In the mind of a True Emotion Mirror chaser

I’ve been talking to a lot of True Emotion Mirror chasers, usually women who follow the commonly known True Emotion Mirror advice written by women just like them. This is how the average conversation goes:

TWC: I met my True Emotion Mirror 3 years ago and since then they have started a relationship with this other woman… (the background story is usually a long one, listing signs and events etc. For the purpose of this post too long to include. )

Me: OK, here’s what I think he was feeling, in the beginning he was hurt because he was ready to go “all in” the night you met, literally pick up the relationship where you left off in your previous life time but you rejected him out of fear of being seen easy.

I go on about how the relationship went downhill for him and how she managed to make him FEEL unloved and unwanted. I tell her how he now feels and how she could play this in order to bring him back.

TFC: But the woman she is with is a bitch. They’ve only got together and they are thinking of marriage! I can’t deal. It is a soulmate he’s with, a lot of karma there. All ego, of course… He is just running from his emotions!

Me: I know he is probably in a relationship with a soulmate but he is getting trust and respect from her, something that you haven’t shown him yet. First what you need to do is to stop treating him like you owned him and start working on your personal trust issues and discovering who you are and such what you can offer him…

TFC: ok, thanks.

A few weeks later they return to me with a sad news about a Facebook update he made about his romantic holiday with the new girl friend. I tell them that it is possible they have found their actual Twin there or you are a polyfracture or anything is possible, but be it as it may you’ll have to get in contact with your own soul first to attract the kind of love you are wanting.

She ignores me and continues to read romantic descriptions of the fulfilled True Emotion Mirror couples, explanations on how he is unevolved and in the wrong and how his other relationship is just a phase.

3 years later, nothing has changed. The other relationship has dissolved on it’s own but still no True Emotion Mirror who is now active on a dating site. What does she do? Keep focusing on how little he is doing to come back to her.

The reason why some women are completely incapable of focussing on their own half in this stems probably from past lives as a upper class woman who ever had to worry about the dresses she wore to lure herself a husband. Everything else was organised for her, and love came easy to her if she was pretty enough, and even if she wasn’t, she just might have had to wait a bit longer.

In modern days the girls of lower social classes have the advantage because they could approach their men themselves, jump into the bed with them and get down and dirty quick. They also didn’t have the luxury of being protected by a host of relatives ready behead their husband if he strayed, but she had to learn to be the best girl her lover had ever had. She had to learn how men think and treat them like an equal.

Women who have had the life span of upper class prostitutes also have an interesting dilemma. While their men (a lot of them) fall for them all the time, they are not safe to make a commitment and she is unwilling to even expect one. She wouldn’t know how to trap a man if her life depended on it, because she knows she is not one of those women men marry – they simply love them. (Check out my polyfracture blog if this seems familiar, I belong into this group myself.)

All this is solvable by a little self-reflection and re-evaluation and honest self-observation, to work on one’s self-esteem and to learn to understand the male point of view. Obviously there are tons of different life span -types that (we keep repeating and that) effect the way your attitudes towards love have developed. *Feel* your past lives, and ask yourself, what kind of life would you have WANTED to live in the past – that’s probably not far from what you actually did. (Be aware of an ego-reply if you feel like you *have to have been* someone of importance because you feel you’ve never achieved anything in this life time, that might not be the right answer, but you might have spent a lot of life times being jealous of those who have more, and you’re still doing it instead of working towards being it.)

Good luck.

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