When the Normal Person* offers kindness, friendliness, help, gifts, guidance etc. to another person, they invest in their mutual relationship, whatever their relationship. They think: “I treat you this way, our relationship becomes stronger.”

An Savant*, when they show another person kindness or friendliness or is helpful, gives guidance, or gifts, invests in the individual in question. They think: “I will treat you this way, you will become stronger, the human kind will become stronger and happier.” This is not exactly conscious on their part, they simply wish to do their part because they can. To them, another human being is valuable for the reason they belong in the same species. The help is not personal, and essentially, means nothing in terms of continued relationship; the help is unconditional. Anything a Savants* does for another person is free to take and run with. “Grab the ball and run with it” is a Savants* idea. At the very worst, a Savants* may use gifts or free services as a tool of making themselves irreplaceable in another person’s life, but this, to them, feels more like a machiavellian business move than an offer of friendship. They believe that whenever people are being made dependent on another person, a small crime is being committed, but the Savants* assumes that once he or she stops giving, they are free to do so, and the relationship is over. Not so with the Normal Person*, if you stop giving, you are breaching a contract of friendship, you are failing your role, but it is temporary, the relationship is on-going and you will resume your status as a giver later once you are willing or able or return back to the fold. (You will always be forgiven for as long as you resume your duties in a relationship.)

This creates a conflict of interpretation. A Normal Person*, upon receiving something, anything that they do not pay a full (even a heavy) price for, associates the act of giving as relationship-nurturing. They believe the giver is a friend of some kind, or a desperado trying to make friends by any means necessary, and someone who gives a lot to a lot of people has a lot of friends. A Normal Person*, without seeing any error of logic, would consider Oprah Winfrey “a friend” because she gives a lot of free stuff to her fans. An Savant* sees her as a calculating business-woman, who takes company endorsements to pay for the gifts that she gives to her public in order to give herself a reputation of being generous. A Normal Person*, would, then, be surprised if Oprah didn’t consider them their personal friend when they meet in person: “I was in your audience once, you gave me this-and-that” to remind her that she has already made a gesture that she is this person’s personal friend. I believe Oprah Winfrey is the Normal Person* herself, so she would agree with her fans that they are her personal friends. To them, there is nothing odd about the fact that Oprah has no idea who the vast majority of her personal friends are or what thy are called. An Savant* calls this approach buying friends or love, and a Savants* would be appalled by the idea that someone would attempt to buy their friendship or love, while the Normal Person* cannot wrap their minds around the concept of a friend who doesn’t give you anything, doesn’t help you to do something, doesn’t aid your survival, or doesn’t give you gifts. They simply do not understand what possible use would a friend like that be to anyone.

This moves on further; The person who gives anything to another person establishes their relationship to the receiver. “You are the giver, I am the receiver. You pay for my friendship, and if I need something, I can ask you for more gifts, so you can prove your worthiness to me again. When the gifts stop coming, we will no longer be friends because you do not fulfill your end of the bargain anymore. If you are still able to give but refuse to give for one reason or another, I will be very displeased with you and will bug you forever and forever to keep giving because that is the nature of our relationship. If you hit hard times and cannot give anymore, we will become friends again once your situation improves. Until then, I will have to find better friends.” When both of these people are the Normal Person*, they understand this situation perfectly and see no conflict in it; it is natural for things to be this way.

And I know there’s a whole bunch of the Savants* who just vomited in their mouths a little.

To a Savants*, giving is fun for the sake of giving. They enjoy making other’s lives better if they can. It is impersonal and it means no continued relationship. Their friendship, also, cannot be bought. This is the thing, though; they are much more careful about accepting help or gifts or even compliments because they are too aware of the buy-and-sell nature of these gestures in the society in reverse. However, when they are the giver, they don’t think about it, because they will never collect on their favors. An Savant* who is down on their luck will only rely on their absolute closest soulmates, (True Emotion Mirrors , not even the Bosom Personality Mirrors are close enough for them,) for help. They will rather be homeless than accept a gift that will tie them to another person and put them in the debt of gratitude. Accepting anything good from another person is VERY difficult for a Savants*, even from another the Savants*, unless the help is made completely anonymous, ie. government funds, or is very clearly impersonal help. They may collaborate with someone else, but they do not feel a friendship to the people they collaborate with, they are simply in a mutually beneficial relationship that has nothing to do with being friends. Nothing moves a Savants* to tears more certainly than a gift they believe comes completely without strings attached.

