True Emotion Mirror reunion; what happens when it finally happens

This is another topic request (keep them coming) and one I fear is very much overlooked due to the fact that once reunion happens, very few of us are still interested talking about it, or are comfortable talking about it since it will feel like bragging or sharing too intimate details with so many strangers. As you probably know, I am not together with my True Mirrors, but we have been given a chance to pre-live our lives in the spiritual realm so as to see if knowing your destiny before hand makes the experience itself any less interesting – to an extent. Therefore, I’m describing this in somewhat shaky ground because it hasn’t actually happened, but I know this is the ultimate goal.

There is a possibility that the runner and chaser decide to start their lives together out of mutual agreement that we “must”, without actually fully uniting, while still holding back emotions from each other. In this case, the relationship may look just the same as any other dysfunctional relationship and is based on mutual need to hold onto the other one by marriage for example or simple stubborn agreement that this is the way it’s going to be. Much like in this case, but with fears as the primary motivation. I won’t go into further detail about it, just saying that it can happen and the way to avoid it is to never to compromise and always be honest about EVERYTHING, every last detail about yourself and your feelings. Practising authenticity is so very important because of this.

The true reunion relies on complete honesty. Both of you will come to this point in complete surrender; you no longer protect your own core, you won’t fear rejection, the only thing you will want is to make sure your Mirror knows how much they mean to you. This is not about YOU, it’s about them. It is no longer about your fear of humiliation, rejection or being left, it’s about your fear that they might die not knowing how much they are loved. The moment that this happens maybe just another glance across the room, when you know you no longer need to fear them, and you know it’s time to go to them and tell them exactly how you feel. A wise family friend once told me, in his complete naivety about how difficult these relationships can be, that it is the simplest thing in the world; The only thing you need to do is to go to them and tell them: “Here I am. I am yours.” Obviously he was one of the lucky ones who never faced the first obstacle in their path to each other, but once the rest of us clear all of these barriers in our way, we too can go to them and say: “Here I am, I am yours.” Or perhaps, not say a word. (That is how I envisioned returning to my first found True Mirror; battle weary not having met him in years, too tired to combat anything, my feelings, his feelings, my ego, his ego… In my vision I was sitting at a bar, he came in, sat next to me although I wasn’t expecting him, not saying a word I looked at him, he looked at me and we left the place together… Knowing nothing more needed to be said. Our lives would always be joined from there on. Sadly, I felt I was closing 50, and I’m now closing 40, I feel like this could be our time but I hope it was just a younger me adding a decade to my age!)

The way that you reunite varies of course, as nothing is always the same with everyone. Some of you might wind up in an argument so volatile that you will simply tear each other open and be forced to reveal your feelings towards each other in the heat of the argument. Honesty comes out that way, through anger rather than spiritual work and contemplation. Some of you may finally have a proper conversation, some may get drunk and end up saying things that were never said before and actually remember some of it in the morning. (Unlikely as it would take a whole lot of being booze and no sleep!) Whatever happens the resistance, fear, lying to oneself and fearing for one’s own ego comes to full stop and you’ll finally be able to communicate.

When True  Mirrors find the way back to each other, their creativity increases when great minds think alike. They can now freely dream about the future (you can also do this beforehand before you meet) and their wildest dreams don’t seem too wild to each other, but exactly what the other one wants to do. Because they think so much the same way, they will be able to achieve a lot more things during their life time than anyone else in a normal relationship, hindered by partial compatibility and constant compromise. There will be no more compromising needed, because all their wishes align, intellectually, professionally, sexually and in life style choices. (If not, you haven’t fully searched all your options or you are not True Mirrors.) Any sign of misalignment in hopes and dreams is a sign of a Partial Mirror, as everything you want is somehow supporting their wants and vice versa – not in the way that “oh if you want that, I’ll support you all the way” but “That is amazing, I always wanted to be a jazz singer!” when the other one says he always wanted to be a jazz pianist but never found a singer he liked. Everything simply clicks, falls into its proper place. This is where honesty comes to play; whenever you hide your true wish or life goal, you force your True Mirror to an unnecessary compromise.

Whenever True Mirrors try to force the relationship into something unnatural to them, say naturally polygamousORpolygynandrous Mirrors would thrive to monogamy, they risk the relationship. Of course, if naturally monogamous Mirrors would attempt to force themselves into polygamyORpolygynandry¹ in order to protect the relationship, that too would risk the relationship. (If you think about either option, you should feel “oh that would be wonderful” kind of rush inside you when you think about the right combination of people.) If naturally childfree would have children because it is the way normal people do things, it is a risk to the relationship. If you buy a car when you both really love to ride bikes, that may not break you up, but it’s an unnecessary compromise. Any time that you feel like there is a better, more fun or exciting way of doing things, voice it, because it is the exact thing your True Mirror needs or wants to do. (The sooner you get into this habit the better of course, because it creates trust in your compatibility.)

You will understand your True Mirror without difficulty once you put aside  your insecurities that are always in the way of your communication. You look at each other and you know what you mean, you finish each other’s sentences without thinking, your life becomes like a dance of two individuals who have practised dancing together for so long they no longer need to think about it; this is because of the previous life times you’ve spent together combined with the experience of this one… If this sounds boring to you, then you probably have a nice little twist in there for you both to discover, because this relationship is never boring or stagnant if released into the wild. (This is the phase where we discovered polygamyORpolygynandry² and our dreams went MAD!! No matter we’ve discovered more True Mirrors than what I care to confess to, they all fall right into their own place making this relationship absolutely INSANELY exciting.) There will be very few words to describe the full amazement of this union, the only thing I can tell you is to dream the wildest dream you’ve got – start with yourself and allow  your thoughts to flow wherever they want and you will find your True Mirror(s) there with you.

1. Depending on context. Some time ago, I used the term polygamy to mean either the generic concept of polygamous marriage or a MM+FF+ -type marriage or poly-committed relationship. ↩

2. Depending on context. Some time ago, I used the term polygamy to mean either the generic concept of polygamous marriage or a MM+FF+ -type marriage or poly-committed relationship. ↩

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