Is it possible to break a True Emotion Mirror bond
What is the difference between a True Emotion Mirror and a Trail Companion*?
The True Emotion Mirror is a person who loves, admires, and respects you equally to you and above anyone else. You are to each other the epitome of perfection in flesh. This doesn’t necessarily mean good looks although often that applies, too, but the perfect matching of your ultimate ideals you thrive for. You both believe in the same exact goal even if you weren’t there yet.
The Trail Companions*, as the name suggests, are somewhat of a miss match. Their values are not 100% in alignment and they value slightly different things. The interest is often ego-based, other times simple mutual acceptance that love like True Emotion Mirrors experience is so hard to find there is no point crying oneself to sleep over it but it’s the grown-up thing to do to settle for something little less and enjoy what we have, rather than cry for what we don’t have.
“Rights” vs. “Wishes”
The major emotion difference between these two soulmate types when their rights to keep each other is contested by the true mirror counterpart of themselves or another person:
True Emotion Mirror – I wish they loved me and that I had the permission to love them.
A Trail Companion* – I have every right to them, they are obligated to love me and I have the right to keep them.
Neither, a non-Mirror – They’re a cool person but there’s plenty of fish in the sea.
Please note that the Spousal Spirit Mirror is a current, active relationship, (including the marriages from past life that are still “active” in spirit,) whereas the True Emotion Mirror is the upgrade, that suffers tremendously for any Active Partial Emotion Mirrors that are still there, particularly the ones who are holding on to dear life fighting to rescue their relationship.
Because the Active Partial Emotion Mirrors are so presumptuous about their rights to each other, it is difficult to break the bond, in comparison to the True Emotion Mirrors , who are always even too careful of breaking the bond.
It is also possible for the True Emotion Mirrors to forge the same kind of unquestioned certainty over their bond as the Active Partial Emotion Mirrors, but the process is somewhat lengthy as a huge part of their relationship is based on instinctive respect of the other and their rights and wellbeing. Once the True Emotion Mirror bond is at this level, it is impossible to break it. I’ll discuss that a little later, too, but let’s just first discuss the reasons why someone might want to break a bond to another person.
Why people want to know if it is possible to break a Emotion Mirror bond?
There are two kinds of people who are asking about the possibility of breaking a Emotion Mirror bond, each often talking about the True Emotion Mirror, by terminology, but actually talking about Active Partial Emotion Mirror in all actuality.
They want to ensure their Emotion Mirror isn’t going to get away. (An APEM they’ve confused for a REM)
They want to find a way to break the bond to a person they don’t love. (APEM)
The reason why I know that anyone talking about breaking this bond is talking about an Active Partial Emotion Mirror is that nobody would want to break the bond with a True Emotion Mirror. Even when the feelings are superb, highly exaggerated, and powerful, if they feel negative and draining, and in any way obligating, they’re about a Active Partial Emotion Mirror.
In some cases, a person who wants to find their True Emotion Mirror, sets their eyes on an Active Partial Emotion Mirror, and holds them in a grip like trying to shake and squeeze feelings out of them, against their will. This is a more passionate person pestering a less passionate one, which from my personal perspective is an unlikely situation because I’m one of the passionate ones, mostly pestered by people with half the ambition and passion to STOP being who I am so, I haven’t paid enough attention to this scenario at all.
So yes. ALL soul bonds are possibly breakable, however, nobody would truly WANT TO break a True Emotion Mirror bond, which also breaks the easiest in some sense, but it is so easily repaired it is not really breakable. The True Emotion Mirror bond doesn’t suffer from separation or distance, as these two don’t need to hold onto each other to feel the connection to be eternal, they know it’s there, always, so they don’t need to hold on to dear life, like the Active Partial Emotion Mirrors do.
This guide mostly applies to people in a ‘spiritual’ relationship
Please note that most of this guide won’t make sense to people who do not have that telepathic soul connection happening. This is the reason why many people confuse this with the True Emotion Mirror relationship, because it ticks so many of the same boxes as True Emotion Mirrors, and now my True Emotion Mirror -descriptions do. Despite the similarities, shared dreams, shared consciousness, aligning events and all of the secondary signs match, this is not a True Emotion Mirror bond.
Whenever there is an “active” partner, as in the person who kind of calls the shots in the relationship in a way that he or she wants it more than the other, who feels singled out and chased, it is a sign of something other than a True Emotion Mirror bond. In True Emotion Mirror connections, both partners chase each other, but can so royally screw up their communication that they both feel THEY are the chaser, unfortunately. A True Emotion Mirror runs from the connection when they feel rejected, even though they are not.
