There is a big difference in whether the problem is that your True Emotion Mirror doesn’t believe in monogamy or that they are not monogamous. The first is a fear that they might not get their monogamous relationship to work even if they wanted to, and the latter is that their ideal way of life, what excites them, is some form of poly relationship. (Similarly, you could ask someone how many children they want. It is a question of an ideal, and in regards to children, you could easily see why someone might have a perfect number in mind.)

To give you a theoretical answer that doesn’t calm your nerves much, the very definition of a True Emotion Mirror ensures that there will be no miss matches of sexual fetishes between True Emotion Mirrors , nor any other kind of miss matches, definitely the kind that cannot be solved. The love simply will not ignite between people who are incompatible, yet, you do have to be careful that you know love when it’s love and don’t mistake hate or envy for love, for example, or mistake a lower soulmate bond for the ultimate one.

The thing is; if someone has an incompatible sexual fetish or an incompatible soul bond to someone else, instinctively, you turn off. That is why the only safe partner to choose is one who turns you on by just being them. Mistakes of choosing someone “suitable” or “right” resulting to incompatibilities in the sexual sense are made CONSTANTLY on the Spausal Spirit Mirror level, and with Lovers’ Choice Soulmates* (that will turn out to be incompatible in the long run) but NOT between actual Destination Soulmates of either tier. True Emotion Mirrors either don’t believe in monogamy or they do, but they never disagree on what they actually prefer. More to the point than worrying about whether your True Emotion Mirror is gay, bi, or straight, most women should look into their own bisexual tendencies and their own feelings towards other women. As an androphile polyandrist myself, I can clearly see the incompatibilities between most women and the average guy, I can tell them why it isn’t working but I can’t make something that is not even meant to work, work.

Technically, what this means is this:

A naturally polygynous male can have several authentic True Emotion Mirror connections to several women but no really deep friendships to men, and an ability to create more connections to women,  while a naturally polygynous female will have one (or very few, and never more than one at a time) authentic True Emotion Mirror connection to a man, and several close female friends, close enough for them to feel elated about the idea of sharing a guy between them (or they wish they did).

A naturally polyandrous female would have several authentic True Emotion Mirror connections (and an ability to create more) while a naturally polyandrous male would have hard time creating a true, deep connection to women – and is likely to ever find one such a connection in their lifetime, while having several close male friends… again close enough to feel energized about the idea of sharing a wife.

And then there are the variations! (What is yours?)

Do you actually believe in monogamy yourself, or are you just told to pursue it?

More to the point than worrying about whether your True Emotion Mirror is poly, mono, gay, bi, or straight, most women should look into their own bisexual tendencies and their own feelings towards other women. As an androphile polyandrist woman myself, I can clearly see the incompatibilities between most women and the average guy, I can tell them why it isn’t working but I can’t make something that is not even meant to work, work. I also know that most women and their “True Emotion Mirrors” are sadly Spousal Spirit Mirrors , or Bosom Personality Mirrors if they’re really lucky. (I just happened across a video about a parrot the other day and saw clearly the Precious Soulmate* bond between her and particularly one of my True Emotion Mirrors , who instantly fell in love with her – and so did I. I also realized that one of my True Emotion Mirror’s exes was “clearly a True Emotion Mirror” based on how she wore his face, or he wears her face, depending on how you look at it, as in, they could have easily passed for a brother and a sister, but still, I can feel her be attracted to other women but her role being confusingly similar to that of mine, so that it would make perfect sense why he was attracted to her, even though they… could be a brother and a sister. And yes, I loved her, too.. Or I could easily see why he’d be attracted to her, and my first reaction was to bark at her “long face”, because my insecurities took the front seat, even though I knew it would pass.)

