Stop interpreting people so you can love them or hate them as you choose.

If you pulled this post up, you may have a bit of a habit of deliberately interpreting people either toward the negative or the positive so you can feel a predetermined feeling for them. They are but an actor in a play of your life, and you’re the director, for as long as that person agrees to even be a part of your life.

This habit comes from fear that the reality of people doesn’t match what you need it to be. You may be a feminist, and you want to be a part of the gang, right? You want to feel the same hate toward men as the most passionate of your fellow feminists, and therefore, you’ll interpret all men in the light that whatever they say, there’s some hidden form of sexism or general assholeness in that sentence.

Similarly, you may want to think that this person is in love with you, so everything they say, you interpret through a lense of them loving you. You want to stay in love with them, so whatever they say that doesn’t sound like the thing you’d like, you’ll interpret it the way you want it to be so you can keep “staying in love with them” even though you never stood a chance in the real world.

It may also be that you heard of twin flames, and you cast some poor person into the role. Now you’re trying all you can to interpret signs and their rejection as “twin flame running,” and no matter what this fake twin flame of yours will say or do, you’ll simply insist they meant whatever you needed them to mean in the light of the twin flame concept.

All of this comes from the fear that reality won’t be what you wish it were, but let me tell you – reality will never be what you want it to be if you keep blinding yourself from it, and accepting bullshit and lies for what you wish you were getting… If you stop looking for gold when someone hands you a nugget of fool’s gold, all you’ll ever have is fool’s gold.

Now, let me make you smarter.

Your True Emotion Mirror, wherever they may be, loves all the annoying shit you do.

Your Precious Soulmates and your True Emotion Mirrors, who are out there in the world somewhere – but not so far you couldn’t possibly find them – love you for all the annoying crap you do, all your stupid opinions (if you can call them that, 😉 ) and your annoying wheezing laughter that your mom has always tried to wean you from doing. I promise you this: if you think your mother’s love is magical, you haven’t met your True Emotion Mirror yet… It may come close if your mother is a Precious Soulmate, but damn, it will pale in comparison to your True Emotion Mirror – and it should. No parent-child love should be greater than the love of your True Emotion Mirror.

Now. While some people feel they’re constantly being stuffed into a small box so that others can pretend there’s real love between them, others feel like they have to fill a bigger box than what they can so that people would be satisfied with them. Your True Emotion Mirror will give you a box that is sized perfectly for you; they don’t want you to be anything more than you are and not an ounce less than what you could be and want to be. That truth is the same for every True Emotion Mirror pair or group… As they can come in the polygamous form.

Your True Emotion Mirror makes the physical world make sense.

The moronic fairy-tale-for-love-sick-adult-females that is called the Twin Flame Concept entices you to chase true love in the hopes you’ll get away from the mortal coil. Effectively, if you learn to love “your other half,” you’ll be taken into heaven basically. Anyone who has met their True Emotion Mirror will shake their head in horror; why on EARTH would you want your time on Earth to come to an end? What could POSSIBLY be better than this when your True Emotion Mirror holds you in their arms? Certainly not any description of Heaven I’ve ever read.

Your True Emotion Mirror makes it obvious why we’re even here, why this whole thing was even worth creating. Why we have bodies, why we have two arms that are meant to be wrapped around another person rather than front legs to walk on? (And while animals have True Emotion Mirrors, too, I believe they are, so far, happy not to hug them, poor bastards, but I suppose licking and smelling them might be fun, too. 😀 Be it as it may; ) physical life makes little to no sense without your True Emotion Mirror with you – and you need to start living in ACTUAL REALITY to find them.

True love, alone, would be a bit boring, too.

Your True Emotion Mirror loves you for all that you are without trying to be anything else. While you can be a try-hard-over-achiever, your True Emotion Mirror will be there to egg you on. If you’re more of a couch potato, your True Emotion Mirror will be the one who mischievously brings you another sugar-glazed donut and tells you to dig in. And once you’re used to being loved for the loser (or the winner) that you are, you’ll probably start raising the bar (further) together as you figure out the fun of it – but not until you do.

And all that would be potentially boring if there wasn’t for the joy of being able to annoy other people by what and who you both/all choose to be. They love people for different reasons, and the price of finding true love is to LET THEM. And there you are, with your True Emotion Mirror whispering in your ear: “Go for it, be annoying, I’ll love you for it” like the devil themselves, and you will mischievously be loved for whatever other people are annoyed by.

Brilliant.

(The whole concept of Satan, I believe, comes from a disgruntled father’s or husband’s (god’s) irritation of his daughter or wife being lured away by the charming Satan, her True Emotion Mirror, who “makes” her do “bad things” against her father’s wishes.)

The trick is to trust yourself to be loved for who you are.

Your True Emotion Mirror is not a challenge for you; they are the liberation that you seek. But the challenge is to TRUST that someone who you think is the most fun, the coolest, the cutest, the most charming, and the exciting person you know would love you for… the simple old you is… Terrifying, no matter who you are. Even if you’re Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt, you wake up to the same god damned face every morning. To anyone, being who you are is the most mundane of things, no matter how amazing other people may think you are – and to trust that whatever boring you are, you’re loved for it. No matter how annoying and irritating you are for other people, your True Emotion Mirror will be there, chuckling next to you as you’re annoying the daylights out of other people… Whether you annoy them because you make rocket science look like child’s play like Elon Musk, or because you’re just a regular goofball who has never done anything good for other people ever in your life.

And this is where we’re at now. Stop fooling yourself to think you’ll be loved more as the fake version of yourself or that your only chance to be loved is to deliberately misinterpret other people so they’ll fit your fucking fake narrative, and start living with THE TRUTH of things. Whenever you permit yourself to see the truth and to be authentic, your True Emotion Mirror and your Precious Soulmates will sigh of relief… That feminist you’re trying to impress maybe busy trying to impress you, and they’d be relieved to know that you, too, deep down, don’t think all men are shit.

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