Bisexuality and poly-relationships, are all poly’s bi?

Polysexuality is quite an interesting topic to explore, even if it was only from a theoretical point of view. Often, polygamyORpolygynandry¹ is automatically linked to the form of polygyny; one man marrying several wives whose primary job is to rub the husband’s feet and nurse his babies, right? In reality, and in modern day reality, in particular, poly-relationships are much, much more varied than that.

Although it makes perfect sense, that if you are already bisexual, you would quite obviously like two partners of two different genders. Now, if you are bisexual, you might start seeing yourself as the selfish one, but in that scenario, everyone wins. Someone gets to have two of the same that they love, and two others can have two of the different sort, right? Two bisexuals and one heterosexual of the correct bent will make a beautiful team.

OK, that makes sense, but what about straight polygamistORpolygynandrists?!

A man crush! That’s the feeling you can connect with, I’m sure. When the polyandrist men find their authentic partners, they are madly in love with the same girl and they have a man crush on each other. They simply love these guys, but that doesn’t necessarily mean a sexual relationship in the strictest sense of the world, but they do need a tingle out of the idea that you could share a girlfriend, because if that guy loves your girlfriend, that’s a boost to your authentic ego, too. (When something feels really good, it boosts  your authentic ego, and when you feel like you’re being accepted as someone’s equal, you’re boosting a false, weak ego.)

You can also have man crushes or girl crushes on people who you are not an authentic poly-partner with. That simply means you simply adore them but sharing a the opposite gender partner would feel like a slight insult to you and it would simply not feel good like described above. You still love them, and you find them incredibly attractive as an individual, but you would feel threatened or insulted if you had to share a partner with that specific individual.

And, at the same time, you might not mind being in another type of poly relationship with that same person! I am, personally thinking about a girl who I had a girl crush on, and although I would NEVER EVER share a single boyfriend with her, I could sooo very easily have her in my group relationship, only, not a marriage. Something temporary that will dissolve over time and we would all know that this is simply playtime. I could easily imagine that to be a fantastically exciting part of my life around my early to mid-twenties, after which, I would start forming a tighter bond with specific guys that I might find in that very group or something. Whatever comes, hey?

I know that in my authentic state, I am closely bonded to my male True Emotion Mirrors, but before that, I could try ANY relationship type, apart from polygyny or lesbian monogamy. I am simply not sexually attracted to women directly, but I do not mind looking at them. Something you could try if the effect is the same for you; I have noticed that if I see a sexy photo of a girl looking directly to the camera, I get really uncomfortable with it because I feel like she’s coming right at me and I feel like I have to reject her. I enjoy watching photos in which she’s like a work of art, detached from me or with a guy, that is hot, but as soon as she’d show interest in me, I would not like that. Now, if you don’t understand why I have an issue with that, you’re probably bisexual.

(And I don’t, personally, believe that people who get aggressive when aggressively hit on by a homosexual are in denial of their sexuality, they are simply defending their right to their own body. Also, I believe that people who believe themselves to be straight but who are mildly or strongly disgusted by straight sex, are, in fact, either with the entirely different people or they are, in fact, gay. It is the exact feeling I get when I think I would have lesbian sex, I would throw up for a week!)

1. Depending on context. Some time ago, I used the term polygamy to mean either the generic concept of polygamous marriage or a MM+FF+ -type marriage or poly-committed relationship. ↩

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