The more you give, the more you owe, the more you take, the more you owe

The homeless on the streets will know the Normal Person* for his habit of giving as a prepayment and making sure the receiver knows who gave them money. They want him to remember so they can claim a service for the money later on, and that service is most likely something criminal – what else would a homeless person be good for as a friend when your attention is solely on what your friends can do for you? If the homeless person refuses their help after being given enough money for a service the Normal Person* had in mind, like a Savants* homeless person might easily do, they are in a grave danger of being beaten up or killed for it. (If you ever wind up homeless, never accept help or donations of any kind from people who make a big point about it. People who simply slip money into your hands are OK, but if they make an effort for you to remember them, their name or their face, refuse the help, and if you can’t refuse the help, don’t be seen around the same corner again.)

The irony here is, that the more you give to the Normal Person*, the more you owe them. It is like you make them aware of how much they are worth to you if you keep being nice to them and keep giving stuff to them. If you do not come in to claim your dues, they will either think you put a REAL value to their friendship, are grooming them for something really big, or they simply take you as the person who pays for their friends… Like Oprah, because she wants to appear popular, and popularity costs money!

Too generous with the wrong people

The Savants* often make the mistake of being too friendly to too  many people creating karmic bonds without intending to. The less used to being given things a person is, the stronger the bond a single act of kindness will create. The last thing we need is to discourage giving, but the old saying “no good deed goes unpunished” seems to originate from this interaction. Give only from the heart when you truly feel like you want to, if you feel you owe someone and need to balance the scales to release the bond, but NEVER out of the feeling of guilt, and never randomly, unless your giving is absolutely anonymous, and even then you must be careful considering the ever-present soul-awareness catching you on your willingness to give help to random strangers.

the Savants* are far from selfish, even though they often get that reputation from people who think they SHOULD receive their help but won’t. The Savants* may leave their birth family without blinking, or at least not take part in the everyday life of their birth family because they figure they are not obligated to such things that they had no control over (like choosing their parents for themselves). They are not afraid of being alone or having to rely on their own help, so they don’t feel the need to keep buttering their family up for a continued support. They will give help lavishly to whomever they feel they can easily help without making sacrifices like choosing to live at home with their parents, and this, to the Normal Person* family member can be seen as a deliberate act of trying to irritate them or rub them the wrong way just to prove that the Savants* is better than them or… that the Normal Person* has done something wrong (which they probably have, considering their relationships tend to always be very strained, to say the least). To break the karmic bond between the Normal Person* and the Savants* can be a task and a half.

To summarize;

• An Savant* will never ask for help or service from a friend without offering something in return during the very transaction. They will never leave anything down to “owing someone a favor” without it being very clearly dictated what it is.
• the Savants* do not make it clear what is expected as a return for their gifts. They expect you to figure it out and give what you are able and willing to give. If you don’t, they will consider you incapable of giving back, either by will, talent, ability, or funds, but they won’t hold a grudge for it, the Normal Person* would expect you to refuse a gift you cannot redeem. The Normal Person* will ask for a specific favor and sacrifice and would be grateful for an instruction sheet or they expect the gift to be a sign of friendship (or desperation for friends).
• the Savants* do not consider people they work for, work with, or are related to friends. Without “a connection” of the soul, they are not interested in a real friendship. The Savants* may have a lot of acquaintances that call themselves friends to the Savants* but not the other way around.
• the Normal Person* give a lot of gifts to people, but they come with strings attached. The Savants* figure giving help and gifts is simple humanity and they should be given from the heart – with no ulterior motives, as in expecting a return gift.
• Some the Normal Person* are pure receivers, some are pure givers. Receivers are treated like kings and queens, and some the Savants* unwittingly assume this role and hate it. The Normal Person* feel frustrated because it’s a bottomless pit, there is no end to the giving if you want to buy the love of a Savants* because they can’t be bought, and neither party understands why the dynamic won’t break.
• the Normal Person* give to maintain a relationship, but the Savants* may give to BREAK a relationship: “OK, if I give you this, will you finally stop pestering me and leave me alone?” The Normal Person* will interpret this as “melting” or “coming around”.
• Ironically, the Normal Person* will interpret almost ANY interaction as a wish to bond. Completely ignoring them no matter how much noise they make will convince them that you’re not interested in friendship; near impossibility, in other words. Negotiation can also work: “What does it take for you to go away?”
• One more losely related point: The Savants* have an enormous need for emotional, full connection to another person, but often are, for a reason or another, unable to find such a person who they would wish to make a connection to. While they are very emotionally charged, they still attempt to keep the Normal Person* at an arm’s lenght while trying to find another the Savants* to complete their life with. This creates another difficult dynamic as the Normal Person* who care about the Savants* will attempt to fill the hole in their lives, but cannot because it is reserved to other the Savants* who are unable to approach due to the over-flow of the Normal Person*, that have been made into semi-friends during previous life times, (and other reasons, that are too many and complex to discuss here.)

Celebrities who accept gifts from their fans are also in danger… Gifts are often like talismans to the Normal Person*; you accept one, and you have given them an access to your life… But that’s for another time to discuss.

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