As a result of a simple mathematical equation, assuming that the Universe is organized perfectly, as I believe it is, most women are polygynous and most men are polyandrous. The ratios vary, but I am certain that everyone has their place in this world, and the best way to avoid finding yours is to deny your true wishes, fetishes, and fantasies, even the dark ones. You won’t change. Your essence will never change, you will simply uncover more of it. You will expand it, and you will heal, you will become stronger, smarter, more resilient, less dependent on others and more vibrant, but you, in your core, will likely stay the same unless you really want to change for your own sake. Change only ever happens because you want it to because you will find another way of being more exciting and tempting. All change depends on the person’s authentic willingness to change; and NO, this is not to say, or in any way imply that you SHOULD change, quite the contrary, I am saying that exploring what ELSE is there to call “me” will not change you but it will expand  you; make you more of the same, to make you more capable of being better at being whatever it is that you are.

It is futile to try and force a heterosexual to turn into a bisexual, or gay to become bi, even though both are possible events on a superficial level. This means that they’ve been bisexual all along but simply denied it, the core stays the same, only their understanding and acceptance of what is inside changes. But someone who is bisexual in their core, or homosexual in their core, will not turn straight no matter how much you try and persuade them to change. They may EASILY change their behavior and start DENYING their authentic bend, but they will not change on the inside, and it is important for anyone who is on the spiritual path to understand the difference between the real person and the pretense and behavior that is the external polished variation of what we are; usually called “the ego”. I know that a lot of people are also very determined to call the actual person the ego, and the external the good person, when someone refuses to play the game by your rules because they’ve been oppressed enough by you or others. EVERYONE is happiest in their own authentic mode, but a lot of people are so focussed on the ego, the what looks good to others, that they ignore other’s true needs while pushing them into a role that doesn’t suit them or make them happy. Another reason why they do this is to try and force someone else to behave in a manner that their True Emotion Mirror naturally would, when they do not trust that such a person exists. (If you want to see a perfect example of this, watch the movie about Liberache, the pianist: Behind the Candelabra (2013) He was paying young men to become his own image (a True Emotion Mirror) possibly without realizing who he was trying to recreate. Very cruel and inhumane, and very common for women to do to their husbands, thanks to feminism, men do not feel free to do this anymore, not nearly as often, yet, when women do this, we barely notice because “they’re training men to be better”.)

The real question, thusly is this: Are you sure you believe in monogamy, or even if you even want it? There’s no point fearing that he or she might not, in case you don’t dare to ask yourself whether the others turn you on, too. Whether one of the many reasons you are attracted to them is that you know you will never truly have them under your power, but that they will always have others there, and perhaps it is that you truly would love to share a man with another woman or a woman with another man, if you didn’t think that was pathetic but sexy. If you have a close friend, wouldn’t you love to share a partner with them like you share everything else?

Now, for those of you who are truly monogamous or heterosexual, don’t panic. I am simply asking you to give yourself the permission to include this stuff to your ultimate romance. It doesn’t take away the romance, it adds to it. What I have found out about my own self, that as a naturally polyandrous woman, I can fall in love with the most obscure dudes, quite easily – I have a peculiar taste, and it seems that I have a taste for either my own “ready-built” True Spirit  Mirrors or men who do not have a connection to other women; but if I sense another woman in the mix, that turns me off instantly. Even when I can’t explain it; the man is completely right, ticks all the boxes, but there is one hidden thing: He’s got a True Emotion Mirror, and I turn off, and if not completely off, I will remain in a hesitant mode waiting for him to PERMANENTLY make up his mind over who he wants. The interesting bit is, to a naturally polygynous woman, knowing that your man HAS a True Emotion Mirror already is a turn on, and definitely if that said woman or the women in question are The Right Kind for her… The deal is done.The reason why we so easily believe we can’t have it all in a relationship is because we instantly cut out one “all” from it: Others. We are conditioned to believe that if it is true love, you, he or she couldn’t love others. It is like saying that a mother who loves more than one of her children fully, is cheating on one of her children with the others.

The reason why we so easily believe we can’t have it all in a relationship is because we instantly cut out one “all” from it: Others. We are conditioned to believe that if it is true love, you, he or she couldn’t love others. It is like saying that a mother who loves more than one of her children fully, is cheating on one of her children with the others.

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