If you cannot let go, try letting go of letting go

The message to let go and to not be needy or clingy can be so overwhelming that we cannot let go of the must of letting go. We start clinging onto the need to let go and then can’t let go.

So… Let go of letting go. Give yourself the permission to remain obsessed for as long as you feel that way, after all, the quickest route to it might be through it; just go through any emotions that you feel as they happen and try not to control how you feel.

(Generally speaking, trying to control how you feel is a bad idea. it’s like trying to convince yourself your clothes are not burning when they actually are. Useful only when there’s no way to change the situation… As in you’re tied on a stake being burned as a witch, that’s a good time to try and manipulate what you feel… Otherwise, feel it as it is.)

Why do they keep repeating this?

So, why all the let go -posts? To some people letting go is the EASIEST thing in the world. They also hate the feeling of having people hang onto them. They feel that they are being given a far too important role to fill in a (virtual) stranger’s life in some cases and that they simply don’t want to be that important to you. Also, the fear of having others hang onto us while we are trying to reunite with someone else, also makes us scream for others to let go. These people do not need to be told to let go but to grab a hold. (If you are being pulled away from someone who also wants to be with you, hang on tight.)

When someone is under too much pressure to be with you, all they may need is to feel you will survive if, for some reason, the relationship would fail. If they are too important to you, they fear getting trapped with you in case you prove not to be so amazing after all. (And if this is your True Emotion Mirror, they’ll feel amazed by what you seem to be but might fear you’re just a tad too good to be true.) This is why showing a True Emotion Mirror that you will survive this world without them is very important for them to know.

Controlling them will backfire

What holding on too tightly also does, is sometimes prevent the person you’re holding onto from feeling the feelings they have for you, because you are trying to control how they feel for you, and they wind up feeling nothing. This is why it’s important to let go of the need to control other people and how they should feel for you.

This is a very efficient security setting that stops people from being manipulated by other people. Even if you were each other’s True Emotion Mirrors , you cannot tell the other person to love you. There’s no need to, either, if they are what you think they are.

A person trying to control another person’s feelings for them will make them feel NOTHING for them.

Let go of emotional control

Sometimes we simply let go too easily, and we don’t dare to chase when we should, and that is another topic for another post but in this one… Simply forget about letting go. You feel whatever you feel and there’s nothing you can do to stop yourself from feeling what you feel. That is, actually, what “letting go” means, but it is not the easiest thing to explain to someone who is hanging on for dear life and trying to fulfill a certain role… But that is, essentially what it means; let go of the control of your own emotions, and let them run free whatever they are.

Not the same as giving up on them

Another thing that I must say about letting go is that it is NOT THE SAME as giving up on someone. It is simply about stopping trying to control how your True Emotion Mirror is supposed to feel about you, and how you are supposed to feel about your True Emotion Mirror- both of these are bad. If you just accept that dang you’ve got difficulty giving up control so you might as well go full on at it or something, things might get a lot easier fast.

Try once, if you can find the state of being OK with it all… Then, I’m sure you’ll stop thinking about it and you’ll fall right into the same habit of trying to control things. Once you catch yourself, just correct yourself again; “let go of the control” and it will become a habit.

Let go of the need to let go

It is astonishing how often the very thing we need to do to achieve is the opposite of our goal. Try deciding to hold on to dear life and see how that feels. Or simply give yourself the permission to be obsessed. Often that liberates you to some extent, and that may help you let go a little. Let go of the fighting it, and give into the need to obsess, control, and try to force yourself to do more of what you cannot stop yourself from doing.

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