Clearing and keeping the coast clear for your True Emotion Mirrors

We all tend to fear that the people who we love the most won’t love us back. We can even chase them away with this fear, pretending we don’t care when we do, or demanding that we are given attention that was already ours. It is exceedingly rare that people are calm about the idea of being loved back by their True Emotion Mirror, even when they are. You do not need to force someone who truly loves you into loving you… You need to make them feel safe to.

Keep the wrong people out

I am a natural polyandrist. I have struggled with a lot of it. Firstly, I was afraid that my male soulmates would feel that they are being short-changed if I have more boyfriends than one but refuse to accept more women into the relationship. Turns out that a polyandrist man doesn’t want any other women but one into that relationship.

So, I’ve been in too close relationships with women, who, to a natural polyandrist, represent the wrong kind of a bond; polygyny. Whenever I’d make a friend with a woman, I would deny myself to some degree. Only other polyandrist women would work, as they would naturally keep the relationship cool, by not mixing sexual feelings toward me.

As I write this, I get nudges from my female friends: “I thought we are good. I thought we are fine…” And I feel sad, the nicer they are to me, the harder it is to tell them that I really don’t want them. And this is partly what this post is about.

Keeping the excess out

During the last 6 years of spiritual enlightenment coupled with connecting with my True Emotion Mirrors of all development types, I have found I can love more men than I could have ever imagined. Now, instead of choosing one (which used to be easy as only one of my mature state True Emotion Mirrors was shown to me in this lifetime before turning poly, just to make that illusion of monogamous true love possible), I had to say no to men who I love but… Not love them enough. And I must say… The numbers are crazy.

But the more I like the guy the worse it feels. So how do you say no to someone who you truly like, without hurting their feelings?

Why should you keep the wrong ones out?

When someone pushes in with too much force, they create a layer on you that pushes the ones you want out. The more people that swarm onto your skin, the more your True Emotion Mirrors will feel you’re too busy or too popular for them. They need a lot of encouragement, and if they see awesome men or women swarm around you, and you letting them in, they’ll think you love them, not your True Emotion Mirrors .

The ones who already know you’re theirs, oddly enough, tend to let you be more. Subconsciously they know that you won’t leave them. However, in the meantime, they’ll allow you to be with anyone you like for as long as you like. The fact that they know you belong to them makes them think they’ll give you as much time you like to play around, while you think you’re playing around until your True Emotion Mirror snaps out of it and comes to you finally.

If you are ready for true love, (and for myself, I say I was born ready,) you should just brave it and clear your slate for the ones you truly love… And trust they’ll be there.

How to combat the guilt involved in not appreciating and accepting love offered?

The guilt, to some degree, comes from the belief that you don’t really believe this person might find love elsewhere. Just so you know, you self-conceited bitch/dick! 😉 If you didn’t read it yet, please check out my previous post about fake friends (and lovers). That should ease some of it. Nobody wants charity love.

Rejecting someone with class

Letting someone down easy is sometimes worse than just blurting things out. This is because whenever you blurt stuff out, it means you don’t really think it’s anything to be ashamed of. If you kind of try to be gentle about it, it sounds like “omg, isn’t this embarrassing for you…”

I had a friend once, who sadly passed the way. She was the master of this approach. When we visited her, the first thing she would do was to cheerfully announce we had until 3 pm after which she would have to kick us out to prepare for her next lot of guests. It was wonderful. We didn’t have to wonder how much longer we should stay in order to not offend her by rushing off, any more than worrying we’d overstay our welcome. We knew exactly how much time we had – and we always had a ball.

When she was waiting to die, she invited us over again, told us what to wear to her funeral and to have fun… and to bring our dolls. And there was not a sign of pretense or ego, she was simply cheerfully forthright and easy to be around.

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