Anyway;
Four possible Active Partial Emotion Mirror bonds (appearing like True Emotion Mirrors )
Obviously, nobody can be forced to feel anything real. Emotions happen spontaneously, and as a response, but they can be manipulated up to a degree, even by a person outside of you. Let’s discuss what happens in each of these cases.
A ‘passionate’ person is pestering a ‘mellow’ person for high emotions. (Passionate chaser, mellow runner)
A ‘mellow’ person is pestering a ‘passionate’ person for security and stability. (A mellow chaser, passionate runner)
A ‘mellow’ person is relying on a non-compatible ‘mellow’ person for security and stability. (An Active Partial Emotion Mirror relationship.)
A ‘passionate’ person is relying on a non-compatible ‘passionate’ person for high emotions. (Most likely a highly compatible Active Partial Emotion Mirror, a “near” Real.)
Just a note
I first have to say that the passionate people are often VERY QUIET people in real life. Almost invisible when they are surrounded by Partial Emotion Mirrors, and only liven up with their truest friends and lovers as a group, or in a one-on-one conversation. This means that don’t let the first impression fool you, they need to tone down their passions in everyday situations but what they want is to unleash them on their romantic partner.
In contrast, the mellow people can be very lively conversationalists, mostly because they don’t have any taboos to hide. They are pretty everyday people. Therefore, they don’t have to fear what others might uncover if they talk about things, and they don’t even think about such things as, for instance, slings, harnesses, whips, and other tools of passionate torture unlike the passionate people who are all in for anything that creates a bigger ‘high’.
The mellow people love the idea of romantically making love surrounded by candles and flower petals, where as the passionate people would see that as a limitation to their sexual expression, nothing to scoff at at times, but they want to go a lot further still, into “ripping her apart” -area. (And the feeling is mutual for both genders.)
A ‘passionate’ person is pestering a ‘mellow’ person for high emotions. (Passionate chaser, mellow runner)
So, if you want to break the bond you’d be the mellow runner in this scenario. (If not, skip to the part that describes you.) This maybe very much like a “True Emotion Mirror” relationship, or it may appear to be a True Emotion Mirror relationship. The difference it, that you don’t really like it. You feel like you’ve been targeted and pestered to take part in something you don’t want.
This is very close to what we see as a traditional rape. The connection is sexual, but one party isn’t really into it, or feels they are being obligated to partake in awful things that they don’t like. If this couple believes in True Emotion Mirrors, they may also feel like this is a must figure out situation, which means they’re obligated and doomed to be together even though only one partner wants it.
This is one of the reasons why I keep saying there is a CHOICE involved in these things, as in you can never force a person into a relationship with you, as in, you CAN do it, technically, of course, but it is morally wrong and despicable. Most people understand this, so the main thing to do is to explain to that person that you don’t want it, but you also have to believe you have the right and the power to say no to it, because otherwise it may sound like “I don’t want to feel like this but this connection is so powerful I can’t stop it and it feels good” as in you’ve got a MORAL dilemma that is so sweetly over-powered by the passion you feel for your partner, the way the passionate people would understand the sentence. You’ll have to explain to your partner that you really don’t enjoy it, that you don’t like it when it is happening and that even though you feel those emotions, they don’t feel good to you.
This will cut people to the core, especially men, by the way, because men may fear that no woman wants these relationships, so please be gentle if you can, but the first priority is, of course, that you make this stop. If you can, remind him that there are others who can give to him what he wants, but that you cannot be that person.
The most difficult task in all relationship breakups is to make the other party believe you want them gone. Among the Savants* it is easy as wink, but the Normal Person* may not understand it too easily. You may have to ram it home a bit more than you’d like to with the Normal Person* Chaser, but a Savants* should receive the message at the first go. Start gently and ram up the volume if your partner needs more convincing that the relationship is over.
The chaser feels
The chaser feels like he or she is trying to squeeze water out of a rock. They are TRYING hard to make the other person feel strong feelings, but are failing it. So they are kind of “showing them” how to feel so they, enertically may “put feelings into” their partner to make them experience those feelings, especially in a Psychic Conversation (that some people would call telepathic, but is technically slightly different, even though telepathy is more than possible. Just splitting hairs to avoid confusion later.) This is ABSOLUTELY NOT a sign of a True Emotion Mirror, anyone can do this to anyone if they like, and it is only a question of can that person block them out if they don’t like the feelings or not.
The Chaser feels they are showing their partner emotions, they feel they are liberating them from their suppression, when, in fact, the feelings aren’t quite mutual at all. The Chaser is fooling themselves on how the other person responds and does genuinely want to help them to reach the same highs as he or she is feeling, without realizing that person isn’t the type.
The Chaser is sexually frustrated, but may think this is meant to be for a reason or another, (the belief in True Emotion Mirrors is one reason), so they keep pursuing an obviously reluctant partner. If they figure it out that there are better things out there for them, they may easily let go and move on, and keep searching for a partner who is both able and willing to give them what they actually need.
