Don’t mistake descriptions of soul bond love for how-to -guides

In the back of my mind, I think there’s a lot of people out there who take descriptions of True Emotion Mirror and Spirit Mirror -relationships and treat them as a goal or a how-to-guide on how to make a Trail Companion* relationship into a full blown True Mirror relationship by simply attempting to behave that way or trying to manipulate one’s own feelings toward the feelings that people report having towards their True Mirror. When we talk about these bonds, we start sounding “demanding” or “judgemental” towards those who don’t feel this way, but it’s not that… It’s simply a description of how people feel for one another in these relationships, it’s not what we learned to do, it’s what we feel naturally towards the other. Granted, some of these feelings do not happen until we learn to become whole in ourselves – and that means learning to love oneself first, the feelings for a True Mirror follow naturally. -> Find authentic self.

The how-to-guides that talk about True Mirror bonds are articles written about how you can improve yourself and on this site the whole category of Authenticity, because that is all that we can do to discover the “how to” part of True Mirrors; we need to discover who we are and how we are that. Any sentence with “You should feel…” only describes the feelings toward a True Mirror, similarly as if I was trying to describe to someone how they’ll know they have finally found their way into the Sun that they have never seen. “You should feel this warmth on your skin that you don’t need to rub in, you don’t have to cover yourself, yada, yada…” if you don’t feel the heat, then the Sun probably isn’t there, right? It is just as it is difficult explaining what the Sun feels like, it is difficult to tell what a True Emotion Mirror feels like in different situations, different people’s lives and in different Soul Age levels. “Only expect if you go out in the winter time you won’t know the Sun from the warmth really but the light…” If you don’t feel that way, it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person, it means either that a) you haven’t found your way to Sun at similar time and place I’ve described it or b) you haven’t yet found the Sun or c) the way I use language doesn’t really describe the event sufficiently for you.

Also, falling under the same category are personal stories of True Emotion Mirrors and what happens in these relationships. Most people have limited themselves to talking about ONE relationship in the context of True Emotion Mirrors, although we here at 5rats.ring-key-nevah.com ( 😉 ) know that there is at least 5 types of soulmates they might be talking about under the same heading and they might have 15 Spirit Mirror / True Emotion Mirror relationships that they have discarded as “insane” or “just lust” and have never mentioned in the context of True Emotion Mirrors and are actually talking about a Partial Mirror. Even then, they are only describing the situation from THEIR relationship, that PARTICULAR relationship and from THEIR subjective point of view. If their story doesn’t apply to you, it only means it doesn’t apply to you, nothing more. We can always pick up clues from other people’s life experiences, but the more you attempt to fit a relationship you have into a box another person created for you, the more confused you get – especially if the box has the wrong label on it to begin with. (You can’t even tell whether their label is wrong or is it you that is trying to fit a relationship into a wrong box or worse yet – both of you!) Labels ARE helpful –  that’s why I have so many – but they should never define the whole experience. They are here to help you along, not put you into chains and force you or your loved ones into a form by gun point. Their purpose is to say: “It’s okay if you feel like this”, especially with True Mirrors, which to me are the Ultimate thing, I must admit that sometimes I do talk in a dismissive tone of other bonds, you’ll have to excuse me for it, but I still attempt to be accurate in my descriptions – you can leave my opinions of their importance aside.

Again the moral of this story is the same as always: Be intuitive, don’t force things and aim to become your authentic self by differentiating between outside influence and your own true core and emotions.

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