People who do not want intense soul bonds

I must write you about the factor of personal choice in forging a connection as strong as a fully developed True Mirror or Core Mirror bond. These two are essentially the same, but one is romantic bond, the other is a friendship. They go through all the same jitters, yet, most of us don’t have a friend who would make such a mess of us as a True Mirror would. Some of us do. Great examples are rock stars that start out as best friends, and end up tearing each other to shreds when time goes on. Often, one wants to complete the bond, the other one doesn’t, but it may also be a question of both wanting it completely but neither trusting the other to want it. Steven Tyler and Joe Perry are a great example of such a pair, who have spent 40 years battling each other to come out complete in the end.

The reason why I bring up Core Mirrors is that I know a lot of you MAY understand it quite well why someone wouldn’t want to spend all that energy on creating a friendship like that. Friends are great and all, but if they drive you crazy like True Mirrors do, who would want that? When you reverse this, there are a lot of people who think the same way about romantic partners. Some don’t want connections like this at all. In this setting, a lot of people who get rejected by their True or Core Mirrors should not take it personally because it is the type of connection they reject, not you. I know a few people who shudder at the thought of a True Mirror – my ex husband being one of them – and I know why; they want to remain independent and strong on their own, because any True or Core Mirror ALWAYS has a weakness in their counterpart, without them, they will be lost and weak… On the other hand, with them they will be invincible, but what about the next incarnation? Even if we forget about them, the bond doesn’t die. We are still lacking on our own, and some of us don’t want that kind of a lack.

I personally am trying to fight off Core Mirrors. I have two that I love and cherish and want to keep close, but there are others who I do not want this drama with. One of them is my mother, who has been in the Muted Phase (see new charts) my entire life. I am someone who needs Core Mirrors for childhood and teenage only, and after that, I need them to back off and let me focus fully, completely on my True Mirrors, and anyone trying to wrap their tentacles around me once I’m a grown up will be shot down… Now, there are people who will only allow True Mirror type of love during their teen years, and after that they may want to focus wholly on their career or family commitments, and anyone attempting to get under their skin during that time will be shot down. This is simply another requirement of a True or Core Mirror; their sense of ideal timing must be the same as yours. To be honest, in my ideal world, I am born near by my True Mirrors and I grow up with them, but then again, one of my Core Mirrors, who I only know through Psychic Conversation, is the best fun during those years when we are single and looking. 🙂 (Very single and very looking in our case. :D)

As I mentioned, Core Mirror bonds are possible between a parent and a child, too. My ideal Core Mirror parent can’t wait for me to grow up, and would work with me to make sure I would grow up as fast as I can. My ideal Core Mirror child can’t wait to grow up, and they will most likely want to be the only child, too. At 12, my ideal child is almost ready to leave the nest, and is very independent and eager to get on with their life. At 12! It’s not even legal to let them go at that age! 😀 What is essential to these bonds is that we all agree on timing, we all want for them what they want for themselves and we never hinder or interfere in each other’s highest dreams and goals. That doesn’t mean we can’t fall in love with someone with a different idea of timing.

The troubling part is this; the connection is tested in every life time. Other options will be available, until you know 100% what you want and why, and that the 100% is perfect even if there was no drama, nobody trying to talk you out of it (adversity is such an aphrodisiac!), all the distracting drama between you is sorted; sometimes the obvious problems are only a distraction from the real issues in your relationship, the stuff that is between each of your ears. That’s the stuff that we get to in the later incarnations, when all that external has been seen to. The longer we’ve stayed together the smaller the problems get – makes sense, doesn’t it? Now, each life time what we want is challenged. And the closer you get to some people, the more they are likely to want the same closeness that you once had. If you have realised that this is not what you truly wanted or no longer want (because now you have other options that are not necessarily in the form of another partner) it may mean a long struggle to freedom or to reunion.

I’m not saying reunion isn’t possible, I’m just saying that not all runners run out of fear but out of conscious choice. Not all of them are certain of what they want, either. That is why full surrender, full acceptance is needed; when you no longer hold onto an outcome but accept things as they are, you will be able to let go and move on, or to move on towards the relationship. The fighting can only drive you towards a goal you think you want instead the outcome that flows naturally and is what you both/all truly want.

I know that with the relentless chasing that my Core Mirrors have done in my head (Psychic Conversation) in the least 2 and a half years, I’ve realised one thing: No matter what level our bond has been in the past, it doesn’t need to stay that way. Sometimes it is based on a dynamic that we didn’t realise for what it was…. With one of them, our relationship was based on me feeling superior to her and her feeling superior to me. I abused her seeming kindness and popularity with proper people while she abused my bad reputation and popularity with the sinister people to make herself look holier than thau even though she was a complete hypocrite (if she could have done what I/we did, she would have) the whole time. (Long story short.) We’ve been bonded together like this for thousands of years, until I figured out what it is – would you like a bond like that? Of course not. What bonds us together has to be love and mutual adoration, but it isn’t always so.

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