Reclaiming your own power under the pressure of fans and supporters

Authenticity is the state of staying true to yourself and surrounding yourself with the people who you TRULY trust as opposed to people who trust themselves to be the best thing for you. The trust must be mutual. True trust is mutual: I will put my fate in your hands as you put yours in mine. It must be voluntary: I take the responsibility of your happiness and success into my hands, as you take mine. It is, in a sense, a marriage.

This post relates to the state of being tied to a karmic bond with a Kryptonite Spirit Mirror or several such is most likely the case with public figures, entertainers, creative professionals, sports personalities and sports teams, politicians and so forth. Anyone who is performing ANY task in the public arena.

On a personal level, the most likely Kryptonite Spirit Mirror is one’s own parent or other Trail Companion*, who sees “potential” in you, but doesn’t like where you’re taking it, or has a differing opinion on how to best harness your power.

The goal is to release yourself from the Kryptonite Spirit Mirrors’ grip

The goal is to become free from the opinions of your Trail Companions* and free yourself and your team to work authentically from your Own Truth and Your Strenght. This doesn’t mean you have to make them non-fans, but you will have to make them keep their opinions to themselves at any cost.

Politeness will be your enemy. Being accommodating and considerate to differing perspectives will be your enemy. Although it will be wise to listen to other’s opinions, the presenters of those opinions must know that their opinion will be heard and considered but not necessarily implemented in practice and that this decision is finally yours. If they are unhappy with that, they should keep their opinion to themselves. This sometimes makes people want to not share their information with you, but if arguing endlessly over whose opinion it’s going to be is the price you have to pay, it’s best they keep it to themselves.

Clear your tribe from the wrong people

Practice this in all areas of your life. Do not try to TOLERATE people in your immediate group of friends. Tolerate strangers, tolerate people who you do not need to be in a day-to-day contact with, but make sure your group of friends, colleagues, and collaborators are people who you admire and trust completely.

This is not always easy. Not at all. Not even in the ballpark of easy. There are political considerations in all human relationships; who do you piss off if you piss off this person? Who will think less of you if you throw this person out of your tribe and so forth? They may not understand your reasons, even if they’d agree with you once they did. You may not be able to inform everyone about your decisions, and that may have a negative impact on your circles. What this also does is create nervousness around you, because your “firing habits” may seem random, ad-hoc, or impulsive – much like the changes in Trump’s cabinet. (This man is THE MOST INSTINCTIVE leader this world has ever seen. He pretends NOTHING.)

Trust your instincts. If you don’t like or trust someone, that doesn’t mean they are a bad person, per say, it’s just that they are not truly aligned with YOUR spirit, and the spirit of your group.

You will also find that the people you’ve been tolerating are the same people that the people YOU TRUST have also felt they need to tolerate. Your Right People will ALWAYS AGREE on who shouldn’t be there. A personal example:

“We thought YOU liked him!”

In my 20’s, I had an awesome group of friends. All of the sudden, our favorite guys started to bring this one guy with them to all the parties. We, the girls, were wondering why on Earth would they keep dragging this asswipe everywhere we went, until one day we were talking alone with the guys, and they all of the sudden burst at their seams: “Fuck, we know you like this guy, but he’s such an ASSHOLE…” We went: “Wait, what?! WE like him?!”

We never saw him again.

I’ve even erased him off a favorite old photo. Lol.

Who you and your friends want to fuck

Tip of the century. Monogamy is soooo last millennium. Bond through the people you all want to fuck. Harness that sexual energy and forget the fuck about monogamy. Stop fighting over men or women and share them. Follow your own thing, if you all want to fuck one and the same woman, fuck one and the same woman. CLEAR OUT THE ONES YOU DON’T NEED OR WANT. All of them.

The smaller your group, the easier it is to find accord

Bigger is not always better, and it is never as true as when trying to come to an agreement. The exception to this rule might be a HIGHLY attuned group of True or Precious Soulmates*. They kind of work together like a school of fish, so there’s very little disagreements, and when there are, they are quickly solved as everyone’s values are the same. Everyone’s goal is the same. You all want the same thing with no conflicts. You won’t get stuck in a detail, you simply want the best possible solution regardless of whose idea it was, for instance. As you see your team as ONE, it doesn’t matter who had the idea – much – as long as it works.

Cutting the fat

For as long as there’s competition within the group, fear of exclusion, need to prove one’s own worth to the group while fearing being cut, the team isn’t working to a full potential.

Also, know there ARE two types of people. Those who function at a half pace when they fear being cut, and those who are always motivated for as long as the threat of being cut exists. No matter which way you are, the whole team must be created of the same type… Or be very clever about the way you work these types. One type needs reassurance they’re a part of the team for sure (they often make sure this is the case by making sure they are THE BEST player, an irreplaceable because they hate the insecurity of possibly being cut) and others are happy being JUST GOOD ENOUGH or barely there, and use that fear to their advantage but will NEVER become the best player because they won’t have the fear in them to motivate them.

Then, there are those who want to be a part of the team regardless of their talent, (professional sports teams rarely apply here, but you get the idea in the little leagues,) they want to ensure NOBODY gets cut, ever. Nobody likes being cut, it’s just a question how we react to that fear, and whether we even thrive to be the one doing the cutting because we hate the thought of being excluded so much.

And yet, to purify a group or a team, you sometimes have to be brutal.

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