How to get rid of the Survivalist* thinking partner

If you find yourself married or in a serious relationship with the Survivalist* both of you thinking a different thing was going on… Like for example like this. And you want to end the relationship… The best thing to do with the Survivalist* is to find yourself a replacement.

Find a replacement for yourself

Play your cards straight with the person who you intend to become your replacement. Tell him/her you can’t handle relationships (like this) and you need someone reliable to take over. The Survivalist* love arranged relationships, a responsible approach, and the kind of security you get from planning a relationship. Tell your replacement the exact situation: we need to transfer his/her emotions from me to you. A Survivalist* doesn’t find this offensive at all, but understandable and clever. An Idealist* will find it offensive and will not be a suitable replacement in the first place. (And unlikely to respond to a suggestion like this positively at all.)

Meet up with this person alone first, and see what they are like. Then, pretend to your partner that you’ve made a new friend. Start bringing him or her over to your place often. At your place, offer them a beer or a drink and then make them invite you, as a couple, over for a dinner at their place. (You will have to agree with your intended replacement to do this.) This makes you look bad and him/her look good.

Make sure whenever you meet up with them, you compare poorly to your intended replacement. Dress down, rather than up, make some etiquette flaws if you can handle the embarrassment, without making it too obvious. Forget to bring gifts when you go, and remind your replacement to ALWAYS bring you something when he or she comes in, even if you had to pay for the gifts. Remember they will understand the point of this charade much better than you do.

Wait until your partner starts to make positive comments about this new friend of yours. Don’t react at once, but simply grunt her or his remarks away. “He/she’s alright.” Come up with an excuse to hang out with them in the first place, something work-related is usually good if at all possible to spin it that way. Maybe you’re about to do some freelancing work for this person or some such thing. Perhaps you are looking to start a business, which your intended will back out of because his or her current job provides a more secure income. Remember security. This person needs to be reliable and disinterested in taking financial risks. Emphasis your wish to take financial risks, and make the replacement partner argue the importance of safety in front of your partner if at all possible. Make them see you as an unreliable and shaky “about to fly off the handle” and your replacement the lifeboat she or he needs to grab a hold onto before it is too late.

Make your partner leave you

the Idealists* are great in one way; they don’t mind a hit on their own image or reputation for a higher cause. The Survivalist* cannot. Therefore, let them dump you after you got “impossible to control”. If they give you a chance to improve your behavior, promise to “cross my heart and hope to die” to do better, but then, make no changes, if possible try and hide your tracks and bad behavior, but make them find proof of you have been out drinking or hanging out with the very friends your spouse disapproves of.

Seem as passive and non-energetic as you possibly can, but try not to seem TOO helpless. Don’t show signs of depression or mental illness per say, as that will make the Survivalist* go on a rescue mission. Just appear lazy, unpredictable (do spur-of-the-moment things, the Survivalist* hate them), and take risks. (As big as you can tolerate yourself.) When she or he confronts you, make sure she or he understands you have no idea what the problem is.

Enjoy this, potentially, you could have a fun time making your spouse want to see the last of you.

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