Online dating will involve a healthy amount of talk about sex. It should.

I love online dating. I love it mainly because of the incredible amount of good stuff that comes into your inbox. I love the conversations about relationships, sex, and sexuality, all those topics that normally wouldn’t happen, but on a dating site is a natural thing to discuss, even if only on a theoretical level. And I hear women shrieking; if you talk about that stuff in your first email, how are they ever going to respect you?!

Men respect grown up people. They respect sensible women, who do not make a HUGE issue about whether or not they can discuss sex or relationships in a grown up manner, and who do not even see the difference between disrespectful sexual remarks and adult conversations. Men do not, generally speaking, like women who moan and groan and whine about men being only interested in sex, and quite frankly that’s a good method of weeding through women who couldn’t handle an adult relationship even if they were given the chance; if a girl can’t handle a normal conversation about sex, how is she going to handle a real relationship that involves live sex?

Granted, it is clear that we don’t all want to open up about everything in the first email, let alone start sharing photos of our genitals (I haven’t received any in such a long time either… Men do learn, and I do mean that as a compliment; it may feel sexy to start with, but it rarely works in practice, so they change tactic, unlike women who are still whining) but one should expect an intimate conversation to happen on a site like this. After all, you are supposed to figure out whether you’re compatible or not. If everything about you is reserved; YOU ARE NOT READY FOR AN INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP! Just like we accuse men for not being ready for an emotional relationship, it is just as important to point out that some women are nowhere near mature enough for a sexual relationship, and men sense that – and in reality, that is like trying to go ahead and coax a 12-year old into a sexual relationship; if she’s all twisted in all kinds of issues and fears about sex, it would be immoral of the man to stick around… But they do, because they have been told that they have to put up with all of this, because that’s what women are like.

The fact is that women are being pushed into sexual relationships too soon sometimes, and “by too soon” I mean… Before they turn 50… In all honesty, there are women who should never be in a sexual relationship AT ALL, no matter how old they are. The number of men who are this way is a lot lower, but they exist, too, I suppose. Then again, some women are more than mature enough for a sexual relationship at ages when they’re not even supposed to know the meaning of the word – that is not to say that go right ahead and become openly pedo, it is just to point out the difference in individual’s levels of maturity. I put this down to reincarnation – some women have had time to get fine with their sexuality over past incarnations, some have lived very sheltered lives over and over and know nothing of sexuality.

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