Normal Sexual/Romantic Relationship

To make a contrast between the soulmate and karmic soulmate relationships and obsessions over someone one cannot have, I’ll have to describe a normal, everyday relationship that we are mostly all used to experiencing. These fall under HEALTHY Trail Companion* relationships, but where I usually discuss it, it is combined with an unhealthy level of obsession that is not a part of a normal relationship dynamic.

Most normal relationship advice is meant for Trail Companion* relationships, where obsessions are removed from the picture.

What is normal?

Normally, when a boy meets a girl and a girl meets a boy, they will find some things about each other likable and some not so much. Normally, we don’t expect the earth to shake, telepathy to strike or any such thing, but we expect a nice flowing conversation, nice time, and some good company. Nothing major, but fun and enjoyable.

On a normal date, you compare your similarities, your differences – focussing on the similarities and you wonder whether they are enough to keep you interested on each other a long-term basis. You consider whether their company might be enjoyable on a long-term or turn annoying or tedious after you’ve been together for a while.

The relationship is largely stress-free, but some disagreements happen, but they are solved quickly and maturely with little fuss.

Not quite all of you but quite enough

Normal sexual relationships are relationships you work on. You try and compromise on things, it’s a give and take. Some things work better than others, the sex is what is to be expected, some days better, some days not so great. You wouldn’t really want it to be all-consuming with this person, you keep a certain distance from your partner, you don’t want to get under their skin or to necessarily know everything there is to know about them. They’re simply a nice person to have around and that’s about all there is to it. You feel love towards them, but it is not passionate, or fill you up in ways that would defy your previous idea of what relationships are and feel like.

There is nothing SURPRISING about normal sexual and romantic relationships unless you are completely inexperienced and naive about them. They follow a certain path and progress predictably by an even, calm pattern.

What is wrong with this type of a relationship?

Compared to the True Emotion Mirror

Where there is NOTHING WRONG with this type of a relationship, per say, there’s also nothing that interesting about it. Once a person has met a True Emotion Mirror, it’s really difficult to contemplate settling for something so bland and meaningless after that. While anyone who HASN’T met their True Emotion Mirror would agree that this is exactly what you expect from a relationship, once you’ve found a True Emotion Mirror, you simply CANNOT contemplate going back to this, every day, point a finger and that’s what you get -type of a relationship. It is simply bland and boring.

When Trail Companion* couples describe each other as “soulmates” the True Emotion Mirrors dispair. “You know nothing.”

Compared to the obsessive Trail Companion*

The obsessive Trail Companion* is someone who wishes to convince themselves that their Trail Companion* relationship is, in fact, a True Emotion Mirror relationship because there are heightened emotions and because some feeble signs might be there. The reason why they are insisting on the Trail Companion* being a True Emotion Mirror is to claim a stake on someone you want, but have really nothing to pin down with. It would be nice to know you can force someone who is nothing much to you to be everything to you.

So, in other words, compared to the obsessive Trail Companion*, no, there’s nothing wrong with this type of a relationship, quite the opposite. If the relationship works nicely and fluently, there’s no reason breaking it, it’s just that IF one partner finds their True Emotion Mirror, it may be all it takes for the Trail Companion* relationship to break. Having said that, the Trail Companion* relationship is the most durable kind, as there are very little heightened emotions involved, therefore, the lows are not that low, and the highs are also not that high, making it predictable and evenly flowing.

Subscribe to get a Daily Message