How does a True Emotion Mirror male signal he intends to marry you

How he or she approaches a person he or she is utterly in love with differs from his or her idea of how to show love the most to the opposite gender. He is likely to think that if he shows her he wants to marry her, she will feel utterly loved, but in her corner, she wants to give him love, sex, that is, no questions asked, to tell him she trusts him and loves him. This creates a bolt lock as he withholds sex to show respect and an intent to marry, and she has no intentions to wait that long to show how much he means to her.

If on top of that, she’s one of the sexually liberated women who are more romantic than marriage driven, she may not have a clue about how a guy behaves when he wants to marry her or have any interest in looking for such signs because… Marriage can wait. It’ll come later.

He is withdrawing sex

He makes her wait for sex. He drives her home to show her respect and makes sure he doesn’t come in. She starts to think he’s not very sexually confident but believes she can fix that later. (Sometimes I’ve heard women enthuse about how this guy didn’t try and have sex with her straight away and I’ve wondered to myself: “How is that a good thing?!”)

He may also stop having sex with her when he thinks he has treated her with too much disrespect before, and now he thinks he has to drive the message home strong: this is not just sex to me. We must be serious about this. We must have a talk. If we want to get married, we have to stop acting like horny dogs…

To which she is likely to react as “he doesn’t want me anymore, he’s withdrawing, he’s lost interest.”

Talk about finances, flashing wealth

He is more than likely to “brag” about a stable financial situation to show her that he “can afford a wife”. This can happen by buying a new (expensive) suit, a new sensible car, or openly discussing his finances – even sending her bank statements to prove it. (Yeeees.)

If he is doing anything weird that shows his wealth, he’s about to pop the question. All she needs to do is to give him the green light by answering these functions indirectly: Dressing up more “wifely”, becoming more “respectable” and less “single”.

This is what many modern women have a MAJOR issue with. For one thing, they don’t think she should expect him to provide for her. Secondly, she wants to keep being sexual and desirable, after all, she wants her husband think of her as a sexual being, not some daggy “serious” old lady with baby drool on her work jacket.

She could show her availability in other ways though. Slowing down passing a bridal shop is a very clear sign to send.

Ending non-marriage compatible hobbies etc

He may start making changes towards turning his life suitable for a married man. A stripper would stop stripping, a long-haired guy might cut his hair short. He might quit his band should he play in one, and even end some businesses. Girls would do wisely to be very clear about wanting her husband to keep being who they are after marriage if that’s how she feels (and the Savants* thinking women tend to want an interesting husband rather than “a proper” one).

Talk about your families and having kids

Men will direct discussion topics towards having children quite fast. He’ll also, if you’re actually dating, introduce you to his friends in an interesting fashion. Not like a casual date but as his future wife. He’ll most likely also treat you a bit differently than what is normal. Not all introductions like this are signs of a pending marriage proposal, nor is the lack of it a real sign of him not planning to propose – some people don’t really consider family or friends to be a part of this whole affair so they don’t either mention them or they’re somewhat of a non-issue.

However, men who are seriously thinking about proposing you will probably mention kids at some stage – whether to figure out if you want some or to see if you are thinking about him as the father of your future children. He may bring them up in a weird way, too, but they’ll bring them up.

Again, she may miss this, particularly if she’s childfree and doesn’t really consider children as anything more than an unnecessary distraction to the romance, and may only sound annoyed at him bringing up children: “An absolutely perfect man and even HE thinks nothing but having kids with me!” (Many childfree women, who, by the way, have a higher than average IQ, and thus many men like them, complain about men always wanting to have kids.) However, a man mentioning children doesn’t necessarily mean he wants them, but that he wants to know whether or not you want him.

He compliments on you when you look seriously daggy

Men who are serious about you compliment you when you’re wearing the most ordinary clothes. This means he likes seeing you relaxed and in your home clothes. He feels accepted and trusted that you let him see you that way.

He also wants you to know he loves you even when you are “at your worst”.

Of course, this may, on her part, mean she doesn’t really care what you think… Or she’s just casual in her dress style anyway.

The Decoy Relationships

Men also have this thing they do… If she’s not quite getting the message, he may assume that she believes he’s not really ready for a committed relationship. To solve this problem, he may use another woman to demonstrate how ready and able he is to manage a serious relationship. He’ll flaunt the girlfriend in front of his True Emotion Mirror to make sure she knows he’s got what it takes as long as she is willing to take him off the girlfriend’s hands. Naturally, this strategy is a fraud with danger. She may actually believe this other woman is there for real.

Again, the Savants* thinking girls tend to miss the point of this, as they are not after a serious relationship but a romantic, lifelong one. Instead, they’re looking at this moronic attempt at a commitment with amused contempt. “Look how ridiculously she makes him behave…”

Gradual

Of course, all of this may progress differently if there are other factors in play, like an already existing marriage. Always a bit of a hindrance when one of you is already married. :p He will also wait for encouragement as he’s assessing his chances regarding you.

By the way, some men propose right out of the blue without any sign of having even thought about it. Perhaps rare. Not many people want to propose without assessing the risk of rejection.

Also, some men will introduce you to their family and friends without a second thought, but his own kids are a big deal for most people.

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