Biggest mistakes that friends make when their friend has fallen in love

Friends are lovely, obviously, but sometimes they can get in the way of your happiness and wind up doing the opposite than what they were trying to do. There is a saying about a road to hell and good intentions that apply here. 🙂

Girls:

Men are not monsters. No need to rough them up.

Think about this: You have finally met the man of your dreams. He is PERFECT in every way imaginable. Now, in comes the heroic friend of yours, and in her bid to show you how much she cares, she tells your new boyfriend that she will kill him if he hurts you, and some other, selected, perhaps a little drunk threats relating to his breaking balls and your heart… And he takes heed. “Clearly, I am not good enough for her.” He figures and leaves you in order to protect you from himself. Perhaps he thought YOU put your friend up to it and thought you’re crazy, whatever happens, it was what your friend said, not what you said.

How would you feel?

The moral of the story: Be welcoming to your friend’s new boyfriends, and the more she likes him, the less you need to get involved. The last thing you want to do is to be the reason why your friend lost the love of her life.

Let’s analyze him to death

I get that sometimes you have to analyze it, it is just not always that simple to say whether you like a guy enough to be the one, or even one of the many if you’re a poly. However, when you get in your friend’s ear to pick every flaw you can see in the guy “in order to be helpful”, your friend, no matter how much she’s in love, and perhaps even the more in love she is, she will start doubting herself and her feelings, and, more importantly, her sanity about this guy. She feels he is AWESOME, and you’re sitting there going nope, not awesome, and she’s thinking “what’s wrong with me, I think he is… amazing…” Sometimes women talk you out of dating a guy just to see if you’d take their word for it. Don’t let them have such an influence!!

Boys:

You can’t choose for her, let her choose.

This happens, on an occasion. Two friends are in love with the same girl, and the other, who is more popular with women, decides he should let his friend have this one.

Yeah. Don’t do that.

Just don’t.

Let her choose – your friend’s chances are not going to be good, anyway… Or what do you think… Honestly?

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