Women and the myth of a heterosexual romance

“Oh Bart, she has made you into something every mother wants; A girl!”

Marge Simpson

It angers and frustrates me every single day. The systematic destruction of the male gender by the elitist female that believes men should be as much like women as possible in order to be “lovable”. Granted, if there is a male love coach, he is most likely trying to train women into being more like men, just to avoid the annoyance he feels for the female, just as a androphilist female coach, (such as myself), would be trying to train women into thinking more like men – just to tolerate the idiocy of women. We all want to train each other into people that we would like more, but it doesn’t work, because we all are what we are, so what we should be doing, and what I am trying to do is to stop people from looking outwards into guidelines on how to be, but to look internally and figure out what you already are and have always been.

I, personally, feel about love the same way an average guy does… Sex, more sex and then, after that, a bit more of it. But the feeling of sexual arousal is somewhat of a mystery to A LOT OF PEOPLE. Love is a mysterious feeling, and not everyone identifies it correctly. Neither of those feelings. Sexual desire and true love are inseparable. In some form, it exists between a child and his or her parent, and it is completely natural and beautiful. But here is what throws people off the scent of what sexual desire feels like: Most people are bisexual by nature, and they are PRIMARILY attracted TO THEIR OWN GENDER. When they try to force things towards heterosexual love, they do not feel genuine love, they feel a forceful emotion that only vaguely resembles love. Then, they try to change that person into someone who would think more like their own gender.

A truly heterosexual person feels absolute adoration toward the opposite gender. To a heterosexual person, the opposite gender is magical, beautiful, alluring, and sexy. Heterosexual women feel this way about men the same way as heterosexual men feel this way about women. Now, most people are bisexual, so they simply feel some people are magical, some people are not, and that magical person can, and most likely will, arouse them sexually. The beautiful tingly feeling that makes you want to get really close to someone, be that your grandmother or your best friend, that is, in fact, sexual arousal. I don’t care what our social norms say about it, but it is what it is. Truth doesn’t bend because society has an issue with it. We simply blind ourselves from it, but it won’t change anything.

So. Sexual arousal takes many forms. One form is that if you allow it flow, you simply feel aroused “on their behalf” in a way. You feel your loved one close to you and you feel their desire for someone else, and you feel joy for their lust, because you know how happy it makes a person to feel that way. You maybe holding your child and feel sexually aroused by the fact that you made that person with another person, and you feel ten times the woman than you were before that child was born or conceived, or you feel ten times the man. That, my dear freaks, is still sexual love, even if it doesn’t take a direct sexual expression toward the child.

This sexual love is designed to bind us together with our closest, most intimate soulmates. The soul doesn’t care if you carry the same last name by birth, what it cares about is that he or she is close to you for life. It insists on staying with you, no matter what, and if that means that they are born as your child, so be it! And this leads us to the next obvious thing: If you are forced into monogamy, what is to happen with the other intimate, even actively sexual soulmates of yours? Your children or your extra marital affairs? Your call, really. The soul doesn’t care.

If you want to end pedophilic or incestuous relationships  – or reduce the quantity or danger of them – allow the ideal of monogamy to fall apart and allow polygamyORpolygynandry¹ to take its place as a natural form of sexual love relationships. But, that is such a touchy topic that I am going to leave it alone for now, and describe what happens between adults who are in relationships with the wrong people.

Most women don’t hate sex. They simply hate sex with men. 😀 (And the rest lust for it and only men, so don’t get discouraged!) Some women are only comfortable physically near other women, and that is fine, obviously, and these women should not seek a relationship with men, but with women! Now, let me paint a picture of two women who are so close the men in their lives feel they have a relationship with both of them, not just one. When this happens, these girls should, actually, be looking for a relationship with ONE man only, and that man should love them both the same way as they love each other – but a lot you now realize that it is highly unlikely they’d find a man like that, because polygynous men are rather rare… just like polyandrous women are. However, that should be your benchmark of how you should feel toward the opposite gender, and if ever you feel like you are in a relationship first with your best friend and only secondly with your spouse, your spouse is in the wrong relationship. He or she deserves to be loved the same way as you love your friend.

Women have grown to hate men because they are separated from their families and girlfriends and “forced” into a union with a man. Obviously, NO MAN wants this, no man ever wanted to force a woman into a relationship with them, but was simply oblivious to the fact that women don’t feel the same way about men as men feel about women. No wonder they hate sex, and no wonder men are continually dissatisfied with their sex life. And now, women are running campaigns only to lower men’s expectations so low, that they don’t even get disappointed anymore… The same as women. We all have sort of accepted that true love doesn’t exist and that sex is hot only in movies.

Remember that we always tend to believe that others feel the same way about things as we do. Then, we expect people to react the same way to situations as we do, and when they don’t we feel they are “in denial”. Sometimes we get it right, sometimes we don’t but when we don’t even CONSIDER the possibility that “I might be mistaken” it is clear our chances of being wrong without ever realizing it multiply dramatically.

I always thought women loved men the same way I did. I always thought lesbianism…. OK, you will find this funny, but it is true – I always thought lesbianism happened only because they couldn’t find a guy. I thought every woman wanted to be with a guy, and settled for a woman if they HAD TO, a bit like at a dance when there’s not enough male partners and you’re forced to dance with another girl. I know a lot of men think this way, too, but to a heterosexual androphile the idea of girls being into girls is a bit of a funny one. 😀 I bet that there are gynephiles out there who feel exactly the same way about the male gender; something you have to settle for if you can’t get a woman.

You might try this… If you asked your friends or lovers that which gender they would choose to share their lives with “if they could”, you might be surprised how many of them would choose their own gender as their primary wish. “If they could”. They regard it a simple “that’s how it is” that we marry the opposite gender and that that is the expectation that we all must follow. Lucky are those who actually want to share their lives with the opposite gender, because those people are few and far between – and even them are likely not be very happy, because we are all a bit screwed up with the mix of odd pairs that simply do not fit well together…. A gynophilist man and an androphilist woman are not going to be much happier together than an androphile man and an gynophile woman (the normal couple) would be.

For normal people

If you feel our eternal search for heightened emotions and great love and sexual experiences feels exhausting or futile, you bet your eternal resistance of us doing it feels exhausting and futile. We don’t understand why you have such an issue with us doing what we like to do, when you can, by all means, remain unfulfilled and bored for the rest of your lives if you want to, it doesn’t bother us at all. This does not mean that YOU HAVE TO do this, no, it means WE WANT TO do this and change the way WE live, the only thing you need to do is to fill your dating profile as “I don’t want to feel great love or have amazing sex, all I want is to shrivel up with someone and argue about which TV channel we should watch while getting fatter and fatter.” That is your call, you do what you want but let us do what we want.

1. Depending on context. Some time ago, I used the term polygamy to mean either the generic concept of polygamous marriage or a MM+FF+ -type marriage or poly-committed relationship. ↩

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