Why rape happens

Now, we have to go into the event of an actual rape for a moment. This is outside the soulmate love bond that I discussed briefly earlier, when natural things happen in a society that doesn’t understand natural – this is the twisted form of rape, an ACTUAL rape and can happen to anyone despite their age. But this wouldn’t happen so easily if we didn’t lay down a perfect ground for it with our societal rules.

First we need an idea that a woman’s sexuality is somehow different to that of a man. They don’t want sex the same way, they don’t go after it, and it certainly must be beautiful and loving and in the sanctity of a marriage. (The more of or the stronger your belief in this stuff you believe, the more efficient a rape will be.) The more sexual oppressions (including the stigma of homosexuality) the person holds, the ‘better’ for the rapist. This creates a setting where a good, respectable woman is “above all of it”, holy, untouchable, something that needs to be worshipped, coaxed and bribed into sexual intercourse. This kind of a woman is equal to “the big guy”, corporations and governments that hold the power in society.

Then we need some liberated women who do the opposite; enjoy their sexuality in a way that a man does, to show men that women like this do exist. They present the desired woman, a relaxed and loving and unpretentious. This is the dangerous part – you will think they are the problem, but no, these women are the solution to this problem. This is the proper way for a woman to be, and this is what a rapist wants to turn their victim into – to liberate them: “See, it wasn’t that bad!” If we would live in a somewhat normal society, this would be the only thing needed for a woman (infant soul) to get over their fear of sexuality, but we don’t live in such society, so we’ll move forward to traumatise them:

We also need a society where we label those above mentioned women with labels such as ‘slut’, ‘whore’, ‘slag’, ‘prostitute’, ‘a bad woman’, etc etc. This makes sure you will never WANT TO BE liberated and sexually open, because it will make you a subject of one or all of those labels. A woman who openly and honestly enjoys sex is pretty quickly described as a slut or a whore – or that is at least the fear if not actual reality.

Now… For a rapist this creates an interesting position: He has the power to turn a woman into a shaking emotional wreck of shame or a whore, simply by raping her. In both cases, he has managed to spoil her and bring her down from her privileged position of sexual untouchability and sense of superiority. It’s her choice which category she will end up in; A whore or a victim. Most women choose the role of a victim, that is what our “understanding” of her plight make sure of. She gets all the attention she could possibly need if she subjects to the role of a victim. A woman who would say: “But wait… I loved it… It was actually very arousing and liberating…” What would you say to a woman who said that? She couldn’t even SAY IT, because that would be offensive to all the OTHER victims out there!

Then, we have the feminist aspect. For a woman to feel in control, they also need to be sexually untouchable. They cannot show weakness to a man or in front of a man. They cannot, if they intend to stay proud and respected, admit in any shape or form, that a man is something that they want both sexually and romantically, more than anything else in this world. And they also cannot be in any way weaker than the male sex, and in some twist of logic, this also means they should not be weaker than a man PHYSICALLY. It is an absolute fact that a 14-year old boy is physically stronger than most women are, if you’ve ever playfully wrestled one you know. Yet, a woman with feminist ideals will feel absolute shame for being physically overtaken by a grown man. We have created a fictional expectation on a woman to be physically equal to a man, and to be able to successfully fight him off during a rape, if you don’t succeed, you’re either dumb, weak or secretly wanted it – which makes you a sick weak slut.

There is NO WAY for a good, upstanding woman and a mother (to be) to handle a sexual assault other than to feel violated and shamed. In a normal society, being raped by a man you truly didn’t want should be akin the feeling of being hugged against your will by the same man. It is a touch you didn’t want, didn’t invite but happened, and if you didn’t get sexually aroused by it, and if it truly wasn’t about sex like most therapists repeat in a choir like dumb parrots, it should feel like an unwanted, smelly and sweaty hug. Disgusting, but hell, shit happens! If you caught no diseases out of it, all should be well. You can still say no to the rape, you can still fight him off, but if you can’t do it, good heavens, does it have to change your identity? It shouldn’t, if the society would not be based on such idiotic rules of sexual and romantic ownership and outdated sexual ideals.

Of course we have “rape survivors” who attempt to go through rape without it having had an impact on their sexual identity. These women are trying to fight off the shame attached to having been raped, but it is difficult in the society we live in, and a lot of the “surviving” is really just about repeating affirmations to oneself: “I am a survivor, I am a survivor” of a disgusting sweaty hug. Even they give too much power to the actual event.

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