They say they are “a True Emotion Mirror”, yet, they exclude me. Hipocrites!

If a person Aa is a True Emotion Mirror to person Ab, they are True Emotion Mirrors only in relationship to each other and whoever else is THEIR True Emotion Mirror. This doesn’t mean that person Bb is their True Emotion Mirror, or that either person Aa or Ab is the True Emotion Mirror to Ba or Bb. Some people understand the term “True Emotion Mirror” to be some kind of a superior lover, who then is, upon declaring being what the term refers to, some kind of a love automat to anyone who loves them. However, that is NOT AT ALL what that means. More to the point, it means they are more or less INCAPABLE of truly loving anyone but their own True Emotion Mirrors, it also means their own children and parents fall into another category of slightly lesser soulmates.

This doesn’t mean that Ba or Bb could not be True Emotion Mirrors to someone, they simply have to find THEIR True Emotion Mirrors, and those people are not automatically the ones they first think. The person’s child or parent is ALMOST NEVER the True Emotion Mirror but a Precious Soulmate*, if the connection is deep and healthy. Them being a True Emotion Mirror would mean a sexual relationship, which would mean a taboo relationship between them. They occur from time to time, but that is far from an ideal situation as far as the society’s views go.

People also rate the “higher” connection differently. Some people believe that the sexual aspect is a sign of a lesser connection and that the absence of a sexual connection means a higher connection. Not all people share this view, and it is individual. Our soul’s purposes are different. Some people value one thing, the other values another thing, and there really is no room for over-bearing debate here. Whatever you wish for – as long as the person who you wish it from wholly agrees with you.

“They say they’re that good at love, shouldn’t they love everyone who loves them?!”

People who are open to polyamory are particularly irritated by the notion of polygamousORpolygynandrous True Emotion Mirrors who still have the audacity of upholding boundaries or insisting on loving some kind of special people only. They feel that a “True Emotion Mirror” means an individual, not a relationship and that a person who is a True Emotion Mirror to another person, as in, their soulmate, should, at the same time, regard everyone else their soulmate as well. They feel like the True Emotion Mirror is a kind of a superior lover, and feel that if they’re so good at loving, why should they have the right to reject someone who wants them?

But no. Being a True Emotion Mirror doesn’t make anyone a superior lover, they’ve found superior love. There’s a difference. They’ve found someone or some people who are PERFECT for them as individuals. This doesn’t mean they are amazing in any real sense, only in the eyes of each other – although, Enigmas have True Emotion Mirrors of their own, too, and the chaser may feel like they SHOULD be included on the basis that they’re also in love with this person.

The True Emotion Mirrors should protect their group from outsiders at all cost. If you’re an outsider they don’t want in, that’s simply the way life goes sometimes.

Fear of sexuality and showing sexual feelings

Many people fear their own sexuality and the sexuality of other people. It takes a relatively old soul to be fine with one’s sexuality. There is also usually a phase during which a person tries to suffocate their own sexuality and the sexuality of other people. They deem it “lower” or “animalistic” or somehow “unholy”, but this shows immaturity in the person. It is NOT a sign of a heightened spiritual state. However, a person who feels this way should not pressure themselves into sexual relationships, as sexuality should be a pleasure, not something you do reluctantly to “appear mature” or to “appear the right way” or to please others.

The people who do not want sexuality to be in the forefront of their own lives or the lives of their loved ones, tend to react to it with fear, and also consider the non-sexual soulmate types “higher” because that is what they wish for in this world. They may also strongly interfere in the lives of True Emotion Mirrors, refusing to recognize their connection as “the higher one” because of their own reluctance to involve themselves in sexual unions.

Being seen as a sexual, mature person is one of the biggest problems in the way of a True Emotion Mirror union for the female. The fear of being sexually stigmatized is high, and this is the major problem for many many women in their True Emotion Mirror relationships.

(If anyone has blogs that deal with the sexual healing of women, please send me links. I have no intentions of approaching that topic with a six-foot pole because I do not like my fellow women that much and I’d much rather see them suffer than to help them out myself, but I am not heartless. I’d gladly lead them to someone who is willing and able to help them out. Other women will do, of course.)

So. Again. The Soulmate connections are ALWAYS in relation to another, specific, person

To make that original point clearer still. All soulmate connections are in RELATION to another person. They analyze each separate relationship between one person and another person. We are all a different soulmate type to a different person, for instance, me:

I am the True Emotion Mirror for a bunch of guys I’m not going to name.

I am a Precious Soulmate* to another bunch of men I am not going to name.

I am a strong Trail Companion* to a great number of women I know.

I am a Spousal Spirit Mirror to my ex-husband.

I am an Inflamed Precious Soulmate* to my mother.

I am a Precious Soulmate* to my father and to my brother. (Slight inflammation as a result of my terrifyingly bad relationship with my mother.)

I am also an Elite Shop Window to a former friend of mine who is a Junk Show Window to me, a True Antagonist in some sense.

In general, alone, without a connection to anyone specific, I am a Savants* and an Enigma to a lot of people, and also a Don Juan Spirit Mirror.

I am not a Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* to anyone, but I am completely committed to my True Emotion Mirrors. The Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* connection is a TYPE of a relationship, while commitment can happen in various of other soulmate relationships.

The point being, that each person is of several different types in relation to different people. If they regard you as a non-True Emotion Mirror to themselves, that doesn’t mean they are a hypocrite or that you mean nothing to them. The True Emotion Mirror, to be validated as an actual connection, must be mutually felt. Granted, in many situations you’re forced to simply guess and play your cards accordingly, sometimes it works for you, sometimes it won’t. Life. It’s such.

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