Ambition: Keeping other people from blocking your way
There are plenty of reasons why people would want to block your way to success. They are mainly selfish, sometimes disguised in love and care. These work both in normal human interaction level and spiritually, negatively through The Law of The Truest Wish. Here are some tips on how to keep your family and “friends” from blocking your way.
Do not tell about your plans anyone you don’t trust
Be mindful that your instinct of keeping your mouth shut is AN INSTINCT. Follow it. If you don’t know why you don’t want to tell someone something, don’t. If you hesitate, don’t brave it. Don’t talk yourself into trusting someone you don’t genuinely trust. Do not beat yourself up for being “not trusting”. There’s a reason why you don’t trust someone, figure it out if it bothers you but don’t say a god damned word until you’re comfortable with it.
Announcing your goals out loud is like sounding an alarm right in the middle of a pack of apes. Don’t fucking do it. This is why:
Assume people will block your way out of self-interest
People will block your way out of self-interest when they see you work in their line of business but are more talented, skilled, or innovative than they are. Or more handsome or more beautiful. They, of course, fear you’ll steal their clientele (or other prospects, like their chance on a certain girl or a guy).
Assume people will work against you out of ego
People who you’re supposed to be “alike”, the “remember where you came from” folk, “don’t forget who you are”, -people, the people who assume that your place of birth or your childhood circumstances define you as a person, they may want to block your way forward out of simple need to prove you are no better than them. They can do this energetically as well as by talking shit behind your back pretending to know you.
If you are a woman they’ll work against you out of love and care
This is the ONE TIME when I go all feminist on you and say women get the short stick here. Their family believes their women need to be protected, pretty daughters especially, from all the horrible men who are out there waiting to take advantage of you. “It’s a dog-eat-dog world out there, you poor thing…”
Women, especially pretty ones (because beautiful smart women do not exist) need to work their butt off if they make the mistake of telling someone they’d be happier taking their genes out of the pool and use the brain for something other than nursing babies.
They all just want you to know you’d be happier inside your home community, somewhere safe and molly-cuddly.
This is a crazy one: Your spirit guides may work against you out of teaching you spiritual attitudes
You know “life lessons”. Teach you patience and humility? Ambition is a sin and all of that? Yeah. You may have to work against God himself if you want to succeed if you’ve previously signed up for a religion even if you’ve decided not to follow anymore. (Note that although God is not a real god, he isn’t entirely powerless, but an entity with huge entitlement issues. For a good reason, but they’re still entitlement issues.)
Quietly change your friends
Make as little fuss about it as you possibly can. (Do not announce it spiritually, either, unless you are FUCKING DESPERATE for a new crowd, or so far from your goal you don’t know what to do.) Little by little, find crowds and groups you actually like hanging out with. Don’t get sentimental towards people who you are not crazy about, even if they ask.
Stop complimenting people out of the need to be seen as “being nice”
Do not strengthen people’s illusions about the level of love and comradery you feel for them. This, especially if you’re good looking or otherwise “elite”. People will hang onto your good words about them like no other, so REFUSE to compliment people when they’re fishing for it.
Also, resist your need to be kind in a way that makes you give them ingenuine compliments “from above”. You know how you feel like “you’re good for a girl” or, “your great for your level”… don’t do that. Only praise people who you ACTUALLY, AUTHENTICALLY admire. This is so they don’t feel the need to keep you as their narcissistic supply and keep you saying nice things about them because it means more coming from you than anyone else.
Please be aware that this is an ego need to you. You cannot handle people thinking that you re self-conceited so you compliment them to show them you’re not. In doing so, you are also feeding their ego by letting them think they are, in fact, as good as you are, or that, at least, you think they are. These compliments are a two way street of blowing smoke up each other’s ass. Don’t fucking do it.
Learn to be alone. Fucking learn to sit in a room alone and not lose your mind over it!
If you cannot find friends you like, learn to be alone. No matter what it takes, learn to rather be alone than people who you don’t really give a crap about. Limit social obligations to a bare minimum, and even then, only include people who you like and appreciate, even if they weren’t your first crowd. Gratitude is not a bad motivation for keeping contact with some people, after all, once you make it, you may be able to pay them back somehow.
Anyway, keep your head down and refuse to make friends that you feel is a compromise.
Also, learn to survive on the smallest of paychecks or on welfare
It is possible to live off a social welfare check. I think it’s calculated to be doable. You simply have to give up every luxury known to men. 😀 Take odd jobs to finance needs like computers and mobile phones if you need to, and then pull your head back in and keep working.
The less money you need in order to survive and not lose your mind, the less the wrong people have a hold on you. Some people push you energetically towards poverty simply to force you to come back home or similar. Don’t give into it. Keep going. Do not negotiate with terrorists and blackmailers.
Do this all with as little “fight” as you possibly can
This is the part I struggle with. I hold onto a lot of “fight” and anger towards people who want to stop me. That makes them want to push harder against me. You know how it’s not quite as tempting to beat the shit out of someone who ignores your wish to fight them than someone who is willing to go down in flames if necessary. It’s great to beat up on a strong person, and also with someone weak.
Do not beg for mercy, but don’t pick a fight, either. Be the “oh come on, guys, calm down, sit down and have a beer” type.
I’m an Aries. I can’t fucking help it, but you might.
Keep your head down, don’t announce that you’re doing something AMAZING. Just keep doing it
Try your hardest to keep your ego in check. No matter how much you think you’re going to achieve, try and think about it like “it’s nothing”. You know like men who lift insane amounts of weight making it look like they’re merely lifting a bag of groceries, or the superheroes who beat up an army not really breaking a sweat. Be that guy. No matter how much you get done, treat it like it’s nothing. Celebrate once you get there. Do not raise an alarm on you being up to anything that special. That is like a red flag to a bull.
Keep at it like you were breaking out of a prison. One spoonful at a time.
Speak quietly. Those who understand what you do will hear. Those who don’t, don’t need to.
The reason why your goals usually manifest only after you give up or get sick of it
For as long as we are full of fight and excitement over what we do, we put out this aggressive vibe. We WANT IT so bad, that we want to run everyone over with it. We over-sell, we try too hard. We’re trying to push it down people’s throats. Our product or service or whatever we’re trying to “sell” might be the best in the business, but for as long as we feel that we have to fight for it, we put out the wrong vibe.
Once we get disheartened, bored, or are about to give up our energy changes. We go through the motions a bit. People will be able to focus on what you’re selling rather than your disturbing wild energy you carry. If you put out this weird vibe, people don’t know what it is about you that they dislike or don’t trust.
The “bored” energy is not the best one you could possibly have, but it gives you the air of “I’ve been doing this forever and I know what I’m doing, to the point of being sick of it” and that, oddly, adds trust.
Think about the moments when you’ve seen someone with the “rookie energy”. They’re over-excited about something you’ve done for years. They’re a little amusing, aren’t they? They maybe adorable, but you won’t pay them top dollar for what they “know”.
Try to find that energy, that confident energy of knowing what you’re doing to the point where you no longer feel it’s AMAZING you’re doing this and see what happens.
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