Don’t assume Libertines* know you love them.

Self-confidence doesn’t come from the fact that this person knows they are loved; it comes from knowing they’ll survive even if nobody did. They know love is not a measure of how good of a person you are, it’s a measure of personal taste. They don’t take it as an offense if someone doesn’t love them, so they also don’t need to pester you for an answer to whether you love them or not or beg you to confess to it for the sake of their ego. This doesn’t make them bulletproof; they just know that someone loves them, someone WILL love them – if not you, then someone else will, and that makes them somewhat of a difficult catch – they’re not desperate.

I call highly attractive individuals “Libertines*” – women, too. They’re people who most other people will find attractive – celebrity material. They seem like the kind of people should know everyone wants them, but that’s not how it works.

Libertines* are spoiled for choice – but the choice is not always what they’re looking for.

Having said that, Libertine*’s are also not without their issues. As self-confident people are often seen as a threat or narcissistic, they’re attacked a lot or left to survive alone. Their feelings are rarely being considered by others, as they don’t seem to be in constant desperate need of validation. Therefore, they’ve learned that they and their feelings don’t really matter, and it is their job to tend to others’ feelings a lot. That’s why they may feel it to be pointless to tell you how they feel, or they tell you, but they don’t seem desperate… It’s like an FYI announcement. FYI, you know I love you, right? They don’t really care how you respond because, frankly, they’ve lived without you so far; they can continue living without you, even if they very much preferred living with you.

Also, don’t assume self-confident people care if you love them, they’re not desperate. To a self-confident person, however, being told that they’re loved is probably not the first time they hear it. Some may have heard it so many times they’re bored hearing it. The reason is that if they are not in love with you back, your feelings don’t really make them all that excited. “Join the club” would be the response you get, IF they are not already in love with you.

Therefore, the way to approach someone of worth, someone who seems above it all, is to meet them half-way. They won’t chase you, but they won’t run from you, either. If they are interested, they’re going to give you a fair chance. They’ll also signal indifference without telling you that they’re not really that interested, but if you’re acting weird around them, don’t be surprised if they’re acting confused, too; giving them mixed signals may not be the best idea; their ego isn’t easily insulted. They’re also used to rejecting people, so they will not take it as a terrible insult if you don’t think they’re the hottest one person in this world – like a monogamist of any worth should think to be into anyone.

Still, they may be used to rejection – or rather to being ignored.

People rarely feel sympathy or empathy toward Libertines*. Libertines* seem like they can just reach out their hand and take what they want, but unless they’re completely entitled and narcissistic, it’s unlikely they’ve learned the balance of taking what they want without entitlement issues. If you give too much space for your presumptuous self-confidence, you’ll quickly crash and burn. They’ve seen other people fly into that trap, and they’ve probably done that themselves in previous lifetimes, and figure it’s rather unpleasant.

Therefore, they won’t flinch when you reject them to play hard to get. They may raise their eyebrows in surprise, yes, but they won’t be bothered by it. They may even think: “Well that was weird” but they won’t really think “Oh my god this person is snubbing me!” They know nobody would seriously think they’re undatable, so they figure “must be a personal preference, no biggie.” You can excite the ego of a 9.5, but not the ego of a 10+… Someone with a brain to match the looks that is.

Expressing interest is the best way to go; they’re used to people doing that, too, so they won’t think you’re just the kind of an idiot who would go for a guy/girl like myself, so they will treat you accordingly; with a kind response. If they’re not interested, they’ll kind of dodge the question, often with the sense of humor of someone who has honed the art of rejection a million times. It’s nice to know that even if they weren’t interested in you, a Libertine* is unlikely to give you grief if you approach them with respect and a good attitude.

Libertines* are shy of other Libertines*, tho.

If you’re a Libertine*, so is you True Emotion Mirror, and if a person is a Libertine*, so is their True Emotion Mirror. Therefore, if you’re not one, it is usually the best policy to leave them alone. If you are one, your best bet is to start getting over your fears and understand that although YOU think that The Opposite Gender is the one who does the approaching, other Libertines* think that way, too – regardless of their gender. Male Libertine* thinks women approach men; female Libertines* think men do the approaching. Now that you know, you better become the active party, regardless of how they feel. It’s best there are two active parties than none at all.

Also, know that Libertines* are used to being chased, so you can kind of lay it down thick for them that you’re interested before they even notice you’re serious. They will act reserved and insecure for as long as they don’t know what you want because they’re used to people talking straight and confessing love to them with little hope of returned feelings.

If you’re in love with another Libertine*, you need to tell them. OR you need to approach them in some playful/flirty way if you don’t like too direct approaches – but avoid jealousy games, ego-insulting strategies, and other games, at least if you’ve already tried and failed – don’t worry, they may look like playing is all they do, but only super humans play without sweaty palms when it comes to their True Emotion Mirror.

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