How sexual attitudes changed and will change in the future

For as long as we have been recording our history, sexuality has been at the center of our attention at all times. There has always been the attempt to liberate it and the attempt to suppress it running parallel in our society. Although religion is losing its grip on sexuality, social norms are taking over in a way that when before we answered to God for our sexual misconduct, now, we answer to the society, our current and future sex partners, our bosses and future bosses. Sexuality, to a large degree, is now controlled by business and politics; if you don’t want to suffer in your public life, you keep it in your pants… “If you do it, don’t get caught doing it.”

The fear of rape and sexual shaming is tightening the noose around pervert’s necks every day tighter, and yes, I consider myself one. Being interested in sexuality and talking about sexual topics out loud will, I have gathered, lower your search rankings on Google, so if you are having an adult conversation with grown-up individuals, that will potentially harm your business, even if your business was about sexual education! (It is funny, I just did a search in an adult search engine for something that would bring up my site, but Google is burying it because it is too sexual, but it’s not porn enough for adult searches… Oh dear!) To eat, you must be chaste, is the rule, but at the same time, people are tooting the horn of tolerance: “Gay people can be great parents too, and they are certainly just as much in love with each other than straight couples are… you can’t put a gender on love!” BUT, there is very little tolerance for gay people who want to sleep around and have no interest in starting a family as a result of their relationship. This is not sexual tolerance, this is tolerance towards different type of love.

Sexually speaking, the anti-sexual people are currently winning. Everything to do with sexuality is controlled, banned, and hissed about. To be taken seriously is to not even think about sex. Sexuality, in many ways, is treated like an embarrassing illness: “we understand you can’t help yourself, we understand you have to watch porn on an occasion, but please don’t mention it anywhere.” Sex is a bit like taking a shit; we all know everyone does it, but nobody wants to be there to witness the event or hear about it later on. I have, in fact, done a clear decision on my part to be completely open about my sexuality on all my websites and I do not want to separate my business persona from my sexual persona because I actually am just one individual. I find it to be a bit too much for some people, but hey, I will find my groove, and once I do, I don’t have to be afraid of being found out later.

Victorian times and sexuality

In previous decades, the perverts were much better hidden than now, and they stayed hidden because the normal people were so innocent and well protected that they never needed to become aware of what was going on right under their noses. Two men could be living together without arousing suspicion, because nobody would even consider such a thing as homosexuals. They were probably just a little poor… Or they really liked each others company, but the thought of them having sex would not occur to people, because they were BOTH MEN! In fact, my aunt became aware of the phenomena of gay couples as late as in the 90’s, when she found herself having lived next to two nice young men for a bit over a decade by then, never even noticing that they might be a couple. Also, on many ways, I became aware of the possibility that women might have fallen in love with me in my past only a couple of weeks ago; that to explain that no matter what you think you know about sexuality, if it doesn’t make sense to you, you can simply NOT SEE IT happening. The less people were talking about sexual topics, the less they would have noticed things around them, and that is why, in victorian times, people had “no sexual problems”. People were so innocent, in fact, that when a woman was given a diagnosis of female hysteria by her doctor, the treatment of giving her a relabelled orgasm (a hysteric paradox, if I recall, it seems to have been removed from Wikipedia) a week didn’t raise alarm, but husbands and fathers brought in their hysteric wives and daughters for the doctors to give them orgasms as a treatment for hysteria. Whether or not their patients were psychologically damaged through being subjected to this treatment is something I haven’t read any information on, but it could be that they were too innocent to be traumatised by it.

Earlier centuries

Even earlier, it was, of course, common for elderly men to marry young girls as girls of 6 or 8 years of age have, in many cultures, been quite old enough to be married. After that, it was anyone’s guess what kind of sexual treatment the girls would receive because that was completely up to their husbands to decide. It would suffice to say, that whatever they decided or did about it, spoke of it or publically admitted to would not have been taken as anything but a sign of his infinite wisdom, because a man who would discipline a wife, no matter how young, would have been likely to be regarded as a hero rather than the villain we would see him as today.

Going further down this particular rabbit hole, due to the major differences in classes, it was completely up to the upper class to decide upon the fate of the lower classes, and taking someone as a sexual slave to the point of death was the right of a man of sufficient ranking.

Further back, still

The dawn of our species would awaken the right of the strongest to be the only limitation to sexuality. “If I can stop other males from fucking it, I own it.” was the only justification needed. That is why polygyny is easy to understand for all of us, we think men simply want to own a lot of women, right? Clearly, modern poly-relationships are quite a different matter altogether.

In comparison, how sexually liberated are we exactly?

In reality, we are still very much recovering from victorian times in regard to sexual freedoms. It is also worth the note, that we are more aware than ever of emphatic choices, and the needs of the other individual, that is, a MAJOR difference to all previous centuries, where the needs of the upper-class men and strong men were the only needs that mattered. We are still afraid of sliding back into the kind of society that is completely run by men and their desires, and women who have probably been the most subjected to male dominance against their authentic will are instinctively the ones who fear this the most. However… In the future, I know sexuality will take yet another new form that many are still unable to see as anything but scary:

Future: The trust of instinct

In the future, I believe that as our level of understanding and self-awareness grows, and our ability to communicate our feelings to each other grows, we will be able to ensure each other that there is NOTHING WRONG happening here, nobody is getting hurt and nobody is really being attacked or objectified or disrespected, but that all that is happening is quite fun for everybody. Further, as we learn to understand the role of the soul and reincarnation, our fear of being hurt, getting hurt, and, even, allowing others to get hurt diminishes. Currently, we are interfering too much into each other’s lives and choices and particularly in their sexuality, and once this need to ensure everyone is fine gets satisfied, the way we will relate to each other sexually will be quite a different matter entirely.

We will learn to trust our instincts with other people over rules, regulations, and guide books, and we will know instinctively when someone needs help or liberation, and how to relate to other people even when we do not have a sexual relationship with them ourselves. We will be much more equipped to developing natural, authentic relationships to people, and going deeper into them than what we have ever done before.

The thing is, there is NOTHING wrong in its right place in the world, and there is no mistake that cannot be mended, and sexuality is something that people simply need to not be afraid of in order to make it perfect – or shall we say, they need to stop being afraid of being afraid of it, because the fear of not knowing how far you would be willing to go when someone takes the charge can be really a major turn on, and without the slight fear and confusion it takes a little out of the enjoyment. So, to balance the two groups of people:

To make the height of sexual pleasure the height of it, we need people who are completely anti-sexual to create confusion in this world. A complete pervert born into a surrounding of complete anti-sexualists is a happy kid indeed – given they will meet someone to play with by the time they reach 20. This being, that the way an anti-sexual messaging messes with the head of a born pervert is beyond delicious, and, as a true pervert myself, I really, really don’t want to see organized religions and sexual conservatives disappear any time soon…

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