The problematics of creating the Personality Mirror Soulmate Typology

Creating the Personality Mirror Soulmate Typology has been my first priority over the last 2.5 years. It has gradually gotten better and better, but there are some interesting kinks in it that I wanted to share with you. Nothing is ever black and white, and the grey areas are pretty fun when you think about it.

In the simplest form, a True Emotion Mirror compared with a Precious Soulmate* should be easily described being the same thing but Core Mirrors are without sexual interest toward each other. However, when there is a close friend or a family member, you sometimes get to a very vague area between one and the other, because when you truly love someone, you love them for everything that they are, including their sexuality, and even though you never wanted to touch them yourself, you would still rejoice their sexuality. You share details of your sex life that you’d never tell someone else, and in some ways you get your kicks out of these conversations too – for example. So, in that sense, I draw the line here by saying that True Mirrors share at least one sex partner in an ideal/authentic state, whether or not they engage in sexual activity themselves and Core Mirrors do not. However, we get into another mess when we have True Mirrors who believe to be Core Mirrors because they haven’t yet met that shared sexual True Mirror, in which case I have named them Faux Core Personality Mirrors- which is more a theoretical group because anyone who hasn’t found their mutual True Mirror wouldn’t know they are Faux Core Mirrors until that day that they discover their mutual True Mirror!

Then, I run into a problem between a True Mirror and an Undecided (previously Potential) Mirror, which should really be a sub group to a True Mirror, but as a comparative it is important that they are in separate groups so that everyone knows that even though True Mirrors fall in love instantly and intensively and what not, the Undecided (previously Potential) Mirror is right there in the same group with the True Mirror and is only lacking in life times spent together (and thus the bond is in a potential state rather than ‘separated’ state). They must be in separate groups, because there are too many differences in their reunion and in the fear factor that is through the roof with a True Mirror, but slightly less with an Undecided (previously Potential) Mirror… This makes some difference, as Undecided (previously Potential) Mirrors may create relationships that actually appear like they had something grown up going, for at least a couple of dates worth, before they broke up, where as True Mirrors make the most sane and confident person seem like a lunatic stalker or a drivelling idiot! — However, in the latest version of the Typology, I have created True Emotion Mirror Phases in which the Undecided/Potential Mirror can be found in the phases, both Undecided (Suggested) and Potential (Uncharted) Mirror. This creates another problem in describing the moment of first meeting, as the chart layout makes it a little difficult – but I will manage!

Then again, the Healing Mirror, although an Destination Soulmate, creates another problem because in many ways the bond seems “lesser” than a True Mirror, but at the same time it cannot be described with the same level of intensity as a True Mirror can be. However, then we run into the problem that if someone is truly non-perverted in their Authentic State, then their True Mirror is exactly what I describe but without that perverted lunatic sex-driven stuff that I so love to describe, their True Mirror relationship includes all the scary stuff but no perverted sexual stuff – only making love – but they’d sound like Healing Mirrors without the intense sexuality component. The major difference between a True Mirror to a Healing Mirror is really the fear factor, a Healing Mirror is not scary to the slightest, but a True Mirror will scare you half to death by just… being so so… so perfect! The cultural background brings out the issue, that our sexual side scares us the most, and it is often the rampant sexual desires that sends us running, that combined with the profound feeling of love towards the same person – since we don’t expect these two emotions to be awaken by the same individual, we freak out and run thinking ourselves completely sick in the head… But if your sexuality isn’t there, then this doesn’t become an issue even between True Mirrors who might then look like Healing Mirrors instead.

Okay, then we run the problem of insulting someone by differentiating between a Core and a True Mirror based on the sexual chemistry they share. The Core Mirror is exactly as intense as a True Mirror, but without the sexual aspect, as I said before, but if you haven’t met a True Mirror, this is extremely confusing because you love this person so much that you’d be quite willing to marry them and never worry about having sex again in your life. But if you should meet a True Mirror, you would have all these emotions and a perverted lust toward them to boot. Also, we cannot lump friends and family members in with the True Mirror category just to keep these people happy, because then we would just sound like we assume all family members are there for sex and lunatic perverted games and this typology understands nothing about anything without the sex factor, just like our good friend Sigmund Freud!

