly-committed relationship. ↩

2. Depending on context. Some time ago, I used the term polygamy to mean either the generic concept of polygamous marriage or a MM+FF+ -type marriage or poly-committed relationship. ↩

3. Depending on context. Some time ago, I used the term polygamy to mean either the generic concept of polygamous marriage or a MM+FF+ -type marriage or poly-committed relationship. ↩

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