How to relax about your spirituality
Have you been there? You read a bunch of stuff about how to manifest this and how to make your soulmate come back to you, and how to make people like you by not caring what they think and what not and what not? You wind up obsessing about the brilliant life advice you’ve heard and get more and more stressed as you go along, rather than the opposite, right?
Yeah. So here’s a specific post about how to relax about solving your financial situation, but along those lines, here’s some more:
Remember this: nothing is ready until it’s ready. If you cannot stop worrying it’s because there’s still something to worry about. If you can’t stop obsessing about, say, perfecting a project you’ve been working on, it’s because there’s still work to be done. And, if you are in a hurry, it’s because you are in a hurry, so we come to the question; which was first, the egg or the chicken?
Your TOOLS are here, doesn’t mean your work is done
Everything you need to stay on your path is already here. THIS INCLUDES your habit of procrastination and lack of motivation. They’re there to say that’s not the right path… Or not the right way to go down that path.
As I said, everything you need is already here. This doesn’t mean that you can simply stop working at it and everything will magically fall into place. You’ll still feel the drive to work, right, and that is part of the process. You’ll procrastinate here, and work on there, and whatever you NEED TO BE working on is where your attention is kind of automatically drawn to.
I don’t know why you need to play video games at this time, but heck. I’m not THAT big of a genius. 😀 Maybe ponder on the content of your game. What is it trying to fill up in you? What are you SEEING IN IT?
Letting go
When people say that “as soon as I let go, stuff happened”. The true reason why something good happened was probably what happened before. This is because when we release an emotional grip on someone or something, we allow our soul collaborators to feel their own feelings.
That is probably the only thing that you can directly have an influence to that has an immediate effect: You stop trying to awaken someone else to their feelings, and as soon as you stop trying they go: “Oh wow, THIS is how I feel!” This is because while you are hanging onto someone, you are LITERALLY BLOCKING THEIR ACCESS TO THE PART OF THE BRAIN THEY NEED IN ORDER TO FEEL MOTIVATED TO DO WHAT YOU WANT THEM TO DO, or to feel the love that you want them to feel. This also applies to the lover of a friend, for example…
If you want to force a friend’s lover into feeling love for your friend, your friend’s lover cannot feel the love. Your friend will remain alone and your friend’s lover can’t feel anything for your friend. As soon as you let go, they’re together! So allow people to decide what to do and how they feel for themselves; learn to trust others to make up their own mind… Learn to trust that people (men!!) have the capacity to do right by you and right by the people you love.
This also applies when you are trying to make someone buy a product or trust someone (yourself) to be the best at what you do. For as long as you are trying to convince someone else (or a group of people) to do something as if it was a bitter medicine to swallow, you won’t have a lot of success doing it. So this is why  you need to learn to trust that people will be capable of making their own mind.
Relax into your body
Now… Sometimes you cannot force others from trying to help you from the spirit world. That can have a dire effect on everything you’re doing, including the way you eat, how much you drink, how much or little you enjoy your sex, even. (This will irk and anger you to no end: if you have a mother who is terrified that someone will hurt you during sex or is forcing you into sex with them or whatever, they can be hovering over you while you are trying to get it on with someone TRYING to find ways to make sure the monster of a man isn’t hurting her little daughter… And stop all possible good things from happening between you two.) To force everyone else to mind their own business, you will have to direct your attention to yourself and start regaining your self-confidence and right to be your own boss.
Do this by centering yourself. Focus on your core and how you are feeling. It is most likely pointless to do this while you are acutely trying to get something done, so train for this so it becomes natural to you. Focus on this sentence: “I don’t have to do anything.” Everything that you will do from here on in, today, will be up to you. Relax into the knowledge that you know what you are doing and why, and you know what you want to achieve in life. If you don’t, relax to the thought that you can sort it out on your own (if you can). If you don’t know what to do, then, ask for spiritual guidance.
Stop pretending you’re on top of things
One of the most powerful goals is to admit to yourself when you have no idea what you are doing. If you are surrounded by people who want to help you… You know what happens when the driver in a car is completely lost but simply won’t admit it? Everyone in the car knows you have no freaking idea where you are and you still insist on pretending you know what you are doing and where you’re headed. All they want you to do is to stop the freaking car, have a break and ask for directions or, at least, read the map if you’re too proud to ask anyone! Just stop the car and rethink things.
(If only you could tell the people in the car to get the hell off it and let you drive around alone until you know where you want to go, right?)
