What causes the near physical True Emotion Mirror pain in separation?

Some True Emotion Mirrors feel an immense amount of pain upon separation. Some can spend years apart in calm confidence knowing that one day they will reunite without experiencing no or only periodical or mild True Emotion Mirror pain. The difference between the two is simply experience. The couple who is confident of a reunion have already been through this so many times over in previous lifetimes that they cannot be bothered panicking about it, even if logically they would doubt the possibility of getting back together, deep down they simply know.

Also, sometimes it’s only the other that fears being left alone for good while the other wanders the world feeling slightly irritated that their reunion *again* didn’t work out at the first attempt and that they *again* have to wait for the other one to grow up. Contrary to a popular belief, it is usually the male who is more mature and spiritually in peace with himself than the female, and, therefore, it is the female who is left with all the spiritual work while the male blissfully focusses on running their business or raising a family with another woman. If they would be doing spiritual work, they would evolve too fast for her to catch up.

What is quite telling is the female need to over-complicate love, and to make fairytale stories about True Emotion Mirror love before reuniting with their lover, who is quite confident in their role as a normal human male. To further point out the maturity of the male, they may, to appease and to play along with the female, go along with the whole True Emotion Mirror thing to keep her happy as if they’d play tea party with a little girl. Men are also mature enough to give their girl the benefit of the doubt; perhaps she is right about the whole True Emotion Mirror thing and he’s simply too blind to see it.

The need for True Emotion Mirror fairy tales stem from the need of protecting one’s own ego from the quite blunt realization that you screwed up the biggest love of your life quite frankly. 🙂 Sorry to tell you, but women are often quite freaking clueless about what to do with a grown-up man who no longer wants to let his woman mother him in exchange for the privilege of being in a relationship with her. There is, of course about a million reasons for True Emotion Mirror lovers to break up, and quite likely none of them were “meant to be”. 🙂 In some sense, of course, you learn as you go along, but the way things work is that when you hit your toe in a sharp corner, you learn to avoid them. The corner wasn’t there to teach you that kicking it will hurt like hell, but you learned the lesson as it became relevant to your life. At the same time, we are constantly teaching each other on how to treat each other and sometimes even testing each other on who we are as people. So, while the other Twin is quite happily running away from an immature chaser (most likely) the chaser is going through a world of pain trying to figure out what happened.

Why are women spiritually more immature than men?

I will have to put my spoon into this one for a second. The simple explanation for female immaturity is that for yonks women have been raised in that way, and because we reincarnate, what used to be the ultimate form of feminine innocence is now simply called “immaturity”. Not all women fit the category, of course, there has been women world over who have not submitted to the expectations of a lady, and these women were the ones who raised hell to get early feminism change the landscape we live in. In all fairness, it does not cater for all women equally, since not all women want to feel mature and responsible of themselves, even if it was their freedom to be.

We reincarnate linearly, what your life is like now, is as close to the situation of your previous life as possible. We change but only by our own doing and initiative.

The cause of immense True Emotion Mirror pain during separation

There are several ways and reasons for the True Emotion Mirror pain, and here are some:

1. You were separated by a reason out of the control of both of you, and that is when you feel each other’s pain rather than that of your own. The pain is caused by your guilt of allowing it to happen and your conflict of feeling like you should be able to control it but not knowing how. You feel like you’ve let the other down, and in some sense, you have; You failed to manifest happiness, plain and simple.
2. You were left by your True Emotion Mirror and  you are feeling pain because your idea of who you are and what you are worth to another person, particularly your True Emotion Mirror, is under threat and attack. The pain is caused by the avoidance of truth, the refusal of looking into the mirror, so to speak. The fact you were left is not the reason, the fact you might be the blame is. (You can take that as instant karma.) Emotionally, you feel forced into looking into the mirror at the same time as you fight against it; like someone was physically forcing you toward a mirror, while you fight back with everything you’ve got. (There is a possibility there is a more constructive way of phrasing this.)
3. One of the moments when a True Emotion Mirror pain can attack you out of the blue is when you realized you rejected your True Emotion Mirror based on false beliefs of their motivations or without realizing they wanted you in the first place. This can cause a major attack on you, when you realize the pain you caused for your True Emotion Mirror and yourself, and what you missed out on as a result.

True Emotion Mirror pain is mainly shame, regret, guilt, or fear of blame or shame. I will have to elaborate the fear of shame, the rest of it is probably quite self-explanatory, I trust. I must first say that the True Emotion Mirror separation pain is not caused by being so much in love. You can be completely and utterly and truly in love with your True Emotion Mirror and spend a couple of decades apart from them without feeling pain because you are so securely in love with them.

When a True Emotion Mirror feels pain caused by the shame of being left, their ego is very much attached to the idea of being “a catch” and being proven wrong.

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