Being labelled a slut is a common fear among women, but what causes this fear? We blame men on it, generally speaking, but it is the last group of people to be pointing a finger at here. Men might “make” women into sluts, but they are not the ones who will be accusing them for slutty behavior…

It depends on your own personality and outlook on life, on whose judgement you fear, the judgement of men, the judgement of women, or, perhaps, the judgement of your parents. The general idea is, that everyone looks down on women who sleep with lots of men, but this assumption is simply not true. So, again, I have to remind  you all that there are more kinds of people than just two, divided to men and women, and what we want out of life dictates how we feel about labels like a slut.

While some women fear that they will never get married if people consider them a slut, some fear their parents will shun them, some fear causing shame to their family, and some women don’t have any fear of being labelled a slut at all. The fact is that there are men who LOVE sexually adventurous, self-confident women who know what they want out of their sexual relationships, and who do not apologize for having a sexual appetite but rather consider sex and sexual relationships a playful joy rather than something awful and scary they need to engage in because they have reached the age that they will have to allow men to touch them in a sexual way. There really isn’t that many men who take pleasure in the idea that they GET TO touch a woman because she has been forced or pressured into it, as most men wish they would get the feeling that the woman wants their touch as much as they want hers.

Being labelled a slut will stop you from stealing anyone’s men…

The fear of being labelled a slut is often linked to the fear of losing friends or popularity among other women. Women who do not care about other women’s opinion or their favorable view on them (such as most polyandrist women feel) do not often feel too fearful about the label, because they instantly connect it to other women’s jealousy of them, the fear that the slut will take all the men – and the fear is valid, “the sluts” do sleep with a lot of men, and their natural role is that of a polyandrist; the wife of several men, not limited to one, nor two husbands, but essentially, every self-respecting red-blooded male in a small town. No wonder women to whom marriage is a status symbol and source of security hate these women who do not ask for their permission or their blessing when they choose to sleep with as many men as they like.

The happy marriage is often nothing but a front. Although men have been successfully oppressed into obedience of their wives and mothers during the recent decades, not long ago men still frequented whore houses quite safely behind their wive’s backs, wives, who, to keep their social upstanding reputation would look the other way as if they didn’t notice. That combined with homosexual men who gracefully left their wives alone for the most part while spending their time with other men. Currently, at least the homosexual men have been liberated from the pretence of a marriage, the next step is to liberate the polyandrous men… That resulting to the liberation of non-sexual women and their need of secure relationships with other women, all of whom who are financially independent, and the liberation of polygynous men, who, by the way, are currently enjoying the tight comfort of a Friend Zone due to an excessive respect of women.

The slut label can also be used “to protect” women

Families will often install the fear of being labelled a slut into their daughters in order to protect them from the judgement of the society. In today’s world, this tactic is about as ill-advised as parental strategies can possibly get, but I am sure it is still used in some families.  I remember my mother hissing the word “whore” at me once, and I remember thinking… “How could you possibly stoop to such low as to call your own daughter a whore..?” I still understood her intent as a toothless inability to control my sexual behavior and the wish that slightly shaming me might do the trick. Safe to say it didn’t, but if she had added even a slightly more weight or repetition into her words, she could have traumatized me permanently with that approach.

The parental fear comes from the fear of losing an entire flock of children and their reputation should one of them spin out of control. As there are people who cannot separate individuals from a family unit, they figure one kid’s a slut, the rest of them are just like the one with the poor reputation, their parents raised them that way and the youngest of the cousins is likely to grow u p a porn star.  When the children in the extended family are similarly thinking, they may feel like they have an inevitable fate of becoming sluts if their older cousin has that label, and to avoid it, they have to be madly certain to not give out that vibe.

As the Normal Person* (one of two main thinker types) always get defined by association, if one family member turns out to be This Way, all others feel an enormous pressure to become like them as if they were chameleons changing color by their surroundings. They feel obligated to support the wayward member of the family, and if they break free, they have to “change color” in order to protect the odd one out by mixing them into a flock of the same. That is why most people feel it necessary to hide their sexual behavior from their family and friends of family to make sure they can stay the same without the stigma – but rarely do they realize what open sexual deviance will do to the entire family of the Normal Person*. The only other natural option is to completely severe all ties to the deviant family member, to shun them, something that a Savants* has hard time understanding because they have no trouble associating with vast variety of different kinds of thinkers despite their own beliefs and values.

(the Savants* thinking idea: You think differently to me, that is interesting. I might learn something from you. If I like what I learn, I will adapt my thinking for my own benefit. A bird of paradise; the brightest, the most beautiful feathers win the battle of courtship.
the Normal Person* thinking idea: You think differently to me, one of us needs to change their thinking, the most obstinant of us will decide which, often the most obstinant is the majority. A chameleon; blend in to protect yourself from being seen by the predators.)

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