Just let me think!
If you feel like you’re pulled in a thousand different directions by helpful people, stop them by focusing on the request: “Just let me think about it. I will figure it out.”
Then, do that.
If stuff isn’t happening, there’s a reason for it
Don’t worry about hurrying. Slow down to hurry up; you don’t have time for mistakes. Make sure you enjoy every action you are taking, because if you enjoy it, YOU KNOW you are on the right path to happiness, otherwise you wouldn’t enjoy it. If you don’t enjoy it, the road is wrong, or you have too many people trying to convince you off your path to enjoy it. Which is it? You know it.
Sometimes the most important thing for you to do is to regain independence, as in, cut ties to people who want to help you. They will leave you when they know you are enjoying your life. People who love you only want to make sure you are happy, and no matter how much they seem to hate you, normally the only thing they hate is your unhappiness.
Once you are happy, they’ll relax and go away.
The reason why you are most likely surrounded by people who only want your happiness is that we are only ever truly obsessed by people who we love, and want to share our lives with. It is SUPER difficult to hold your attention on someone who you honestly don’t like (unless they are directly in the way of your happiness or calm). That is why even your demons love you. They simply want to liberate you, not hurt you. They are not always good at doing it, but knowing this is important: they want you to be happy, so to make them leave you, try and figure out what makes you happy, no matter how small it is…
Food
Speaking of food… Let me tell you, I have never eaten SO MUCH JUNK as I have done in the last 4 years, being surrounded by people who only want to make me happy. I am also super conscious about eating junk all the time, so I am panicking about what it is about to do to my body. When I am continually surrounded by everyone I freaking know, knowing that I am eating stuff that makes me happy in the short term but will turn my body inside out 5 minutes later, you know I am not relaxing about my digestion, am I?
When you eat… Anything. Trust your body to deal with it. You can’t help it out by being involved, it’s your body’s area of expertise, the part of yourself that does automatic things. The only thing you can do about it is to mess up the system by poking into it. Don’t worry about what you eat. Just eat it or don’t eat it, and let your body deal with your sometimes awful decisions. (And only focus on helping it along with some good ones.)
(Also, stop worrying about not being able to not worry about it for a while. Just remind yourself to trust your body, that is all you need to do. You’ll figure it out eventually!)
Any (spiritual) advice you don’t understand
Now, when I first started educating myself on what other people consider spiritual, half the stuff was completely beyond me. They’re like: “Oh just feel that energy and then move it over to your…” I don’t know… “Area of the Pink Elephant,” and I’m like… “That makes no sense at all. What energy, what area? Move how?!” Now, I could explain to these people a whole bunch of stuff they got wrong. :p So… What to do is to do nothing. If you find something interesting, just keep that in your thoughts. “I would really like to know what that means” or “That would be fun to know how to do.
Little by little, on its own, it will find it’s way to you, or one moment you realize that OH WAIT, I’m DOING IT! You will teach it to yourself when you simply focus on the “oh how cool would that be” rather than “I have no idea how to do that, PANIC!”
Bad choices for soulmates
MUCH of your stuckness has to do with having made bad choices for soulmates in your previous lifetimes (and this one). They can truly hold you to a place in ways you can’t even tell. Opportunities will be blocked because your friends don’t want you to feel like you should be “better than them” for them to admire you and so forth. There may be a ton of people who may have a different view on what you should be doing in life, and as they are all pulling you into different directions, you’re playing video games.
Sometimes, being popular is the worst thing that can happen to your success.
Your BIGGEST GOAL
And then, the final thing. If you can identify it, this is especially for people who are freaking smart but have like no buffer between a paycheck to paycheck; everything you have goes to bills and living, so if that sounds like you… This is something  you need to get on board with: Your soul has a goal, different to what you are currently thinking, or you are simply not there yet. Your financial situation is a GREAT way from keeping you from ruining your own plans. If you had money, you could ram your half-baked ideas through into public knowledge with no effort, but since you are broke, you have to make sure you know what you are doing.
Identify what you really want to do in life, and go back to all ideas you’ve had over the years. “I want to be the BEST IN THE WORLD AT…?” What? “I want my own secret garden.” What is the idea that moves you the most? That is the goal you are self-sabotaging yourself for. Subconsciously you are making sure you won’t sell yourself short. For as long as you truly think there is a possibility that you will get where you want to be and enjoy being there, you will hold yourself down for your promise: “You promised yourself to be happy and do this thing…!”
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