the Young Soul* Personalities do not need to learn how to love the Old Souls* Personalities

the Young Soul* Personalities find it very distressing to think that not everyone could be loved by everyone in the best possible way. Therefore, writings like the True Emotion Mirror description or the description on how the Old Souls* Personalities love each other on True Emotion Mirror level cause them distress because they cannot find a way to love each and every character trait of their family members or the members of their golf club. They find it very difficult to make a differentiation between a description of love and a demand of loving someone in the way that the description describes, because, to them, love is a skill, not an emotion.

They find the Old Souls* Personality way of loving both heightened and impossible to achieve, and that causes a conflict: They must be best people possible, but they cannot reach the kind of love that the Old Souls* Personalities describe, because they do not understand that you cannot choose the way you love a person, and love isn’t transferable, and you cannot decide that I want to love THAT INDIVIDUAL in THIS WAY. You can always take care of someone’s needs, no matter how you feel about them, simply because you are a human being, but you cannot love someone for the way they are who they are by decision; you either love them or you do not. (This is not entirely true, but it is important to learn that nobody owes love to nobody and that you cannot force yourself to feel a certain way towards another person.) Now, the Young Soul* Personalities might be very irritated at this stage asking what is the purpose of a soulmate typology that describes different ways of love if you cannot learn how to love that way, and here is the answer: It is important for the Old Souls* Personalities to understand the way the Young Soul* Personalities love, so that they will be able to avoid the guilt trip that the Young Soul* Personalities lay on them for not being able to love them in the way the Young Soul* Personalities fall in love. This is for the protection of the Old Souls* Personalities, primarily, who will get a lot out of this, and unfortunately, it means the Young Soul* Personalities will have to accept certain realities in life, and one of them is this: You cannot force yourself to love a person’s personality traits unless you happen to value who they are automatically. In other words, love, just like hate or anger, is a reaction, not a skill.

This means, and this is very distressing to the Young Soul* Personality, that sometimes the Old Souls* Personalities will leave you permanently because you cannot love each other in the way that the Old Souls* Personalities need to be loved, and to them, the way the Young Soul* Personalities love is an insult to everything that they hold valuable about themselves. The Young Soul* Personality love to a Old Souls* Personality is a constant reminder of how little they are valued, not the other way around. It is a constant spit in the face, and the more you try to prove them wrong, the less loved they feel. This is an absolute dead bolt unresolvable conflict between the Young Soul* Personalities and the Old Souls* Personalities, and the unfortunate fact for the Young Soul* Personalities is that the Old Souls* Personalities can deal with this easily while the Young Soul* Personalities cannot cope nor let go of this idea that there is an easy fix to the situation. There IS a fix, but it requires so much work from the Young Soul* Personality to go through, that it would be unfair and unrealistic to ask the Old Souls* Personality to wait around for the Young Soul* Personality to get where they need to be in order to love each other – and even then, the most likely result of all the work the Young Soul* Personality will get to is the fact they realize they do not really love each other nor should they.

The Young Soul* Personalities must understand that the Old Souls* Personality WILL NEVER CHANGE into a person the Young Soul* Personality can respect at the moment. The only solution available is that the Young Soul* Personality will learn to love the traits of the Old Souls* Personality, respect them or accept that neither will happen and let go of the Old Souls* Personality. Most often, the Young Soul* Personality will expect the Old Souls* Personality to change for them, but they will never do that. A person can never be changed by anyone but themselves, and a person who asks another person to change for them is a terrible human being as far as the Old Souls* Personalities are concerned. A Young Soul* Personality will now get confused again: “But if a Old Souls* Personality refuses to change for you, aren’t they demanding that the Young Soul* Personality changes for them, and therefore, they are the terrible person?” No, that is not what a Old Souls* Personality is doing. They would NEVER ask you to change who you are, they are asking the Young Soul* Personality to end the relationship so that they can both continue being who they are.

Unfortunately, it goes against the Young Soul* Personality’s nature to end a relationship for any reason, and that makes the Young Soul* Personality think that the Old Souls* Personality is asking them to change.

An Old Soul* Personality must disappear into a rabbit hole in order to make a break from the Young Soul* Personality who has got them pegged for a part of their lives, but how does one do that without having the Young Soul* Personality follow you where ever you go..?

An Old Soul* Personality needs the Young Soul* Personality to do something completely unforgivable so that all their emotions for them die at that moment. Fortunately, the Old Souls* Personalities have a very strict code of honor, and if that code is violated, their love and respect for a person will die completely, with the “last straw” method. An Old Soul* Personality usually has something that they will find an absolute deal breaker; for instance, for me, one of those unforgivable acts is any disrespect shown towards someone I hold in high regard. “You insult a friend of mine, you are dead to me.” If that happens, the bond between the Young Soul* Personality and a Old Souls* Personality will break from the Old Souls* Personality’s end.

An Old Soul* Personality can also violate the trust of the Young Soul* Personality by committing the worst crime they can imagine: To not be there when they need you most. To completely drop the ball on them. To show indifference to all upkeep of a friendship or family unit. To not do what is expected of them. To not be responsible. To cut the ties to the Young Soul* Personality, a Old Souls* Personality must show the Young Soul* Personality that they are completely unreliable people.

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