Yet another way to look at soul bond relationships

To some of you who have found your way over here this post may be a relief, to some it may be a bit of heresy. I apologize to those who are convinced of the traditional view on True Emotion Mirrors and continue on with the rest of you.

I am convinced that True Emotion Mirrors were not created for you especially but that they are extremely highly evolved soulmate bonds that have gone through every trouble this world has to throw at them without breaking. Although the bond may have come close to a breaking point a billion times, it prevails because of one thing: mutual love. I find this view to be far more romantic than the traditional idea of True Emotion Mirrors.

I believe that True Emotion Mirrors are created by two basic functions:

a) History (proven love)
b) Compatibility (we are just alike)

History makes the bond more intense and durable, compatibility makes it possible. Compatibility happens at the rate of our soul’s evolution. A little by little we ‘lock in’ qualities that we want to call our own, and those qualities add to who we are as people. Whenever someone tries to convince you to change one of those qualities, it feels bad and forced if you attempt to follow their wish, because whatever the reason, you chose that quality for yourself and someone trying to take it away feels like an assault. The people who choose the exact compatible qualities, not necessarily the exact same but the exact counterpart to ours become our Potential True Emotion Mirrors , as in True Emotion Mirrors (without history). All of our troubles with True Emotion Mirrors come when we are insecure about the character trait choices we’ve made, and we look at our Twin in fear of not being liked for who we are (what we chose). A true Twin will love you for each choice, otherwise it’s a question of a Near Twin (close Trail Companion*).

Sadly, even spiritual work can be done in a way that it assaults your authentic self. Even if you managed to become Buddha himself but your True Emotion Mirror didn’t want to be Buddha’s counterpart, you would lose your True Emotion Mirror, not gain their love. True Emotion Mirrors are about spiritual connection and a soul bond, but we must learn to differentiate which parts of ourselves belong to us, and which parts are put there by a 3rd party. Everything that is an outside decision on who or what you should be is like a wedge between you and your True Emotion Mirror – take them all out and you will find your way to each other without further trouble. The single goal for spiritual practise should be to discover who you are, not who some other human being (or even your spirit guides) think you should be. A path to soul maturity often goes through all of these influences and forceful ideas of who you should be, but a truly mature soul can stand up straight and say: “Oh well, I’m no Buddha, but I love the way I am more than I would ever love myself as Buddha, all due credit to him.”

Make due care that your self-improvement efforts do not lead to more self-suffocation but towards greater personal freedom and greater maturity.

Good luck.

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