The Chaser also thinks the mellow has experienced a sexual trauma that explains their reluctance and sexual hangups, but one of the more likely explanations is that they may not be in love with their partner or they might not be heterosexual at all even if they think they are. Also a common bad connection here is the very likely polyandrous male polygynous female dynamic which will completely ruin it for her, but not entirely for him, as he thinks not being that sexual is a part of being a woman.
A ‘mellow’ person is pestering a ‘passionate’ person for security and stability. (A mellow chaser, passionate runner)
This is my personal situation with my family and friends who think I am in the situation described above, so most of my early content, if you happened to read describes the difficulty of breaking the bond similar to this.)
So you’re the passionate one, who wants to pursue a passionate relationship with someone else. You want none of this mundane marriage business that your supposed True Emotion Mirror is proposing. You don’t even know why anyone would want something so boring, so you don’t take their concern too seriously, and it irritates you beyond any reason.
I believe one of the most common bonds of this nature is actually the connection to one’s parent, rather than an obsessive spouse, who feel a lot less obligated or within their rights to insist the bond must remain. In these hands, however, the belief in True Emotion Mirror type of a bond is dangerous, as it returns the idea of an unbreakable marriage – one that the other person doesn’t even have to agree to. However, it is still held as a societal ideal, that a mother never gives up on her children, no matter how damaging or toxic that relationship is.
So, the passionate one is trying to break this bond in order to find or return to their True Emotion Mirror. They want nothing more than experience passion, but the mellow people fear these passionate connections as they don’t understand what is good about them. Even in the case of the Active Partial Emotion Mirror being a passionate themselves, they may have experienced a sexual trauma in this lifetime or a previous one due to their passion, and they fear giving into it again and fear what might happen to their loved one if they allow them to follow their sexual passions. A suppressed passionate will behave much like a real mellow, so you won’t always know.
The problem here is to convince someone to act against their conviction of “never giving up” on a child, a marriage, or a parishioner, or whatever gives a person a sense of entitled responsibility over another adult person.
A ‘mellow’ person is relying on a non-compatible ‘mellow’ person for security and stability. (An Active Partial Emotion Mirror relationship.)
This is a very common relationship type and unlikely to cause a need of breaking it. However, if it happens not to be mutual, the key to breaking this is to point out the flaws in the other person, flaws being anything that makes them unstable or non-reliable.
This bond is not likely to be very difficult to break, as both people speak the same language and understand each other’s values and motivations, so they are most likely able to easily negotiate an end to the relationship.
Again, the more troublesome bond might be a mellow the Normal Person* thinking parent to a mellow the Savants* thinking child combination, which would be based on the idea that the child has to follow in the footsteps of the same gender parent, which the Savants* mellow rejects. However, the Savants* should work from the perspective of strategy to tell their parent why they have to change business ventures; “no longer profitable, times have changed, I would do better for myself and my family here”. An interesting variant of this unreleasing bond is the Normal Person* thinking mellow child and a Savants* mellow or passionate parent, who have strong ideas but who don’t even notice their child feels the inner, automatic need to conform and follow in their footsteps so they may offer guidance without thinking the child feels pressured to carry on the family tradition, while the parent feels there is no point for the child to ask him/her to be taught unless there’s a genuine interest toward the whatever the parent is doing. In this case, it is more likely that the parent feels frustrated and disappointed with the child who won’t try something new but is stuck with the same line of work as the parent, which, to a Savants* is always a worrying sign of an inability to think for oneself and chase one’s dreams.
A former partner refuses to let go
However, a much more alarming, but less common, I feel, relationship happens when an ex partner cannot comprehend the idea of a breakup and won’t leave the spouse alone. If they have managed to gain an access to the telepathic level, the consequences may be a bit disastrous.
Several values can hold this person under the belief they not only have a duty of holding on but every right to do so. These people are usually equated as being the former husband, but a more common problem these days, is an ex wife or a girlfriend who refuses to let go of their former male partner. This is, again, based on beliefs and ideals that they still get support for in the society; a husband should never leave their family, there is no wrath like a woman scorned, a man should be made responsible for his family – but all of these are a bit suggestive beliefs rather than a slogan, and women are still not treated as lunatics or abusers if they behave in this way, so they have more freedom of chasing than men do.
What would disguise this as a True Emotion Mirror bond is for them to gain access telepathically (it is rare but possible) or that they simply find the “the most intense soulmate connection possible/you’ve experienced” and put 3+8 together and get 2. If they hold this conviction, they can keep the chase up for an incredible long time, as they feel scared and alone without this other person.
