How to learn to deal with rejection

Rejection is never pleasant, but there are ways to deal with it that makes it easier to take. This is not to ignore what happened, deny one’s own part of what happened, but to understand what rejection is and isn’t about.

Rejection doesn’t mean you are a bad, unlovable, undesirable person.

Rejection simply means you are not The One to the person who rejected you.

In other words, rejection in a monogamous setting doesn’t necessarily even mean you are second best, whether or not there was a competitor, it simply means you did not fulfill ALL of the needs of the other person. This is what true love is; loving the other for EVERYTHING that they are, and if you are proud of who you are, then you have nothing to worry about.

Rejection is simply a moment in time, when the other person understood they aren’t right for you before you came into the same conclusion. The sooner into the relationship this happened, the less damage the delay did. If you take a few moments, you will realize that they were right, and you shouldn’t be together. Of course, there’s always the chance that it is a True Emotion Mirror, and the rejection story changes a bit, and that is also good news. (More on that later.)

When you get rejected, sometimes you want to make the person feel equally bad as you feel. “You are not a prize yourself! Who do you think you are?” If this is the way they make you feel, then CLEARLY they were right in dumping you. What do you think should have happened, if you thought about it like a rational adult? You wished that they would ignore the fact they don’t love everything about you and keep pretending until YOU found someone you liked more and dumped them instead? Not exactly what you thought in your conscious mind, but isn’t that kind of it?

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