Then how about Partial Mirrors, why can’t we lump them in with Perfect Mirrors, at least the top half of intensity, or create two sub groups for “intense partial mirrors” and “luke warm partial mirrors”… The actual trouble that  I have found here is that EVERYONE is basically a Partial Mirror to EVERYONE. There is no other human being that will be so foreign to you that you don’t find anything similar in them, nothing to mirror in them, at least if you have half a brain. However, the problem here is that whilst most people are quite easily categorised as weak Partial Mirrors some are very close to Perfect Mirrors, but they simply won’t get over that line to Perfect Mirrors no matter what. The reason is the same as it is with all Partial Mirrors: their authentic self doesn’t match yours perfectly. If there is one thing in their Authentic Self that doesn’t support the  existence of your Authentic Self in them or vice versa, they are a Partial Mirror and there’s nothing we can do about it. Also, the problem we run in creating a strict group between “everyone else” and Partial Mirror is that there’s no real cut of point or clear sign where a “someone” becomes a “Partial Mirror”, but the signs are simply getting more numerous the closer we get to a True Emotion Mirror intensity.

When someone comes to Personality Mirrorsfrom the background of True Emotion Mirrors, then we are faced with another problem. True Emotion Mirrors categorise all of the Perfect Mirrors and some Partial Mirrors under the same umbrella term of True Emotion Mirror (True Emotion Mirror or Twin Ray etc.) based on True Emotion Mirror signs. (Many secondary True Emotion Mirror signs really refer to Suggested True Mirrors and Partial Mirrors – not True Mirrors.) The people who have pinned their hopes on a Partial Mirror are not going to be very happy hearing that I consider them just Partial Mirrors, and that creates a ‘hostile’ air to some of my posts. Things get worse when I point out Enigmas, which in True Emotion Mirror theories are best described as False Twins, because in True Emotion Mirror theories False Twins are described as something evil that Devil himself has sent your way to torment you – pretty much, and that they are narcissistic and selfish about your connection, but I describe them in a much more favourable light. Nobody wants to hear that a person who doesn’t love you have a good reason not to.

As if this wasn’t problematic enough, then we have to add the effect of Soul Age levels into the way that we interpret these theories! Infant Souls, Child Souls, Teen Souls, Adult Souls, Old Souls and Ancient Souls interpret the world around them in a VERY different way. They approach people from a very different perspective. Because of the very thing that Soul Ages describe, the young souls lack the insight to human relationships that comes naturally to an Ancient Spirit. The trouble is, we have been trained and conditioned to think each other as equals even though we are not equal. Again we run the risk of offence, because Infant Souls find it incredibly difficult to understand a social situation, but they are the people that most need guidance in their social relationships because they are inexperienced and very prone to stalking behaviours, and you can scream at them from the top of your lungs “LEAVE THAT POOR MAN ALONE HE DOESN’T LOVE YOU!” but what they hear is: “Don’t call him for a couple of days and he’ll come around.” An Infant Soul is brilliant at making all unpleasant things evaporate from around them, they simply filter them out and act like they never heard it – two days and it never happened. (I’m only now starting to understand I am wasting my breath.) However, an Ancient is more likely to be an anti-stalker, and is very easily convinced to take a step back and give up on their loved one… The good thing is that they have a very developed understanding of human relationships – but again the problem areas fall somewhere in between. Trying to find a description that speaks to both ends and mid-shades of the spectrum in more or less with the same clarity is one hell of a task to complete!

Oh, and then there’s the naming of different terms and concepts! How do you call something so descriptively that it leaves something to the reader as they read the word, without ruining the romance and still make it usable in a sentence… Let alone translatable, avoiding misunderstandings along the way. Only describing sameness without implying a pair of two is a task and a half! (Twin vs. Mirror)

And yet the final problem. I am writing this theory as a psychological study that combines a spiritual past-lives aspect to the theory. The process is complicated, but although spirit guidance is present, I do not exactly channel information from “the divine” or from God. As I make my way towards deeper understanding of the topic, I make changes to the theory accordingly, and that makes some people suspicious of the authenticity of the theory, as they think I am making this up as I go along… And in a sense, I am. 🙂 But, all these complications are still quite exciting and makes the attempt to complete this theory seem like worth the effort. There you have it, my problems. 🙂

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