A ‘passionate’ person is relying on a non-compatible ‘passionate’ person for high emotions. (Most likely a highly compatible Active Partial Emotion Mirror, a “Near Real”.)
This is probably the least bad of all possible connections, but also a difficult one to break, as it’s SO CLOSE to a True Emotion Mirror bond that it maybe difficult to give it up and go back into the world looking for something that will live up to this near perfect connection. This is where the passionate people are more than willing to settle at, as another string of mellow people terrifies them to no end.
If one partner has found a True Emotion Mirror connection, while the other one hasn’t, the one with no other options maybe very reluctant to believe that they have been outshone.
The passionate people should definitely consider polygamyORpolygynandry1 as a problem solver. I personally fully utterly support this idea, even though I am not 100% compatible with all my ‘husbands in spirit’, probably, not yet anyway, or, let’s just say that we are not at the Mature True Emotion Mirror Stage yet but believe if we can somehow piece this massive puzzle together we will be, but nonetheless, I feel no qualms about functioning as a safe haven for polyandrous men who are terrified of another round in the mellow world. I am more than happy to keep them happy while they see where they fit.
I fully, fully encourage women who are tempted to go openly polyandrous to do so, as men do need us more than what women need the polygynous men at this very moment in history. Us passionates are in need of each other to feel even remotely interested in staying alive, so it is very important we throw excess prudishness out the window and embrace who we are.
However, having said that, I don’t, at all, mean that all women should do this out of the sense of duty, good heavens no, all that would mean that instead of one man, you’d make several men unhappy and miserable, so don’t think you HAVE TO do this. This has to be one of those things you REALLY TRULY want to do and have waited your whole life to gain the courage to do something similar, dreaming about the profession of a prostitute or a stripper, rather than dreaming of a career as a real-estate agent!
The true sign of a polyandrous woman is that she is a bit easy, she loves men and sex with men, and that is the kind of girls who can at least provide first aid for our fellow passionates. Although going pro is one option, I fully encourage you to study the concept of polyandry, preferably with someone who also understands soul connections and true love and hasn’t simply turned cynical… I suggest my own writings on the topic.
For Passionate Polyandrous Males
A passionate male should ABSOLUTELY stop trying to coerse unwilling females to turn willing, it is such a massive waste of time. You should also become open about what you want, what you find erotic and sexy, and about all of your secret fantasies.
Women also have a huge stigma on fearing the whore label, that would prevent them from being truly loved or respected by a guy. That means they suppress this side of themselves, particularly the polyandrous women who love too many men and then have to break hearts when they conform to the expectation of monogamy.
The naturally polygynous women, who live under the expectation of monogamy, fear giving themselves up to a man they truly adore, because they are so used to being brushed aside after he finds another woman who he falls for. Similarly to naturally polyandrous men, too. These groups of people find it that they always fall for “the wrong man/woman” the one that everyone wants but who is “unable to form a true connection”. The polygynous women and polyandrous men are essentially monogamists as they truly have attention for ONE member of the opposite gender at one time, and they go blind for everyone else, where as the polygynous men and polyandrous women find it difficult to NOT love every member of the opposite sex no matter how much they try to fight it.
So, the polygynous women expect the relationship to a man to be difficult and trying, the same way as a polyandrous man expects. They both hate it, but they both try to subconsciously make their partner into what they really want… A whore, male or female, but when that happens, they freak out because the society hasn’t caught up yet.
To answer your question and to summarize
YES, it is possible to break ANY soulmate connection, but it is somewhat truly difficult to not love someone who is perfectly right for you, and stopping yourself is only self-denial that will pass eventually, in this lifetime or the next.
The way you break a True Emotion Mirror connection permanently, is to become a different person, for instance, to fully conform to the expectations of another person, and to become ‘theirs’. When a person is willing to fully fall for someone new, they can do that, despite an existing True Emotion Mirror connection, but it is rare that anyone would want to, as you’d have to also change who you are as a person.
It is very difficult – yet not impossible – to force someone else to change for you. A part of the target has to agree it is tempting or exciting to change into what is expected…. But yes. It is possible, but maybe extremely difficult.
How to break it
A simple answer to a complicated question is to become as self-aware as possible, and stop pretending to be something you are not. This will gradually turn your unwanted connections off you, and they’ll find you too distasteful to continue pursuing you. Aim for “too far gone”. Be as blatantly and obnoxiously you as you can, so that your unwanted connections no longer believe you are something to be proud of.
As a side project, you’ll become irresistible to your actual True Emotion Mirrors , at least after an adjustment period when you rebalance yourself from most likely a turbulent over-expression of who you truly are.
Depending on context. Some time ago, I used the term polygamy to mean either the generic concept of polygamous marriage or a MM+FF+ -type marriage or poly-committed relationship. ↩
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